DUMB SHIT People say

[OneDearFawn]

I eat in a local restaurant weekly after work, so I typically go in with no makeup on. I am 35 and suffering with really painful cystic acne. Tried everything, my face is a mess.

Anyway, I go in on New Year’s Eve fully made up in makeup. The owners wife turns to me and says, wow, I didn’t even recognise you with makeup on, you look so much better with makeup on. After seeing I was embarassed and me mumbling ahh I suffer with my skin she stands and lists all the things allergy, hormones, everything as though to help. Yet making me feel worse and more of a spectacle. What she was saying is. God you look dog rough when I see you in the week. You should continue to paint your face to hide the offensive marks. I didn’t fucking appreciate it. Not one bit.

So got me thinking. What dumb shit have people said to you that ruined your day?

I work as a full-time teacher, which is tough when you're in your 50s, are menopausal and have 2 kids still in education. I've mostly not been able to work part-time as my (very hard-working) DH is a middle earner like myself and we both need to bring money in. I'm knackered but feel it's just as much my responsibility as his.
I can't tell you how many times other Mums have said to me, "I could never work full-time!" Why say that?? You do you! 🙄

I bet her bf's eyes shot to your backside, he probably liked it, I have encountered women who start being rude or bully a girl that their crush or boyfriend seemed to fancy.

I've remembered another one. My firstborn died when he was a baby. I remember going to a the Christening of a friend's baby a couple of years later. I was obviously fragile and for some reason told my friend's brother that I had two kids and that my first DS had died. His response? "Oh, that's why we've had five - as a sort of insurance!" I'm still completely stumped at who would say that to a grieving parent (who had also experienced fertility difficulties!)

Do Americans actually still use this ableist language?

I had an eptopic pregnancy and nearly died and yet people still mentioned it

Not nearly as severe as yours or others’, but when my baby didn’t sleep for over a year (and neither did I), my manager, despite otherwise being lovely, would ask about sleep and then compare it to her dog keeping her awake at night because he’d take up half the bed

Did they mean without using a walker? That's how I'd interpret it 😅

lol! Brilliant! She presumably meant how did you get out? But I’d have been tempted to say “No, my body’s still in there actually” and smile at her hauntingly

More Michael than Cindy, but it’s been a blast. I’m up mountains again!! Thank you ☺️.

Hope you’re sprinting soon!! xx

Dumb means someone who can’t speak. It is now used as an insult for someone thoughtless or stupid, but that is the origin. People used to believe that if someone couldn’t speak, they must be stupid.

Do we now use 'mute' rather than 'dumb' for people who don't speak?

You'd be really attractive if you lost weight. From a man whose wife resembled one of the vultures from Jungle Book. He'd also sleep with anything with a pulse - providing they weren't fat obviously.

I’m also childfree not by choice. When a new colleague asked me if I had children I just said no, she said “oh, so you opted for the quiet life” while knowing fuck all about me.