I squirted my hungover husband in the face with water

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Im 8 weeks pregnant with DC #3 and really struggling with pregnancy sickness, tiredness and headaches - i agreed my DH could go out last night with work colleagues for his leaving do while i picked up DCs, took them swimming, fed and bathed them and put them to bed (and cleaned up then straight to bed myself).
He got back drunk at 1am and didnt get up in the night when 1 DC fell out of bed and then when the other DC needed covers pulled up then later wet themselves. All this i can deal with.
This morning kids wanted to get up at 6am and DH completely refused to get up. Said he wasnt getting up and to leave him alone. I said no way he had to get up with us as im on the verge of vomiting and he needs to be with us to help. He kept refusing. Kids tried to get him up he refused. Told us to fuck off etc. So I took my Evian water bottle and squirted his face and upper back while he was in bed. This made him sit up (he was furious) but he then lay back down so i squirted him again and said id keep doing it until he got up. He did then get up.
I'm not planning to apologise. Was this unreasonable?!

Why on earth do you keep having children together when you don't even like each other?

YANBU to be angry and frustrated with him. But the only thing you wanted to achieve by squirting him with water was to express your anger with him. Thats textbook abusive behaviour and not ok. You need a proper discussion when he's not hungover and you're not angry

that's abuse, OP, and you know you were being unreasonable.

His leaving do, you must have suspected he was going to be a bit cauliflowered when he came home.

In those cases you suck it up and then you go to bed and leave him with the kids when he wakes up.

You’re not allowed to go out for drinks at a works leavers do because you have kids??

Wow what a sad life you must lead!!

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Well said.

Perfect example of parenting by both of you……….NOT! What kind of message is that sending out to your DC ffs!

There's a difference between going out for drinks after work and getting so hammered you can't get up with your kids the next day.

I have said YANBU as he shouldn't have told you and the kids to fuck off, although the water bottle was a little far. Sorry but he's an adult and a parent and should pick up some of the slack!

He went out. He’s got a hangover. Just leave him.

“It wouldn’t just be water” - you’re lovely aren’t you. I hope in that case you’re single because you are just as abusive (if not worse) than the original poster. Yet I bet if the shoe was on the other foot, you’d say he is abusive and she needs to leave. Double fucking standards, have a day off.

Oh okay 🙄 so if someone in the street or a colleague at work continuously squirted you in the face with water you’d think nothing of it. Stop being so ridiculous

But it was EVIAN; the choice liquid of the middle class abuser. Much more palatable than a Fruit Shoot

Those poor children having to witness all this.

So what's your opinion on OP's husband telling his young kids to fuck off, then?

there is a difference with going out for your friday night after work sundowner and your own leaving do.

To which OP munificently "agreed" he could attend. FFS

One child fell out of bed
one child needed their covers pulling back up / on

how old are your children to need such help during the night / what are they sleeping in to fall out of bed

You agreed he could go out in the evening to his own leaving do

HE told you and the children to f off ? really ? he used that language to his own children ?!!! wow you married a Prince !

you squirted him with water - really ? do you mean you splashed him or threw water at him - how childish and petty

I am rather surprised the two of you have lasted long enough to have 3 children together.

Those poor kids didn't ask to live in that mess. You're so unreasonable.

Early pregnancy and morning sickness are shit. BUT

You say it was his leaving do so I'm assuming from that this is rare/a one off (if it's not that's a whole different story).

You agreed he would go out and despite the best intentions, if it's his leaving do his colleagues will be buying him drinks all night and by the time he's had a few he will have lost track of how much he's had/what a state he's in.

Is he starting a new job on Monday? If so I think he can be forgiven for letting his hair down and time to recover so he's fresh for the new job.

If he's that hungover he'll be worse than useless anyway, so why bother?

You missed an opportunity here, you could have left him to bed rot and claimed a favour back later, now all you've got is resentment.

If a woman came on here and said a man did this, everyone would be saying it's abuse, LTB.

You weren't unreasonable to expect him to get up, but you were very unreasonable to do that.

It was 6am!

If he was refusing to get up by midday, fair point. But at 6am? After a special occasion?

Two people can be wrong at the same time you know?? People generally attract someone similar to them, so that makes sense.

God I'm glad not to be one of your poor kids in the middle of all this.

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Squirting someone with water (twice may I add) IS abusive and is classed as assault! What is wrong with you.