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The risk of this happening will see a rise of men getting disgruntled

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MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 08:24

when they try to talk to woman and get the silent treatment

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cr7jej2elyyo

Dilara has long reddish hair.

Women filmed in secret for TikTok content - then harassed online

So-called manfluencers wearing smart glasses approach women and then post videos to TikTok.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cr7jej2elyyo

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MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 12:06

CurlewKate · 24/01/2026 11:58

Well, if you’re a woman you’re even more of a disgrace than I thought you were.

And what do you believe I am disgraceful for?

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MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 12:08

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 24/01/2026 12:05

Really? how did you come to this conclusion? I've never had a penis or wanted one and have female on my birth certificate

Another poster (not me) said you were? And it fits with your views on this thread?

and what do you perceive my views on this thread to be?

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Brefugee · 24/01/2026 12:09

I don't care.

When something is scarce - in this case, women's company for lonely men - it's price goes up. The price of having female companionship is for men to pull their fucking fingers out and treat women like human beings. Better in fact.

Until then: they are not nearly lonely enough.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 24/01/2026 12:13

and what do you perceive my views on this thread to be?

I don't know, they're as clear as mud. The whole title The risk of this happening will see a rise of men getting disgruntled seems to be trying to scare women. Why are you doing that?

Brefugee · 24/01/2026 12:14

just fyi there has been an issue in Germany (where we have mixed, nude saunas) of women being filmed covertly.

And now the parliament is trying how to work out how to make it illegal. So fuck men. Other men can take this on. I DGAF if their manly feelings are hurt, or they live sad lonely lives in basements wanking to instagram.

Men can sort this. Until which i will match men's rudeness to me ounce for ounce.

Beachtastic · 24/01/2026 12:15

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 12:08

and what do you perceive my views on this thread to be?

I think most PPs have missed what you wrote under your thread title:

when they try to talk to woman and get the silent treatment

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 12:20

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 24/01/2026 12:13

and what do you perceive my views on this thread to be?

I don't know, they're as clear as mud. The whole title The risk of this happening will see a rise of men getting disgruntled seems to be trying to scare women. Why are you doing that?

I'm not trying to scare other women

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Brefugee · 24/01/2026 12:21

perhaps women should all have covert cameras about their person at all times, and film, like a dashcam in your car?
and on the occasions you have a bad interaction with a man, you save the footage?

I have thought this for a while. I have a dashcam "just in case" and have never had to use the footage for proof of anything. But it may be useful sometime. I'm a glasses wearer, maybe i'll investigate these.

GCSEBiostruggles · 24/01/2026 12:24

Brefugee · 24/01/2026 12:21

perhaps women should all have covert cameras about their person at all times, and film, like a dashcam in your car?
and on the occasions you have a bad interaction with a man, you save the footage?

I have thought this for a while. I have a dashcam "just in case" and have never had to use the footage for proof of anything. But it may be useful sometime. I'm a glasses wearer, maybe i'll investigate these.

You could do a daily montage of the ragey drivers and staring at women half their age we all witness and other poor behaviour we have to deal with.

SerendipityJane · 24/01/2026 12:30

Haven't RTFT but people should remember why smart glasses failed last time.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Google_Glass

The problem is - like "AI" - so much money has been sunk into this shite that people won't be allowed to make it fail this time. (See also "X" and "AI").

I really suggest people make their peace with this as they will not be able to stop it this time. Big business has already got it's plan in place and our role is to comply. Good luck trying to hold out.

Google Glass - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Google_Glass

StCuntyMcCunterson · 24/01/2026 12:38

Some people have taken completely the wrong meaning of your post. They either struggle with basic comprehension or live to be offended.

i was aware people were filming using these glasses but unaware of how prevalent it is or how many see the video. It’s disgusting. It’s basic manners to ask for consent surely? Obviously there is a massive difference to revenge porn but I feel this should have the same restrictions.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 24/01/2026 12:43

I'm not trying to scare other women

So why should women care if it makes men disgruntled that random women will not speak to them? Why should normal men care that random women don't want to speak to them?

