To finally admit I’m so jealous!

[Jealous1n]

It makes me sick to say out loud but I am…

My friend (who is lovely) just has it all…and I’m finding it increasingly difficult.

stayed home with her dc on extended mat leaves. Works a flexible 8-4:30 role. Wfh 2-3 days a week. Is paid over 50k. Her dh has the same hours and is paid more. Good pensions and private healthcare.
Brand new house- gorgeous super efficient and warm new build!
brand new cars (bought outright)
all the mod cons, robot hoovers etc. every weekend off.
She always looks great and put together (always has i suppose)
I have never heard her say, go we at broke/skint etc. money just never seems to be an issue. We were talking about houses and I asked how much deposit they used etc as we were going to try to purchase over the next two years. They save over 2k a month. She wasn’t boasting I asked the question. We are lucky if we can save 500per month. The only difference I can see is they do go on less holidays than us. (But they go in peak time)

we have been friends since we were 8. She has never had a credit card. I know this. So no debt only mortgages.

meanwhile I’m here busting my ass in 8-12 hour shifts as a nurse! Minimum mat leaves when I had dc. My dh works long hours too. Still renting…I’m desperate to buy a new car but just can’t justify it right now.
what did we do wrong!?
I just needed a rant really.

Some people are able to get help from family and inheritance. Most people I know did actually. Your friend may have had the same. You can't help how you feel and there's no shame in being jealous of a couple that have it all when you are struggling. Its just lofe and it takes us down many different paths.

OP health is wealth. Prioritise this xx

I knew a woman like this when my oldest was at primary school. I was envious of her to the point of microscopic analysis of her lifestyle. I couldn't wrap my head around it, but I knew of course that being a single parent despite my decent salary and owning a home, I'd never keep up with her. She worked but her husband was the main earner - both good earners but he was much higher.

They always seemed blissfully happy. I guess you would if no money worries and living an amazing lifestyle. Then the year our children were leaving primary school, she split with her husband. They sold their house of course. Her lifestyle changed very obviously. Material possessions and money aren't everything and are soon lost unless you have generational wealth behind you.

I never envied her to the point of wishing I had her life. It was more being in disbelief as to how they managed it. After they split up, I was someone she asked for advice re: divorce etc. She never seemed more normal than then.