AIBU to be turned off by unwashed hands and a small package?

[Tink3rbell30]

I've recently been dating again after a bad experience and long break. I have known this person years and we have chatted quite often so the familiarity is there. 2 things: he has a very small package and the whole thing was just very awkward and it didn't really work. And after a random conversation it turns out that he doesn't wash his hands after going to the toilet (both a wee and poo). I'm really fussy with cleanliness and to me that is very basic hygiene.

AIBU to do a 180 turn on the whole thing? He is trying to make plans to see me this weekend as we speak. My friend says give it another meet up and see as sex is always very awkward at first but it's the hand washing thing aswell.

No one said people weren’t allowed preferences - I never said that. What I did say that is a smaller than average member doesn’t equal crap sex. If you think it does then one of you is doing it wrong!

His 'package'........😂

You mean his PENIS is small I presume? Well if it isn't big enough to satisfy you then why try again, it won't have grown since you last had sex.

The handwashing🤢....my husband said it was eye watering how many men walk out of the stalls, without washing.
Doesn't bear thinking about.

Oh good lord, no! Absolutely not. Putting everything else aside, would you want this man making you dinner every night with his pooh hands? The thought of it makes me shudder.
But, if you like him, cant you just speak to him? Maybe tell him that declaring that he doesnt wash his hands on what i presume to be first date setting is gross and he unlikely to find someone that doesnt run a million miles.

I have no idea! I can't ghost as I've always chatted as a friend plus it's gutless really. Maybe the cop out line of just wanting to be friends.. it isn't really lying.

I can't work out why he would actually tell you he doesn't wash his hands? I think that says a lot about him actually, what sort of person he is.

This is me! Once I knew about it I was watching everything he touched. His reason is he doesn't "touch any poo" when wiping. Pardon.. and yes it did touch the sides but I just found the whole thing quite awkward and certain positions it just did not work whatsoever.

Yes the whole lot, penis and testicles that's why I said package to cover all bases. It was the smallest one I had seen.. I'm now wondering do I need to ask a man immediately on a first date about hand washing as I can't get past it.

He genuinely thought it was absolutely fine.. as he "doesn't touch any poo" when wiping.

Sex can get better a second time I’ve had this with an enormous penis, first time missionary it was meh second time amazing sex doggy style.

The hygiene I couldn’t get over and would be a huge ick for me.

When your title said small package I thought you'd had something in the post!

Don't go on the date OP, tell him you just want to be friends. If he asks why tell him you value cleanliness and can't get past the fact he doesn't wash his hands after going toilet.

The lack of hand hygiene is a hard no. It’s disgusting, you will end up with a nasty stomach bug. The small package wouldn’t have necessarily been a deal breaker if you really liked him, but not washing his hands after using a toilet is. There could potentially be traces of faecal matter on every surface in his home, not to mention preparing food 🤢🤮😷

How on earth did this come up in date conversation?

Someone's e coli on my hooter isn't very appealing. Small package or not

Is hooter what you call your fanny? I always thought hooter meant nose!

Imagine him making you a sandwich 🤢. He can’t control his size but he can certainly control his hand washing. A big no from me, but I would put the focus on his unhygienic ways as the main reason you're dumping him, because that is 100% his own failing.

What sort of standards does your friend have if she thinks you are being harsh? If he openly admits to something that gross i dread to think what he is hiding

I guess you could get used to the tiny penis... I mean they are all going to stop working at some point and then it's back to our bunnies...

The handwashing.. you could fix him.

Is he rich enough though? Sorry, I mean nice enough?

We were talking about our typical type of partner we go for, I said mine and I added but one thing that majorly puts me off is people who don't wash their hands after going to the toilet. He then said that he doesn't, why he doesn't and why it isn't an issue 🤯

I've been with my husband 20 years and I dont think I've talked about how he wipes after having a poo. How on earth did you get onto this topic?!

Now I'm even more disgusted thinking of his contaminated home, car, phone etc 🤢

Can't you tell him he's a lovely guy but you're not feeling it romantically? If it was just the handwashing you aren't keen on, I'd say tell him his straight that it's putting you off, but the sex sounds hopeless anyway.

We were talking about our typical type of partner we go for, I said mine and I added but one thing that majorly puts me off is people who don't wash their hands after going to the toilet. He then said that he doesn't, why he doesn't and why it isn't an issue. I feel I need to find out from a man straight away from now on and check that they do!

Grosssss. Run!

Yes I think I'm going to go with this sort of explanation.