Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

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So I’m not sure if I’m over reacting.

DD is 6 months old, I haven’t left her alone with anyone properly yet, I’ve left her with DH while I go a walk but the longest I’ve been away from her until yesterday was maybe an hour.

Yesterday I went to brunch without DD for a few hours, it was my friends birthday and I really wanted to go. DH said he would have DD and invited a few of his friends who I don’t know super well (they live in the city so we don’t meet them often) to keep him company.

I got back yesterday afternoon, his friends were still there. I asked how everything had gone and DH told me he had to nip out for an hour as his little sister needed dropped to A&E, so he left DD with his friends. Apparently she was fine. 1 of his friends is female, 2 were male. He reckons he was gone for just over an hour and his friends said that they gave her a bottle but other than that she was happy just getting cuddled.

We have never left DD with someone who wasn’t me or DH before. I always figured our parents would be the first people we left DD with. I don’t know these friends and while I’m sure it was fine, I can’t feel certain that they are good people. DH thinks I’m over reacting, she was perfectly safe. I feel he made a unilateral decision which could have been easily avoided if he just took DD with him.

AIBU to feel he shouldn’t have done this.

I've had that with Satnav too. And house numbers aren't always clear.
That's exactly what I mean. I nearly always end up phoning to find the correct house.

Lots of you really don't trust your husbands or their judgement. Maybe don't marry someone who you think can't look after a baby (and possibly hangs out with children abusers)

What exactly could have gone wrong with the baby?

car rides with unsupported broken bones can be agony. I’d be highly surprised if a child was silent and didn’t need any support.

I'll say it for the trilionth time.

Whether we undertand the reasons or not the op and her dh had agreed not to leave their dc with others. He overrode that and it is understandable that the op was pissed off about it. We all have phones, we don't need to send out telegrams via the postman or anything.

There's still NOTHING in the posts that says they " agreed"

And for the trillionth time from the other side...

It was an emergency!

There is no reason to think the DH would have left the baby with friends to pop to the shops, or to nip out for a drink or any other normal situation. But in an emergency, you have to make a quick decision and friends you've known your entire life who have experience with large families and babies, are a perfectly safe solution.

You're just making things up now. How embarrassing for you

repeating untrue information a ‘trillion’ times doesn’t make it true though. OP just said she’d never left baby and that SHE figured when she did it would be with her parents. No talk of a big discussion or agreement.

I picked you up on this the other day, where does OP say this that you keep making up?

You didnt answer

Where does the op say this?

And no matter what was or wasn't agreed nobody predicted the wee sister, falling and needing urgent medical help.

If it had been the other way round Op was home with friends and her mum needed an urgent lift, what would she have done?
Held off until baby was fed and changed or left baby with friends and gone to help her mum?

If the DH had complained he'd have been called a controlling arse.

This such a bonkers thread. Anybody with 2 brain cells who has actually read the thread can see that the OP has the right to feel a bit shaken by this. However, anyone with two braincells who has read the thread can also see that the baby’s father was dealing with an emergency and did the best possible thing in the circumstances. It’s as simple as that.

'We have never left DD with someone who wasn’t me or DH before'
I mean i presume he knows they've never left the dc with anyone but some dads can be hopeless so who knows.

This isnt what you claim

Where does OP say they agreed (in italics) not to leave the child with anyone else?

Yes but that’s not agreeing. It’s probably just never come up as that’s been the first emergency when one person wasn’t there

Take you nuance and your balanced viewpoints elsewhere!

For the quadrillionth time, stop exaggerating.

That is NOT saying they had agreed not to leave their child with anyone. It's just saying the situation hadn't arisen. You can't plan for unplanned emergencies.

There is absolutely nothing in any of her posts to suggest that they had agreed not to leave their child. You have just decided that is the case to support your narrative and push on the idea that the OPs husband is a bad dad.
It's pathetic.

Sorry what, we're sneering at 'braincells' not a halfwit parent who disregarded their spouse completely to do an 'emergency' dash with a minor injury leaving their dc with folk the dc had never clapped eyes on before. Riiight

Again with the dramatics! And the fiction!
He is not a halfwit parent who disregarded his spouse.
He was a responsible parent who responded to an emergency in an appropriate manner.
We get that you’d do it differently and that’s fine. But that doesn’t mean your way is the only way.

Please tell us where the op tells us he disregarded her, and where she says the baby has never met them?

She doesn't, so you're just making more shit up again.

The title of the thread is as follows

Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

The actual question being:

"Was it reasonable of DH to leave our 6 month old child with friends of his for an hour who he has known all this life to ensure that his badly hurt 11 year old sister could get the help she needed as quickly as possible?"

To which the only sane answer is:

"Yes, of course that's reasonable".

But she also goes on to say she has met them. She just doesn’t know them very well.
The child’s other parent has known them since he was a toddler so they aren’t strangers to the family.