There’s a lot of patronising stuff in there and again, supposition and assumptions. Just a few things:
I was raised to have ambition and to expect equality in relationships
So was I - but nowadays I am not particularly ambitious (in a corporate type way anyway) because it didn’t make me happy, and that’s quite a common mentality I would’ve thought. As I said earlier, the drudgery of the 9-5 isn’t for me. Not everyone equates ambition = climbing up the promotional ladder in an office or whatever. People can have lots of different ambitions!
I find it interesting that you think if one partner doesn’t go out to work, the relationship can’t be “equal”. If anything in my marriage, I’d say I hold more of the cards.
Also weird that you think someone who doesn’t go out to work can’t have ambitious, hard working DD’s and bring them up with a desire to reach their goals in life. Do you think sahp’s tell their dc’s they shouldn’t try to achieve the things that they desire?
We sent our DD’s to an excellent girls school
where they are taught to aim high and work hard. That’s an ethos we follow at home. They also specialist in STEM subjects and that’s what my DD’s prefer, which I’m thrilled about.
Do you think families with a sahp push their DD’s to take sewing and home economics? 🤔
We raise our dc’s to prioritise following their dreams and being happy and don’t associate success with climbing up the promotional ladder in a career. If that’s what they want to do and enjoy it, great. DD is studying medicine and I’m thrilled.
Women should never be subservient to men
I agree, why do you think sahp’s are subservient to men? You think you only have power in a relationship if you have a 9-5 job? Or that we must only do subservient acts like bringing our dh’s their pipe and slippers? 😂 DH does just as much, probably more, for me than I do for him.
Men do not come first, their careers shouldn’t come first, they are not worth more.
Who said this?
Fathers should be expected to take equal care of their children.
Why? If it works for one parent to stay home and makes everyone happy, why does everything have to split down the middle? That would be hard work and very strange. My dh does loads of things I don’t do, hate doing, can’t be arsed doing. He took our 4 dc’s to sports at the weekends for years, standing around freezing pitches and doing car pools for instance. He enjoyed doing it. Should I have insisted on taking turns even though he wanted to do it and I didn’t so that things were “equal”?