I squirted my hungover husband in the face with water

[Hormonallyblessed]

Im 8 weeks pregnant with DC #3 and really struggling with pregnancy sickness, tiredness and headaches - i agreed my DH could go out last night with work colleagues for his leaving do while i picked up DCs, took them swimming, fed and bathed them and put them to bed (and cleaned up then straight to bed myself).
He got back drunk at 1am and didnt get up in the night when 1 DC fell out of bed and then when the other DC needed covers pulled up then later wet themselves. All this i can deal with.
This morning kids wanted to get up at 6am and DH completely refused to get up. Said he wasnt getting up and to leave him alone. I said no way he had to get up with us as im on the verge of vomiting and he needs to be with us to help. He kept refusing. Kids tried to get him up he refused. Told us to fuck off etc. So I took my Evian water bottle and squirted his face and upper back while he was in bed. This made him sit up (he was furious) but he then lay back down so i squirted him again and said id keep doing it until he got up. He did then get up.
I'm not planning to apologise. Was this unreasonable?!

Awful. You sound like you can’t stand him. What a horrible way to live.

You agreed, does he need your permission to do a lot of things? It sounds like he doesn't go out very often, I would have just left him to it, rather that than have him see to the kids while still under the influence.

🤣 didn't you suggest the OP got an abortion in your first post because her DH dared to go to his own leaving do?

I can't actually take any of your comments seriously so evian bottled water of a ducks back.

Agree if this was a reverse post and OP had been out (with permission too for his own leaving party, what a partnership) had a hangover which I’m assuming isn’t a regular occurrence, and her DH was throwing go water in her face, the pitchfork brigade would be screaming at her to get her ducks in a row.

Unless there is a backstory, he wasn’t able to get up as he had a hangover. It’s hardly neglectful parenting surely? The kids were with mum who was knackered but shit me, this happens. You just put him on wake up duty the next day.

Hang on what, it'll be OP's fault if he does something worse because she keeps hassling him? Wow.

Is he out all the time? If not then I’d have left him- you said it was fine for him to go!
Plus it was his leaving do, why couldn’t he have had a drink? Also, it’s Friday- are the kids not in school/ nursery?
Ive been pregnant, many women have- it doesn’t mean life stops

She sounds like she hates him so what a way to live!

It was pretty awful to tell his kids to F off but still, OP has acted just as awfully if not worse

Errrr no, that wasn't me. I did not suggest she should get an abortion.

I can 100% see you're in a hard situation OP. However, I don't think it's reasonable. Because things are only going to escalate aren't they? I think you need to talk rationally about the problem of his lack of childcare, or perhaps his drinking, and make a plan if you are to stay together and have a good relationship.

Why do 2 parents need to get up at 6am to look after DC, who are clearly able to understand and follow instructions from OP to wake their father up? Clearly they're not babies.

OP could make DC cereal/toast and allow them some TV time/play with toys whilst she lays on the couch and deals with her pain. Literally no need to force a hungover partner up at 6am.

OP clearly jealous and wants everyone else to suffer. Pathetic behaviour.

My gut is telling me that this is exactly how you wanted it to go. You 'agreed' for him to go to 'his own leaving do'.. which likely led him to believe he could let his hair down as you've been so 'agreeable'.

You then provoke him and include your kids in this by waking him - I am assuming by your controlling attitude that this would've been done in a very chaotic way. He's been pushed and snapped telling you all to 'fuck off'... I am sure he feels bad about this, but who hasn't been pushed to their limits?

You then decide it's acceptable to squirt him with water, presumably in front on your children. You are absolutely vile. It was 6am after he had his leaving do - jesus, give the man a break. If this was reversed and he treated you this way, everyone would be calling him a loser and abuser for not being able to cope with his children without you.

You are a loser and an abuser. I feel sorry for your poor children because they will likely grow up to be the same as you!

No, telling your own kids to fuck off is not a million times better than squirting water on another adult. Both are shit. It’s not the kids fault their parents are idiots, they don’t deserve to be sworn at like that.

How childish are you, I would never ever expect hubby to have his once a month night out and expect him to get up early. Your way unreasonable, your other half did nothing wrong and if you can't cope being pregnant and sick and have the other kids around then you shouldn't have any more because I've got way more and would never do what you did, or get annoyed after an agreed night out the next morning.

Huh?
When you have young children to look after early in the morning you shouldn't get really drunk and go to bed so late that you can't look after them properly. Why is that controversial?
When I split from my XH I was 30 and DS was 2. I used to leave him with XH on a Friday night and go clubbing and then pick him up at 9 so he could go to work. One Saturday I nearly caused an accident that could have killed DS. I never ever drank that much and stayed up late before being in sole charge of him again. It's embarrassing that it took that lesson to teach me but there you are. Parenting small children isn't compatible with drinking half the night.

As others have said, you are clearly vile and abusive. But what is most concerning is that if this is what you are happy to come online and boast about, thinking you were clever, this must be just the tip of the iceberg. I dread to think what else yon do, especially to your children who can’t fight back.

I hope that social services are able to trace you and rescue your children from you.

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He’s a twat for telling his children to fuck off and you are well on your way to becoming a single mum of three. You both need to do better by your children.

This sums it up

And you’re having a 3rd child with this man ?????

No, sorry, that was a different poster. I got muddled because you quoted the sarcasm post and were in defence of the abortion poster. (Not about the abortion)

Him telling you all to fuck off isn’t ok but squirting him with water and wanting someone to care for dc while under the influence isn’t ok either.

I’m sure that you feel very tired and very unwell but you both need to sort yourselves out.

Only on batshit middle class Mumsnet is squirting someone with a bit of water 'assault'. Batshit fucken crazy. Clearly so privileged they have no idea what actual assault actually is.

Ah yes, let's have social services remove the kids, far less trauma than mum and dad having a 6am argument

What a shit show.