Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

[28loloie]

So I’m not sure if I’m over reacting.

DD is 6 months old, I haven’t left her alone with anyone properly yet, I’ve left her with DH while I go a walk but the longest I’ve been away from her until yesterday was maybe an hour.

Yesterday I went to brunch without DD for a few hours, it was my friends birthday and I really wanted to go. DH said he would have DD and invited a few of his friends who I don’t know super well (they live in the city so we don’t meet them often) to keep him company.

I got back yesterday afternoon, his friends were still there. I asked how everything had gone and DH told me he had to nip out for an hour as his little sister needed dropped to A&E, so he left DD with his friends. Apparently she was fine. 1 of his friends is female, 2 were male. He reckons he was gone for just over an hour and his friends said that they gave her a bottle but other than that she was happy just getting cuddled.

We have never left DD with someone who wasn’t me or DH before. I always figured our parents would be the first people we left DD with. I don’t know these friends and while I’m sure it was fine, I can’t feel certain that they are good people. DH thinks I’m over reacting, she was perfectly safe. I feel he made a unilateral decision which could have been easily avoided if he just took DD with him.

AIBU to feel he shouldn’t have done this.

It wasn't your decision. It was his. Surely he's allowed to make that call?

Exactly!

I was probably in a similar position to OP in terms of the amount my DC were left with either DH alone (rarely) or with anyone else (never) below the age of one. That had absolutely nothing at all to do with any agreement or moral objection to doing so, it was just the way things worked out.

This is literally all that needs to be said on the subject.

I wasn’t “sneering at braincells”. I was pointing out that for anyone who had more than 2 braincells and who had read the thread there was only one possible interpretation.

yes, and in the thread the OP says she's actually met them a few times.

It feels like there are people on here who just want to upset the Op. And make her think her DH did something horrific.

He did the absolute best thing he could do. He left the baby 👶 in safe hands people he'd known for years and people he trusted. They even managed to make sure baby was fed and changed before Op got home.

Language is the reason Op doesn't really know these friends. But you know what she came home to a happy baby and thats all she needs to know. DH trusted them. They proved him right.
I won't minimise it must have been a shock to find out he'd left, he 100% did the right thing, but they are friends who are worth getting to know. Because we all know good friends are priceless.

So what you’re saying is you can’t leave you and your DH’s baby with anyone he doesn’t know for any amount of time, no matter the situation?