I squirted my hungover husband in the face with water

[Hormonallyblessed]

Im 8 weeks pregnant with DC #3 and really struggling with pregnancy sickness, tiredness and headaches - i agreed my DH could go out last night with work colleagues for his leaving do while i picked up DCs, took them swimming, fed and bathed them and put them to bed (and cleaned up then straight to bed myself).
He got back drunk at 1am and didnt get up in the night when 1 DC fell out of bed and then when the other DC needed covers pulled up then later wet themselves. All this i can deal with.
This morning kids wanted to get up at 6am and DH completely refused to get up. Said he wasnt getting up and to leave him alone. I said no way he had to get up with us as im on the verge of vomiting and he needs to be with us to help. He kept refusing. Kids tried to get him up he refused. Told us to fuck off etc. So I took my Evian water bottle and squirted his face and upper back while he was in bed. This made him sit up (he was furious) but he then lay back down so i squirted him again and said id keep doing it until he got up. He did then get up.
I'm not planning to apologise. Was this unreasonable?!

Probably not the best move but he sounds like a knob.

Hope you start to feel better soon

Right back at you 💐

i'm aware i'm biased as a DV survivor..

However in this situation i have literally been on both sides of this experience. I know how HORRIBLE it is to be doused in water by someone trying to force you out of bed.. and i know what its like to be told to fuck off when trying to wake someone up.

I still retain my opinion that the water dousing is a whole lot worse, having been on the receiving end of both.

again it’s unclear why you refer to dousing unless you were there and can therefore say op did not actually squirt him as she suggests. i’ll reiterate that the sweating is worse as it was directed at the children (but I’m sure you’ll say that’s OP’s fault too)

she took an evian bottle, and squirted him in the face and back. then did it again.

Have you ever tried to squirt one of those bottles? I assure you, it isn't a teeny weeny dribble. He'll have been wet.

I'm not sure why you're so determined to argue the semantics on the amount of water?

We can all disagree and fall out with each other but the one question is…..
where is the OP? Is the hubby out of bed yet? Have the kids gone to therapy yet? Has she restocked on Evian water or chose Aldi?

OP, don’t leave us without a conclusion!

have a wonderful Friday evening everyone, grab a alcoholic drink of your choice and sit back

Because you keep using over exaggerated language and it’s obviously for a reason

This didn't happen so much it unhappened things that did happen.

I am speaking from experience! Both my husband and I go out and have fun and always have hangovers it just how we are! Even if we don’t drink a lot we assume we will want a lie in the next day. I am not saying everyone is the same but I guess this is how we deal with it! I expect him to not be around the next morning for early wake ups etc and vice versa!

Aww come on, it’s not like she squirted him with acid, it was water and he will be fine.

@Hormonallyblessed you don’t deserve the pile on you’ve been getting here and the people making out that your children are not safe. Fair enough, probably shouldn’t have done what you did but it was in response to his horrible behaviour.

really hope your sickness subsides soon, your husband should be helping you, not telling you and the kids to fuck off. He’s a twat

No she is being accurate. The OP is minimising.

What reason do you think is so obvious? You're projecting.

Several things I got from this. I agreed he could go out for his leaving do at work! I wouldn’t be looking for permission if this was my leaving do & I wouldn’t expect my husband to want my consent either. We don’t own each other. We have a mutual agreement. I wouldn’t have expected him to get up, You sound very controlling. I hope he doesn’t treat you in the same way

Pouring water on a drunk equals abuse now? Lmao.

So he had to beg your permission for you to care for your own kids for one night and then you abused him when he wouldn’t get up at the crack of dawn the next morning? Because you felt a bit sick?

Same here. The hungover parent gets a lie in whilst the other takes the kids out. I would take mine for breakfast at a cafe & the park if it was raining the cinema. Then when home the hungover parent would take over and allow the other a few hours to chill out. I would have a bath & then we’d most likely order a takeaway and snuggle on the sofa.

A drunk?
And yes, crimes don’t change based on who they are committed on.

No. He went out for his leaving do and enjoyed a drink or 10.

he is not a drunk…. That insinuates all sorts of other things

What bit of "agreed he could go out" and "his leaving do" did you miss. Hay 6 o'clock tomorrow morning I'll come and squirt water in your face and see what your reaction is...I bet it starts with f.

Sorry but if your partner said I m charging jobs, I'm going for a drink would he be happy to be woken at 6 splashed with water, would you?

do you call everyone who is drunk 'A Drunk'?

Being drunk and being A Drunk are two very different things.

Absolutely! She started the abuse when she tried to wake him up at 6am after knowing and agreeing to being out with his collegues for his leaving do and having a drink. She has morning sickness but this does not justify what she did. Imagine a man telling a woman after a night out with the girls to get up at 6am it would be uproar. He did say to fuck off which is not nice but juatifiable in the circumstances, I would have reacted exactly the same sorry to say. If he would then squirt me with water I would divorce. Not because there is any injury from some water, is the total lack of respect. Morning sickness does not justify this behaviour, pregnant women hold full time jobs with morning sickness. Whoever says man shouldn't be out at all having a drink with colleagues for leaving a place of work are either lying to suit their narrative or either controlling nightmares, I can not immagine being in such relationship.

THIS! <3

would you do all of this while struggling with morning sickness and early pregnancy exhaustion?

If it was planned for a one-off, special celebration like this, absolutely.
Every weekend for a waster, God no.

Yours was a wonderful response to his deliberately abusive, selfish choices. Well done.

I’m not sure I’d manage the cinema while having to get up and vomit, might fall asleeep in the comfy cinema chairs though