To insist on moving DH and the DC to New York?

[TheCoralBear]

Me, DH and our DC (11 year old DS and 14 year old DD) were all born in the UK and live in London. I’ve performed in musical theatre (and I work as an usher in a theatre when I’m not performing) my whole life and it’s all I’ve ever known. Usually I perform in west end musicals here in the UK however I’ve now been offered a role on Broadway which would obviously involve moving to New York. I want to accept the role and move us all to New York but DH and the DC are dead set against it and won’t even consider it. I really don’t want to turn down the Broadway role as it’s an excellent opportunity for my career. DH are the DC are refusing to even consider moving though. DH has even suggested I go to New York alone and he stays here with the children but I’m not going to just abandon my children like that so that’s why I’ve suggested we all move to New York but DH and DC keep insisting that they don’t want to go. Would I be unreasonable to insist that we are all going to New York and that’s the end of it? DH says he doesn’t care if it’s an excellent opportunity for my career but he is not considering moving to New York, he is dead set against it.

Actually you can't insist they come....

may be she is just a chorister

lol @ “come home at weekends.” Broadway actors don’t get weekends — they get eight shows a week. Friday night, two Saturday, two Sunday. That's the job.

Doesn’t really matter though, because the entire story is obviously BS.

It's brought up a few interesting issues for discussion though.

If this is real, it sounds very manic behaviour. The kind of thing my mother would have and did try pulling. Like her brilliant idea to move to fucking China when us kids were tiny. My dad had to be the sane one and say no way.

Genuine question. Do ‘creative writing’ teachers suggest testing out ideas on large open forums to save time researching ?

Your husband will never get a visa.
The US education system is terrible in NY you would have to pay for private education. You will seriously damage their education and therefore their future.
What would you do with your home in the UK?

I can totally understand wanting to live and work in NY but you should have done it before kids or wait till they leave home.

I am gobsmacked at the idiocy you display. No looking into his working visa, no plan to how to support the 4 of them, no conseideration for children's education and whole future, no consideration for the family support system, no financial and personal respnsability and planning. Sounds like a teenage gap year before college, backpack on and hit the road. Are you nuts? Where do you live, cuckoo land? Don't give a shit about OP's sex, you can't drag a family across the ocean woth no stable job and without all duck in a row before the plane hits the ground because is your dream. This makes you either super selfish or super stupid. Noone stoped OP to go, she was actually encouraged.

But they don’t want to go. Your wishes are not more important than anyone else’s and certainly not more important than another 3 peoples wishes

I understand the pull of Broadway as a performer, I really do.

But there's no way on God's green earth that I would be taking my children to the US.

Even if I was offered a free all inclusive, every Broadway show whenever I want holiday... Id politely decline. America is not the place I'd like to visit let alone live.

Creative writing post grad here - I am certain some of these are CW scenarios. They are actually usually crap and this one reads a bit like the premise for a YA novel of some sort… and no, in none of my CW courses did anyone suggest MN as a space for sounding out plots.

Yeah this is real 😂

What production is offering healthcare for a whole family for a performer from the UK to come over on an 18 month contract?

Are you famous OP? Otherwise… I call ball crap.

No way would I move to USA at the moment. They have a toddler in charge who could take them into war at any moment. There have been riots in most major cities over the weekend due toI ICE. Very unstable there at the moment. I am with your DH. Is the job worth it?

Thanks. I didn't think any CW teacher would specify MN but possibly the general suggestion of testing scenarios out.

You wont leave your kids but you will force them to move to another country away from family, friends and school?

To a place that has active shooter drills in schools, expensive medical costs... and well everything else going on

I wondered if it was self-supervised machine learning for an LLM.

I think it's a brilliant opportunity for you all. Can you ask them to go and see if it works and that your DH could come back if it doesn't - give it a go at least. Both children would no doubt have a blast, and it could be life-changing for you all.

Nope never in all the years I’ve been doing classes, MAs, Faber/Curtis Brown and now a Phd. Perhaps some writers have no friends to bounce ideas off [or a DH who has no interest in reading your crackpot book ideas… like mine], but the ‘MN plausibility pilot test’ has never been suggested.

Perhaps they should brand it and put a board up LOL

This isn’t exactly true, NYC has some amazing public schools but they aren’t the kind you can just show up and attend, they are super competitive and you have to test into them so would not be an option for a spur of the moment move.

Yes, the kids that have to leave their father (as he won't get a visa), all their friends, miss exams, change school systems and move for an unspecified amount of time, all without their mother who will be performing 8 shows a week,and who, most importantly, don't want to go, will undoubtedly have a blast.

That's as much bullshit as the OP's story.

Doesn’t Mumsnet have MumsGPT now?

Best of luck bodily forcing an 11 yo and a 14 yo onto a transatlantic flight, @TheCoralBear .

ah come on now - try harder with the bullshit storyline OP!!!

It’s going to be fun at immigration as well. US immigration officials aren’t exactly famous for their kindness and tolerance for people kicking up a fuss…