Cried for 90 mins

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Last night my little one woke and was creaming at 4.15am. I thought something was wrong but he just wanted to go downstairs. I tried to comfort him in my arms but nothing was settling him. Took him in my bed which he rarely comes into and we watched my phone. Probably shouldn't have done that but I can't stand his crying.

He wasn't sleeping but it was nice to have him under the duvet with me.

After 10 mins I put him back in his cot and his room. Same issue occured again - crying to go downstairs.

I just left him in the cot until he eventually slept at 6am.

I did go in one or twice into the room but honestly I can't settle him when he wants to go downstairs and I told him it's dark outside.

I was watching him on the room camera so he wasn't in any danger.

Did I do the wrong thing? Next door is hard of hearing so won't wake him. I live just with toddler.

No but obviously the OP knows her own child. Was that not obvious, or are you just being facetious.

So how do you know he wasn't in pain, hungry, scared or unwell? How do you know whether asking to go downstairs was a tantrum rather than it being the only way he was able to communicate he was in discomfort or frightened?

Don't be ridiculous, being a mother doesn't convey magical powers and ability to mindread. The child was crying, that's a clear signal that they are not OK.

What is downstairs OP?
A toy, his pet?
is downstairs outside?

Not strictly true that there is anything actually wrong with them. Young Children cry for all sorts of reasons. Anger, boredom, frustration. Often because they want something they can’t have.
Can you not tell the difference between your child’s grumpy whingeing crying and their distressed, scared crying?? They sound pretty different.

Or a clear signal that they wanted their own way and to go downstairs? Sometimes no means no.

cant be bothered with this nonsense any more.

I don’t and neither do you. But I’m trusting the mother does. I’m done either way this silliness.

First off, if you are angry, frustrated and bored, I doubt you'd describe yourself as "fine". Second, no child is crying for 90 minutes unless they are very upset about something.

What time is he going down to sleep? Maybe too early meaning hes waking early. Can you try a later bedtime.

Also cant believe how rude some of you are. Parenting is HARD stop being to effing judgey!!

Finally, a post offering some sensible advice to the OP rather than just belittling everyone else about their choices. Parenting is hard, especially if you're a single parent.

The phone is ok but I bet the TV is downstairs & far more enticing.
😂My young grandson is not at the stage of asking us about what he wants. A lot of the time it's because he wants to watch something he watches regularly at home. Ive said it before, I think this might be the issue. He wakes up & thinks get me to that TV now & if not I'll kick off. It's all fine in moderation but they do become addicted to both the phone & the TV so if everything else has been thought about & catered for ie hunger, pain, nappy, too cold too hot, wind, teething etc, this might be your answer.