We’ve hurt the birthday boy’s feelings?

[sidneytweeney]

So my son who is 8 has been invited to his friend’s birthday party next weekend. Another mum who I am friends with has asked me to take her son to the party too as she is working (he’s been invited.) I’ve agreed to do this and to help my friend out further, her son is going to be having a sleepover at mine in the night of the party. (Mum friend is a single parent, works as a nurse) The birthday boy is staying at his grandparents after his party in order to see extended family for his birthday. Birthday boy’s mum texted me this morning to say that I had disappointed birthday boy by organising a fun sleepover to which birthday boy can’t come. She said I had ‘taken the shine off his special day.’ Unless I’m missing a higher chunk of social awareness , this woman is batshit right?

🦇 💩 for sure !

Yes.

She's mad. Just ignore.

To clarify... is the Mum working when the boy is sleeping over?

Unintentionally you may led to birthday boy feeling left out if they've talked about it at school.

Utterly insane. Ignore her.

Wait till she finds out other people have the same birthday as him… 😂

Definitely batshit, but I would probably reply "Not a fun sleepover, I'm helping X with childcare that day/weekend as she is working"

Wait until he's in the workforce and some people went to lunch while he was wfh/on annual leave/in a workshop that day.

Is his mummy going to write to his manager then, too?

She's nuts and I feel bad for her son who apparently doesn't stand a chance.

I'm also upset I wasn't invited. Please apologise.

“That was obviously never my intention. Happy to arrange another sleepover with birthday boy when he’s free”

Do NOT apologise, she is bonkers!

She’s doing a late which I think means she finishes at 10. Saving her £50 babysitter apparently as her parents are away so can’t step in

Soz hun

Bonkers, ignore.

Tell her you're terribly sorry and will feed the children on gruel, make them do maths and sleep in the garage so it's not going to be any fun, so poor birthday boy won't be crying himself to sleep.

Or just reply 'Good one!' with several laughing emojis.

what's weirder is that my son is currently charting online to birthday boy and apparently isn’t arsed?

Is it just the 3 of them at the party?

Doesn't matter if birthday boy can't come, he wasn't invited.

WTF??

Even if you (as the other Mum) thought that, who in their right mind would say it?

If the child was upset, you'd simply explain that your family has family plans so that's that & the world doesnt stop when you have other plans.

I'd have to sit on my hands before replying!!

This

all the boys in the class I think, plus others - it’s a big soft play thing

The only it could be slightly dodgy is if it only your son and sleepover friend going party ,,if not she's a nutter

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Bet the kid isn't bothered at all, just the mum!

Bonkers, and rude. I wouldn’t even bother to reply to that message and I’d lose considerable respect for the person who sent it.

Well if she's extended an invite to both your kids then it may be crossed wires. The birthday boy probably does feel sad about being left out of a sleepover by 2 of his friends he's close enough to invite to his party - and obviously neither she nor her child know the reason behind it being to help the other mum out. Guarantee the boys have been talking about it at school and birthday boy is a little bothered. So instead of making a big thing of it text her back and just explain clearly - sorry he feels left out, this is just because I'm helping x out whilst she's at work late and noone else to have x after the party so I've kindly stepped in to help'