To not feel the slightest bit guilty

[IainWithTwoEyes]

about being back in bed all cosy, now that ds is away back to school in his taxi?
The house is lovely and quiet, and im under the duvet eating a box of heros. Staying here until he arrives home at 3.30 😃

My DS used to be taken to school with escorted transport. I have a car and wasn’t at work as I worked in the evenings 🤷🏻‍♀️
there really is worse things to get worked up over

I hope you enjoyed your bed day

I don't for a moment think the poster meant shove literally!

Agree

I was sticking up for you.

I’m glad you’re so happy but I don’t think it’s faux concern to acknowledge your challenging life and admit that any of us would want to trade places with you or begrudge you a lie in when the rest of your life is so difficult.

I do like hero’s and I do like my bed so win win

It says more about you as a parent with disabled children that you took the time to write a long post thrashing the Op who happened to get a decent break. I'd have thought support each other was the way to go. I'm a bereaved mum. Two beautiful little twin boys who passed away in their first week of life 2 years ago. I'm part of a network of bereaved parents from all walks of life. We support each other, not bitterly tear each other down or compete with how bad our lot is. This is really bad form of you.

Why not?

So it is good to remember that, and to be thankful for the little help that any of us get in life.

Her child is disabled.

A full day in bed resting, resetting your nervous system and doing absolutely nothing is absolutely good for mental health!

Why does everyone even assume that everyone else drives?

Becsuse she.is.disabled and has a disabled child.

I've always wondered this too.

Even if a person can drive, it's often assumed they can afford to.

Exactly. Not only that, but disabled children like to grow up and some semblance of independence, too! If their friends, peers and siblings are taking the bus or walking, why should they be dropped off by mummy?
A PP said parents should take their children to school wherever possible. Really? My daughter had a taxi but only when she was secondary age. I think she’d have protested in none too gentle terms if I had tried to take her.

It’s bizarre that it’s also the “you should be working, even with a disabled child/children” are also the ones saying you should take your child to school yourself, too.
Which jobs do they think this would be compatible with?

Is this a wind up?

I don't think you should feel guilty at all, enjoy the respite! I have only one DC who has no disabilities, learning issues etc at all, and even I am looking forward to school going back, and me going back to work (for a break!)

Love it OP. Hoping you get more similar days and just right.

Why is this your business ?

@IainWithTwoEyes just stumbled on this thread after a long day at work. You madam are depraved! What a life, munching chocolates in bed, and no doubt leaving unsightly brown streaks everywhere around your bedding.

That said, I must try this sometime myself haha ♥️🍫

I like your style

I’m jealous! Hope you had a good day

I agree tbh
i have a disabled child who went to school in a taxi because I had 2 other children I had to get to school, and a job
i hated it, would have done anything to take him myself
he started doing a club on a Friday so I got one chance to go and pick him up from school, highlight of my week
taxi transport is approximately £140 a day per child just so people know

taxi transport is approximately £140 a day per child just so people know

Yeah, thanks for that. Are you seriously trying to make the parents of disabled children feel guilty for accepting help?

As you must know, carers get very little help or support and are up there with the most deserving. OP should accept any help she can get IMO.

The cost of a taxi to and from school is nothing compared to the cost of looking after disabled children should their parents/caregivers become so burnt out they can no longer look after them at home.

Not to mention this is the cost for one child op knows of (maybe, as it could just be a random amount pulled from thin air). The cost will depend entirely on distance, whether the child has an escort (not all do) the amount of children on the transport.