To not feel the slightest bit guilty

[IainWithTwoEyes]

about being back in bed all cosy, now that ds is away back to school in his taxi?
The house is lovely and quiet, and im under the duvet eating a box of heros. Staying here until he arrives home at 3.30 😃

I don’t blame you at all !!

January is depressing and difficult enough to get through - enjoy!

Sounds a great plan. Good for you.

@IainWithTwoEyes
Im so jealous!
I have dgs (19m) on Mondays, it's full on all day.
Back to work tomorrow for a rest!

I’d presume OPs child has a disability and has been given taxi transport to school, as my daughter was.

Yes he is disabled, and yes tax funded taxi.

And no, I don't work.

Enjoy your day, OP! It’s exhausting having a disabled child 🙂

In the online groups I’m part of, this overwhelmingly is the sentiment from parents of kids with ASN. Christmas can be so hard, it’s a relief to get some respite.

Enjoy your bed day, you can deal with all the additional stress, admin, physical effort, heartache that comes from raising a disabled child tomorrow.

Anyone asking why a parent with a disabled child doesn’t work might want to consider how they would hold down a job if every bit of support, predictability and reliability disappeared from their life tomorrow.

My only worry about this is I thought it said you were eating herbs. Otherwise, crack on!

Sounds a perfect day, Enjoy!
I'm sad to be back on the school run, wrap around, commute, work treadmill today so that sounds dreamy.

YANBU at all, my son goes back to school tomorrow and I'm planning to catch up on all the sleep I've missed out on during the holidays, people who don't get it refuse to get it, enjoy!

Indeed! I think I worked out once if I wasn't my sons parent/carer and he was relinquished it would cost the council roughly 2.5K per WEEK to look after him.
I get £83 per week, so if anyone wants to complain I don't work outside the house can frankly do one.

Shameless!

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Stay under the covers. It’s freezing xx

I'm just astounded that you are able to stomach a box of those things masquerading as chocolates which are called 'Heroes'!!

Yanbu at all! I was going to send my own dc to school in a taxi today because of the snow but exdp (we live ten minutes away from each other) offered to take him before he went to work, without my intervention, so not complaining there!

Ds doesn't have any SEND but I have pretty severe adhd, which despite being medicated makes the festive period quite challenging for me personally. I've worked over Christmas too so haven't really had any breathing space.

I had Christmas eve and Christmas day off and hosted, then a wedding to attend over nye which was lovely but involved travelling to another city and staying in an air b&b with 12 other people for two nights so pretty exhausting, then just finished three 12 hour night shifts yesterday morning. Better believe I spent the vast majority of the day fast asleep while ds was with his father!

So today I'm very slowly trying to reset my house, tackle the mountain of laundry, take down the decorations etc. I'm on my third cup of coffee and have managed to put a single load of laundry on and come up with a vague plan of action. I'm back in work again tomorrow so only really have today to get it done.

I also have a pile of cardboard boxes, paper bags and wrapping paper bigger than me that I'm not even going to try and recycle. I'm going to burn it but the snow is very off putting.

Rest days are I'm op, don't let the naysayers tell you any different and enjoy your sweets and your duvet!

I have two disabled children. I always took them to school myself. They preferred it and honestly it felt a little uncomfortable to shove them alone into taxis. In our area the local council is buckling financially under the weight of multiple taxis for so many more children with additional needs. Preposterous amounts. If you can, you should take your children to school yourself.

'if you can' doing lots of heavy lifting here.

Dc off to bus before 8. I'll be back at work tomorrow. I keep cancelling my swim time and now booked 3pm. Its too icy to run. In bed with cup of tea. Getting up to take down the tree soon.

The only unreasonable thing about this whole situation is your snack choice 😂
Enjoy your day, my office is chilly so I’ve whacked the heating up in there and have retreated to my bed and electric blanket with my laptop - it’s what I call the soft office! A much nicer start to my week, I quite often do it on a Monday morning for an hour anyway but it feels extra indulgent today because it’s frosty and generally frozen outside.
Unfortunately ds came down with the horrid cold that’s going around a couple of days ago and he’s not made it back to school today, he’s still fast asleep, so I’m not home alone but he’s not making much noise!
Enjoy your day op.

They’re not alone. There’s a chaperone who gets to know and engage with the child/children. And unless in a remote area taxis are shared where possible.

Op crack on and enjoy! Spend all week like that if you need to. Maybe watch a film im bed too?

I've got my son's AR next week but fully intend to take some me days following it.

Have a great day!

Or, the Local Authority has a duty to ensure equity amongst pupils, including safe routes to school. If a parent of a non disabled child can wave their children off to school from the front door, equity means the parent of a non disabled child can do the same.

The Lical Authority spends “preposterous amounts” of money collecting people’s bins. Every area has a waste collection centre. Would you suggest that anyone who can take their rubbish to the tip should do it? They spend “preposterous amounts” of money feeding school children. Would you suggest anyone who can, sends their children with a packed lunch? Or is it just the parents of disabled children who should be ashamed of using LA resources, legally required to be provided for them?

My daughter is disabled and despite being only 5 minutes (up a massive hill) from the primary school, was entitled to a taxi. I preferred to take her myself as I could make sure she was settled properly. This meant leaving 20 minutes earlier than I should have needed to, in order to run the gauntlet of non badged cars using the few disabled spaces, bringing her to the door and waiting another 10 minutes for her to be taken inside. In order to do that, I had to adjust my working hours and take a pay cut. At the end of the day, my husband needed to be at the school at least 30 minutes early in order to pick her up, or there would have been no disabled spaces available. That’s an hour of the day wasted sitting about. It isn’t as simple as just having the means to do it, drop off for any kid is chaos. Adding a disability in to it is horrific. Daughter gets a taxi to high school. I have zero guilt in using that service.

No guilt here either. DD is back at college and DH back at work. DS has a teacher training day so we both upstairs wrapped up eating bacon sandwiches and watching a box set. We are both back to school/ work tomorrow so I have no guilt about today.