I think it's great if more women decide not to engage with random men. And men need to get over it.

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 12:46

So why should women care

where have I written that woman should care?

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Zov · 24/01/2026 12:48

cartagenagina · 24/01/2026 11:56

FFS! I am sixty, so I should be invisible, but no, I still get this shit.

On my way to corner shop, a man about my age shouts across the road at me something about the weather. I shout back a brief agreement. I’m just being polite but already annoyed at being yelled at across the street.

On the way back, he’s standing outside his house, waiting to shout at me again as I walk past him. I ignore him completely and he’s fucking enraged. I’m a fucking rude bitch, he just wants to talk.

I don’t want to talk to you. I don’t have to talk to you. You are a creepy entitled knob head. Stay away from me.

LOL, if my DC and DH read this post, they would have 100% sworn it was me who typed it/posted it! 😆

100% agree. Sick of random men thinking we women owe them our attention, and smiles, and giggles, and 'pleasantries!' And yes, they do get annoyed and angry when we ignore them. They think they're so charming and funny and attractive, and we should be soooo flattered by their tedious 'attention.'

I have had many a time when I've been on a walk around my village, and some random man (nearly always between 50 and 70,) starts talking to me. Always about fuck-all, always boring, and often about himself. I have had a few who ask me personal questions. One bloke (about 7 years older than me - maybe mid 60s) stopped me to 'chat' some months back, when I was on a walk, and around 20 minutes walk from my home.

He asked me my name, and if I live in the village (why would I be walking around the outskirts it if I didn't?) Then he asked me where I live, (actually which road,) then he asked me where I work, then he asked me if I go to the village pub very often, then he asked me if I go to any of the 5 or 6 hobby groups in the village. Why the fuck is a strange man asking a woman such personal and intrusive questions? Fucking weirdo. Hmm

After the first few questions, I told him I do go to a couple of hobby groups in the market town 4 miles away - with my HUSBAND. He was like 🙁then walked off.

I did engage with him as I was alone, two thirds of a mile from home, and walking along a fairly remote country lane near woodlands. So I felt I had no choice but to engage. But his attention felt intrusive, and intimidating, and it made me quite angry that he put me in the position of feeling vulnerable and intimidated.

Everything I told him, every question he asked, I gave a false answer. Did he seriously expect me to tell him my name, the road I live in, and where I work, and all manner of personal information that would identify me? Fucking weirdo!

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 12:49

StCuntyMcCunterson · 24/01/2026 12:38

Some people have taken completely the wrong meaning of your post. They either struggle with basic comprehension or live to be offended.

i was aware people were filming using these glasses but unaware of how prevalent it is or how many see the video. It’s disgusting. It’s basic manners to ask for consent surely? Obviously there is a massive difference to revenge porn but I feel this should have the same restrictions.

I agree that restrictions should be made to prevent this happening, how would that be done across boarder though?

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Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 24/01/2026 12:50

i was aware people were filming using these glasses but unaware of how prevalent it is or how many see the video. It’s disgusting. It’s basic manners to ask for consent surely? Obviously there is a massive difference to revenge porn but I feel this should have the same restrictions.

I don't think anyone disagrees with the OP's (I think) idea that these glasses are awful because they're being used by creepy pervy men to once again intimidate women. It's just that the title of the thread The risk of this happening will see a rise of men getting disgruntled appears to be saying (to me) if women stop talking to men because they're worried that they will be hassled on social media, men will become very pissed off and then shit, they'll behave even worse towards women.

Itsmetheflamingo · 24/01/2026 12:53

Brefugee · 24/01/2026 12:14

just fyi there has been an issue in Germany (where we have mixed, nude saunas) of women being filmed covertly.

