AIBU… invite to the wedding

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My nephew has invited myself, my partner, my teenage son but NOT my partner’s teenage son to his wedding. I feel really irritated by it.. I’ve clarified the invite and it’s not a mistake but haven’t asked why my ‘stepson’ has been excluded. I need to reply in the next week!!

You might consider yourself a family but your boyfriend's son is definitely not your nephews family.
You're lucky your DP was invited tbh it could just as easily have been NRNB and just you and your actual son on the invite.

I get where you’re coming from OP. It’s important in blended families, where you’re all living together, that you’re dealt with as a package. Both boys are still children at 17. It would obviously be different if your dps son was an adult, but he isn’t.

Sure 👍🏻

Can’t you read?

Oh come on. It’s a matter of months!

Appalling etiquette faux-pas on behalf of the B&G.

Aside from that, I'm struggling to imagine a scenario in which any 17 year-old young man would be yearning to attend a wedding.

I would reply “ since the invite was not made to our whole family we feel it would be unfair to “ your step sons name “ .
wish you all the best ….

Etiquette is perfectly fine. Generous in fact, as unmarried partner is invited.
Groom has likely known OPs son since he was a baby, whether or not they chat much now.
OPs partner's son moved in with OP when he was 14(?) and groom was probably an adult, way past the "playing with your cousins" stage. OPs partner's son is effectively a stranger to bride and groom

Lol

When you say nobody, you mean nobody you know . At my wedding I had my mum’s first husband and his new wife. I don’t see family as blood only, and I would absolutely invite my step cousin to a wedding - especially if he lived in the same house as my ‘actual cousin’. Like I said he doesn’t have to , but she asks if she’s unreasonable to feel a little miffed and I think she’s hurt on his behalf which is sweet on my opinion.

And they'd probably say "who?"

If anyone replies that then clearly they are not close family so no harm done ?

There are millions of 'unmarried' partners these days. It would be bloody rude for people to not invite their relative's long-term partner.

we have different view on this. No big deal. I am just done having conversation about it with you here. I dont need you to agree with my point of view so it is a waste of time for both of us now.

Get a life.

It isn’t about a viewpoint. It’s about facts. The OP has already had the conversation with her nephew; that’s not something either of us can have a viewpoint about. It happened.

Profound Debs, really deep. But also provides an opportunity for education: yes, I will get MYSELF a life! (As in, I can do it to / for myself).

That would also be my guess!

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Married or not he is her stepson & part of her household & family. To leave him out is wrong & basically an insult to blended families who live together. If her stepson was a younger child who lived with her as part of the family unit & her nephew left him out would people say that's ok just get a baby sitter 🤔Unbelievable.

He’s not a stepson if they are not married.

Unmarried couples can call themselves husband and wife. It may not be in a legal sense but socially they can be described as such. He may not be a stepson legally but it's a social designation he is entitled to.

But he isn’t younger. He’s nearly 18; he doesn’t need a babysitter. There’s no point in asking what would happen if he was a six year-old girl dreaming of being a bridesmaid, because he isn’t. He’s in his late teens and has had a couple of polite conversations with the groom at family parties.

No, it isn’t.

Yes if we were talking about a 6 year old rather than someone who might be an adult by the time the wedding happens, it would be a different thread. There isn't even any indication that OPs partner's son considers himself to be a DSS either.