DH invited PILs on our annual holiday

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DH invited his parents on our annual leave destination. This is a holiday we take as a mini family, no one else is ever invited, and he went on to invite them without consulting me.

I really don't mind going with them, as long as I get another time in the year to still go on a mini family holiday.

The issue is, money I tight, so we won't get this opportunity until the year after.

Should I just keep quiet and let them come with us? Or do we book and pretend they weren't ever invited?

I'd simply send DH and kids off on holiday together. That would keep him busy. Then I'd book to go with a friend on my own the same weeks. DH would learn how tiring it is to parent on his own for a couple of weeks. He wouldn't want to risk it again.

I agree with this.

We've had years we don't go away because we simply can't afford it.

We knew from a year in we wanted to get married but didn't get engaged til 5 years in because that's when we could afford to start paying for our wedding. I told DH to absolutely not spend much on a ring because I'd rather have the life than a ring, so he found a quirky one in budget and I love it.

We've had Christmases and birthdays with no presents and minimal celebration (pre DD) because the money was needed elsewhere.

For the kids do some nice days out (these can be cheap) and some family activities. You don't need to spend the money to be happy.

Lovely men don’t insist on parents coming on their family holidays

not when you’re carrying the whole weight of it all while he supposedly gets his arse back into gear.