And now the parliament is trying how to work out how to make it illegal. So fuck men. Other men can take this on. I DGAF if their manly feelings are hurt, or they live sad lonely lives in basements wanking to instagram.

Men can sort this. Until which i will match men's rudeness to me ounce for ounce.

This has really made me think the idea of “liberal natural comfortable”‘Europeans wandering around naked and being disturbed by Brits and Americans not doing the same.

seems obvious but there were perverts there all along. Perving over naked women and children. Vile.

Brefugee · 24/01/2026 13:08

being perved over has always been a risk of naturist or sauna culture. I am guessing it is no different in the Scandi countries.

What is different now is the ease at which people can record and share those recordings.

Sauna culture is very very clear, anyone caught even slightly approaching a boundary (say: no staring) is very quickly and robustly challenged and made to leave. That has always been the case. But because of this, the idea that some cunts are covertly filming hasn't really been on most normal people's radar.

ETA: but having been in a gym, in the women's locker room with many other Germans getting changed, showered, doing skincare and then getting dressed without inhibition (and no staring because we just don't) and then taking an American colleague in who had connipations about stripping to her underwear to put on sports kit (showering after did not come into question) - she insisted on using the cubicles in the toilet. And was told the 2nd time to stop that, and asked to either come dressed for sport or not come at all. So i do get how people are astounded at really prudish behaviour in a single sex place.

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 24/01/2026 13:17

Some people have taken completely the wrong meaning of your post. They either struggle with basic comprehension or live to be offended

the op is badly worded…and just about every post written by mike is coming across as they are trying (and failing) to be ‘clever’ they answer questions with questions, virtually no direct answers

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 13:24

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 24/01/2026 13:17

Some people have taken completely the wrong meaning of your post. They either struggle with basic comprehension or live to be offended

the op is badly worded…and just about every post written by mike is coming across as they are trying (and failing) to be ‘clever’ they answer questions with questions, virtually no direct answers

what questions haven't I answered? many of the posts ive answered have been statement but no question for me to answer, thats not clever or meant to be clever - ive asked why im seen as a man, why my post os seen as scaring other woman

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ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 13:27

NutritiousSardines · 24/01/2026 08:47

These men are not talking to women. They are harassing them, covertly filming them, breaching their privacy. They are sex pests, harassers, and if the law does not currently provide for what they are doing to be a criminal offence, it needs to be changed. They should be seriously ‘disgruntled’ while doing their community service or in some cases being in prison.

Real men don’t harass women, Perverts do.

This.
Something needs to be done about shit like this, I sometimes browse Tiktok and the occasional video pops up on my "for you" feed and there'll be some poor unsuspecting sod in it who won't know anything about being uploaded for content and "likes." 😡
What comes up in my algorithm is more innocuous, such as the creator approaching a randomer on the street and giving them a compliment "just wanting to say you're looking amazing!" or something like that to make the person's day and spread joy apparently.
Ok, fair enough but you're not, are you if you're only doing it for TikTok engagement?!
Or filming someone dancing at say a party and uploading it.
Stop fucking putting people out there without their consent!!
This article though is next level. 😡
I get that there's not technically a law against it, but existing laws need updating for this new type of tech world.

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 13:28

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 13:24

what questions haven't I answered? many of the posts ive answered have been statement but no question for me to answer, thats not clever or meant to be clever - ive asked why im seen as a man, why my post os seen as scaring other woman

Probably your username, people can be strange on here sometimes - they maybe think you're really a bloke called Mike 😁

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 13:33

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 13:28

Probably your username, people can be strange on here sometimes - they maybe think you're really a bloke called Mike 😁

so they don't think Im a microphone 😁

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ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 13:36

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 13:33

so they don't think Im a microphone 😁

I've only just noticed microphone now you've said it 😂

SerendipityJane · 24/01/2026 13:38

MikeRafone · 24/01/2026 13:33

so they don't think Im a microphone 😁

You can never lose money by overestimating how stupid people are.