Really disturbed by response to this horrible incident

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Recently I was at Kings Cross. On my way to meet a friend. When this middle aged guy saw me and said something along the lines of “oh my god how beautiful, her face”. The two younger guys who he was with had to physically restrain him ans he was trying to walk in my direction. And they honestly were struggling. They were maybe 10 metres away from me but I was genuinely afraid. I’m 27 and incredibly active but only 5 ft 3. I was surrounded by people but worried I was going to be groped. Plus I really don’t like drawing any attention whatsoever if I can help it. Naturally VERY shy.

Ive recounted this incident to three people (all women of varying ages) and they’ve all mentioned the part about me being called beautiful. Like it’s a compliment. Ie that should be the takeaway. The man was physically intimidating to me! I was genuinely scared I was going to be attacked.

I just find this response very very depressing. Would the women around you not express sympathy if you were to tell them of a similar encounter?

100% we should lock up people whose mental illness leads them to being violent. Too many people have been murdered by mentally ill men.

A lot of women are jealous of others and can be your friends as well. Being called beautiful when you’re scared by the person calling you it is not a compliment

We do ,thats why we have special hospitals and secure units
But we dont just lock them uo for being mentally ill.

You don't know everything. It's very common here and I live in a quiet village in the North East.

OP with kindness this man was not actually attacking you when the two men stopped him. If they were NOT his carers they assaulted him to possibly prevent him attacking you, on the assumption that he would. Without strong evidence that he would have done, they actually committed a violent aggressive act that will likely land them in prison with serious criminal records. Not to mention, they it isn't easy to restrain a grown man safely so they risked injuring themselves or injuring him and potentially getting them in way more trouble.

While obviously only the man himself or the men with him can actually say who they are or what he is like, the fact that the 2 men were happy enough to stop him even though he wasn't actually hurting you, without being put off by the risk of serious injury or legal repercussions, is PLENTY of evidence to say it is extremely likely they were his carers and were aware this might happen and had training to deal with it and legal backing to be fairly confident they wouldn't end up in prison for assault or GBH if they did.

Absolutley, we also can’t keep them locked up indefinitely so need to check whether they’re able to be safe in the community.

It's certainly not a compliment on that man's part, but having two carers with him meant you really weren't likely to be at risk. Plus in Kings Cross Station, it's very public, there are usually police very nearby etc. I'm sorry you were frightened though, erratic behaviour like that can be very disconcerting.

I wouldn't think that was racism. It may be presumptious, but certainly not racist.