it didn’t teach me that at all. I went to a grammar school, which pushed girls towards university, especially STEM subjects. The attitude was girls go to university; or tinkly laugh “Do you want to end up working in Woolworths?”
Imo, WOHM just use that argument to justify their own choices. Social learning theory tells us, parents are role models for small children, but as children get older, friends and other adults (like teachers and celebrities) become more important than parents!
DS entered the same profession as me and DH. He knows what it takes to qualify. He works a minimum of 70 hours a week. He and my other DC are much prouder of what I have achieved in my voluntary work, than anything else. I was a SAHM from when DS was 6, on the birth of twin DDs. DH was earning 6 figures 25+ years ago. Both of us could go out and spend whatever we liked. Both DDs had SEN and I still care for both of them, some of the time, over 30 years later. Had DH and I worked part time to fit around all the appointments and meetings for DD1, we couldn’t have earned 2/3 of what DH could earn full time. I went back to work part time, term time only, when twin DDs were 15.
DDIL works Fridays and every other weekend. DS gets up at 5 am on Saturdays and Sundays to work 4 hours, before the family get up. He looks after DGC, after school on Friday and all weekend, when DDIL is at work. DDIL cooks dinner 4 days a week, and DS cooks the other 3 days. DS says:
”Being a SAHP is the hardest job in the world and the most under-appreciated! I would rather work 10 hours in my job, and come home to a cooked dinner, than spend 10 hours looking after two young children. Playing cars with DGS for two hours is mind numbingly boring!”