Really disturbed by response to this horrible incident

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Recently I was at Kings Cross. On my way to meet a friend. When this middle aged guy saw me and said something along the lines of “oh my god how beautiful, her face”. The two younger guys who he was with had to physically restrain him ans he was trying to walk in my direction. And they honestly were struggling. They were maybe 10 metres away from me but I was genuinely afraid. I’m 27 and incredibly active but only 5 ft 3. I was surrounded by people but worried I was going to be groped. Plus I really don’t like drawing any attention whatsoever if I can help it. Naturally VERY shy.

Ive recounted this incident to three people (all women of varying ages) and they’ve all mentioned the part about me being called beautiful. Like it’s a compliment. Ie that should be the takeaway. The man was physically intimidating to me! I was genuinely scared I was going to be attacked.

I just find this response very very depressing. Would the women around you not express sympathy if you were to tell them of a similar encounter?

He did. With an accent

I would say he had MH issues. Still scary for you though.

Seriously! I’m sorry but now you’re being absolutely ridiculous! The guy sounds like he’s clearly mentally ill/disabled. I think you’re overdramatising the whole situation. Most people would have just walked on realising that he is unwell. This isn’t just in London as well for your information, I live in a large town outside the M25 and I’m regularly see mentally ill/disabled out with their carers. Unfortunately, they don’t behave what could be considered normally because they don’t know they aren’t.

I don’t know how anyone can make the determination from the little I said/observed that he had mh issues. Many men don’t know how to behave. Regardless of background.

Im not saying he didn’t. Maybe he did. But many men without mh issues behave inappropriately to women.

I get you were frightened, but it sounds like he was intellectually challenged or maybe early dementia which is why he had two carers out with him. The carers were likely to be family members.

I don’t think it’s that horrible of a situation actually. Nothing really happened to you.

Perhaps that is why sympathy has been lacking?

Without knowing if the person was clearly mentally ill in some way, simple, or similar it is hard to comment.

Younger guys with an older guy, who then restrained him while he was walking towards you. Honestly this screams guy with a serious disability that the two guys were aware of and was why he was with them. I doubt two members of the public would jump on someone while they walking towards you. Like maybe if they were centimetres from you and clearly about to cuddle you, jump you, kiss you or something, but not risk being convicted of GBH or assault just because a stranger might do something to another stranger. While I'm sorry it happened, I'd think no more of it. Sounds like a disabled person who would maybe have done something inappropriate being cared for appropriately.

I'd say the fact he was restrained by the two men with him points to him needing some sort of carers.

The fact that he was obviously being escorted by two other men who were alert enough to immediately restrain him means he struggles to go out independently, therefore he is not in good health or normal.

This was my thought also. Someone with no filter and blurts out what he is thinking, then 2 young me with him holding him back 🤔
I'm sorry you had that experience. I would have initially tried to find station staff on the platform, next option the call phone thing on the wall at platforms and next option, text the transport police.

I would have thought he had a learning disability or similar problem and as he was immediately stopped by his companions it wouldn't have worried me to any great extent.

Yoyr doing exactly the same
I m sorry this happened to you though its very unnerving.

Hmm I can see how you’ve interpreted it as such. But I don’t think there is enough info to make the determination.

I interpreted it differently. And assumed the men were his family members. Who possibly kniw this man is a pest.

In what way isn't this victim blaming? 🙄

I hate to say it but he was most likely from a country where men and women probably do not mix freely.

This is racist.

He was being restrained. They were struggling to restrain him. He was obviously very unwell indeed

Edit you were right to be scared and the fact that he thought you are beautiful is utterly irrelevant. He is almost certainly dangerous

It’s advice, not victim blaming! Don’t goad me.

I feel like there is a huge amount of information missing from this account which is making it hard to understand why the people with him leapt on him. For me, it’s that bit which sounds scary, rather than what he said (although that is weird. You’re entitled to feel how you feel but there’s a lot of information missing which might help people understand better

And perhaps at the train station because they were taking him to or from an appointment 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yet you’ve decided the man could not be English at all, by saying he is most likely from a country where men and women probably do not mix freely on far less information (none).

Loads of English people have “accents”

This. I don’t really get it. It’s never nice to feel intimidated but nothing happened to you.

Your doing exactly what you are accusing others off ,nobody knows ,wether he was just a pest or disabled or mentally ill but given two men immediately restrained him I would hazard a guess they were caring for him in some way.

It wasn't a compliment FFS, it made OP terrified (quite understandably). We need to stop minimising this kind of male behaviour - it makes women feel threatened and unsafe and there is no excuse for it.

OP, I'm really sorry that happened to you.

This is the most probable scenario.

“First of all, thank you for calling me pretty”

your friends are ditzy and spiritually undeveloped if they think unwanted advances are complimentary and a measure of attractiveness