I squirted my hungover husband in the face with water

[Hormonallyblessed]

Im 8 weeks pregnant with DC #3 and really struggling with pregnancy sickness, tiredness and headaches - i agreed my DH could go out last night with work colleagues for his leaving do while i picked up DCs, took them swimming, fed and bathed them and put them to bed (and cleaned up then straight to bed myself).
He got back drunk at 1am and didnt get up in the night when 1 DC fell out of bed and then when the other DC needed covers pulled up then later wet themselves. All this i can deal with.
This morning kids wanted to get up at 6am and DH completely refused to get up. Said he wasnt getting up and to leave him alone. I said no way he had to get up with us as im on the verge of vomiting and he needs to be with us to help. He kept refusing. Kids tried to get him up he refused. Told us to fuck off etc. So I took my Evian water bottle and squirted his face and upper back while he was in bed. This made him sit up (he was furious) but he then lay back down so i squirted him again and said id keep doing it until he got up. He did then get up.
I'm not planning to apologise. Was this unreasonable?!

We don’t know he couldn’t patent the next day just at 6am.

A possible one of during the term of a pregnancy of DH attending his own leaving party and getting home late a bit drunk doesn’t really indicate an issue to me. I’m out this evening with some girlfriends and will probably be out to a similar time and drinking. And yes DH will get up tomorrow am and sort DD and the dog. I don’t even work and he works full time. Guessing that makes me crap mum 🙂

Of course if OP could actually return and reply to the thread and maybe give some more background that would be helpful. Perhaps her phone got wet when chucking water at DH?

trying to avoid getting pinged by the TG by talking about me and calling me names in the third person isn't big or clever.

It was 6am!!!!!

If this happened at 9am, others would agree but not at 6am when he'd been given the all clear from his wife.

Surely if OPs morning sickness is so debilitating then this would have merited a conversation about perhaps DH having a belated leaving party later? Or they could have looked at kids having a sleepover with grandparents or relatives/friends?

Just a suggestion but better than allowing him a night out then acting in such a nasty passive aggressive way.

What a clown show.

You both sound horrific, do the world a favour and just split up.

Both of you sound as bad as each other. And another child getting brought into the world who will end up emotionally damaged by their childhood.

OP isn't coming back to the thread, because they're a dump and run poster. There's been a few lately. Annoyed i got sucked in yesterday, but i'm not going to bother responding again.

You had the capability of typing that, you have the capability of googling it yourself. Don’t act dumb.

Agree with this.

Yeah... That's not okay OP.

Presumably, you were happy enough to have child 1... then child 2... and now child 3...

Using the third person when you are not speaking directly to a person, or speaking about yourself is grammatically correct. Ascribing an ulterior motive to that is as much of a stretch as your other posts have been.
As is misrepresenting my reference to misogyny and male rights activism as 'calling you names'.
A level of exaggeration that typifies your other comments on the thread.

'... absolutely no indication that alcohol is the reason ...'

The title of the thread literally says "my hungover husband"!

And at 6am she had already been up twice with one child falling out of bed and the other wetting the bed, along with pregnancy tiredness, sickness and headaches in her life if not at that moment too. Oh the poor man.

Women stick up for men or turn a blind eye to their misdemeanours or believe their excuses and then things like this keep happening or worse!

honestly this thread has opened my eyes to how many women hate other women and will do anything to justify men’s behaviour.

Yup. Man goes on drunken piss up, knowing his wife is pregnant, struggling and they have young kids, then becomes abusive to his children and pregnant wife when expected to fulfil his basic parenting duty the next morning, because he chose to get himself into such a state he wanted to lie around dumping her with everything the next day.

Woman squirts water on him after his abusive behaviour.

Manpanderers outraged.

Yup. Alll of the heroes and martyrs are out in force on this thread.

Yepppp, I thought I was going crazy yesterday with the sheer volume of messages from women bending over backwards to paint another woman as an abuser and justify a man’s poor behaviour.

THIS
I think it’s cause they’re stuck

Again, all the defending comments have been from people saying that if they -the wife- wanted a night out, their DH - the husband - would be the one getting up at 6am, as promised, and wouldn't dream of trying to wake their sleeping wife (drunk or not) if they had had a night out/late night.

Fuck all to do with defending men. Everything to do with equal balance in relationships, respecting your spouse and not changing the conditions once you've made arrangements.

If you can't see the abuse in the OPs reaction, I would hazard a guess you've never had a healthy relationships where you can both take turns with childcare/domestic chores/time to yourself.

If a woman chooses to do chores that’s her choice, it’s not abuse if she wants to do that 🙄 Every house hold has their own set up. Maybe the husband brings in the money and she does the chores. As long as the husband is doing something for the household and it works for both that’s all that matters.

it is ABUSE when a father tells his kids to F off and who knows what else. (As a lot goes hand in hand with that behaviour)

I wouldn't enforce 'taking turns' when one is suffering pregnancy tiredness, sickness and headaches while the other fancies getting pissed.

Also depends on the set up. If the husband is working all day and the wife isn’t (for example) why should he do chores, etc. And vice versa of course.

It was a special occasion. And we don’t know he was ‘pissed’.
Again. If it had been 9am the answers would be different. And the OP was well enough to start a massive argument so I’m going to hazard a guess that lying on the sofa watching children’s telly with the kids for a couple of hours wouldn’t have been beyond her.

as I’ve asked many people trying to reverse this, would the husband be pregnant and suffering with morning sickness in your scenario?