AIBU to be turned off by unwashed hands and a small package?

[Tink3rbell30]

I've recently been dating again after a bad experience and long break. I have known this person years and we have chatted quite often so the familiarity is there. 2 things: he has a very small package and the whole thing was just very awkward and it didn't really work. And after a random conversation it turns out that he doesn't wash his hands after going to the toilet (both a wee and poo). I'm really fussy with cleanliness and to me that is very basic hygiene.

AIBU to do a 180 turn on the whole thing? He is trying to make plans to see me this weekend as we speak. My friend says give it another meet up and see as sex is always very awkward at first but it's the hand washing thing aswell.

Ask him if he would wipe someone elses pooey bum with tissue and not wash his hands after, even if he didn't get shit on his hand.

The hand thing would be enough of a reason to never see someone again. How do you get to adulthood and think that's okay—and then tell people about it? Ugh. Your friend needs higher standards.

I wonder if shitty fingers stunt growth?

Can't believe your friends saying you're asexual because of this

Do you mean less penis?

Penises are not considered disgusting. Unsolicited dick pics are disgusting.

I love my husbands penis.

There's a massive difference between an unwanted dick pic and a penis. I've been sent unwanted dick pics it's vile. A penis attached to a man I'm in a relationship with is another thing entirely.

Ok, rather against my better judgement I asked DP.
He said, of course, and surely this is something you learn as a small child.

I asked if he thought there is a male/female difference in attitude to hand washing after going to the toilet, and he said no.

Phew!🤣🤣🤣

That was my question...

I wash my hands after shopping and my children and husband know to do this upon entering the house, particularly after public transport.

I read somewhere about public transport being swabbed and it making the inside of a loo hygienic 🤢🤮.

This image has never left me, hence the big sign WASH inside by back hall, reminding my kids to wash upon entering.

It worked.

If the sex isn't doing it for you that alone would be enough for me. I'd want to fancy my partner and jump his bones in the early days

You don't understand the difference between receiving a dick pic from someone you don't know or like and the penis of a person you love and fancy?

Replace dick pic with random flasher in the street. Make sense now?

The small penis wouldn’t bother me, but the hand washing thing- yuk!

Oh phew! 😂 exactly that.. we all learn to wash our hands after using the toilet as children I thought?!

If it turns you off now in early stages imagine in months or even years down the line. He’ll disgust snd repel you.

Not washing his hands is gross..he can't help the small package I guess

Yukkkkk. Handwashing would be deal-breaker for me. End it now.

Did you tell him it is vile not to hand wash ? The sex I’m with your friend , try it again as first times might be a bit funny

Filthy men who fail to wash their hands properly are truly disgusting and I would not want any physical contact with them. Just vile.

Just stay good friends...hands carry the worst diseases...x

You'll end up with some sort of infection from his dirty hands.

I'm the sort who will eat something off the floor if I drop it but I would draw the line here. Just asked DH and he said he wouldn't date a non-hand washer either.

Don't lower your standards..if it makes you feel put off its a no no.
That would really bother me the hand washing and there are men who are small but chunky if you like 🤣 so that's ok but men who are really small it would bother me.
Stay as friends x

Please leave this dirty handed little packaged man. It’s a new year time is precious so are you.

I would run a mile from someone who doesn’t wash their hands that’s disgusting

It wont work for you. Hands thing. Yuck.