To not feel the slightest bit guilty

[IainWithTwoEyes]

about being back in bed all cosy, now that ds is away back to school in his taxi?
The house is lovely and quiet, and im under the duvet eating a box of heros. Staying here until he arrives home at 3.30 😃

I’ve said YABU not from Judgement (fellow SEN parent solidarity) but just because I can’t believe a full day in bed is best for anyone’s mental health. It’s cold but in most of the country the sun is shining! I’d get some exercise, do some jobs… but then that’s me I guess!

Happy new year x

It is lovely to have a one off duvet day if you are tired or unwell .
What are your plans for tue?

Everyone has their own struggles …you don’t know this lady or her child’s individual needs. Did you mean to sound do unbelievably pious , rude and judgmental? I also have two children with disabilities one with kidney disease the other has autism , I would never dream of calling another Mum out on claiming something for her child that she is entitled to . Something that makes both their lives a little easier . Practise some grace for the new year .

Also when you have a child in a special school its actually sometimes easier for staff for all the kids to arrive on school transport as its like a milliary operation getting 200+ children with significant learning disabilities safely into school and settled ,they dont need to be stopping and starting every few minutes with parents turning up i dribs and drabs and staff constantly having to leave the classroom to escort the child from reception to the classroom.

Or 2. Or even 4.
Passive agression disguised as concern is really toxic behaviour.

I kind of agree with this. I have 2 kids, one with ADHD and the other suspected autism (refuses to be assessed), the christmas holidays were hard work. They still attend mainstream school (so obviously not as hard work as OPs child I guess, which I do appreciate), and it was nice to wave them off this morning. But I also had to go to work to do my full time job and then it's back home to do with usual parenting.

I can’t believe some of the bitter jealousy that this thread has evoked. Op has a disabled child. Who would want to swap with her. My son is a London black taxi driver. He has had contracts to take children who need assistance to their schools. There is provision for this. People need to wind their necks in. If you’re unhappy, change it. The bile on here is awful

Well as you say they dont have the same needs as the Ops son if they did you too might find it very difficult to work...

It isn't passive aggression at all! I'm agreeing that a one off duvet day is good if you need a rest

Im not in England, if thats the country you mean.

I think many will have disabled dc or disabled relatives whom they care for.

Do you not work??

Why is he in a taxi to go to school? Why aren’t you taking him?

Becsuse the child is disabled and the Op cant legally drive due having seizure, s
Reading the thread often help ,s.

Disabled dc often have school transport, the dc may be one of others in the area who get picked up from their home in a minibus or similar.

I completely get what you’re saying and OP likely posted to try and stir some jealousy.

But reading between the lines she is obviously very miserable and I hope the lie in or this thread gives her the boost she needs.

She is disabled, can’t work, can’t drive, her kid is also disabled - literally everyone’s worst nightmare.

I wouldn’t wish this sort of life on my worst enemy.
Her life is more difficult than most of us can imagine.
And so I would not begrudge OP for trying to find some positives where she can.

Good for you OP! I hope you enjoyed your day of rest! This will be me tomorrow when DS8 is back at school - on his bus!! Being a carer to a disabled child is bloody exhausting and this thread clearly shows it’s really under appreciated too! People don’t seem to understand the toll it can take on you and I can’t believe some people are moaning on here about the fact you’ve decided to have a duvet day?! ONE day after weeks of non stop caring day and night with zero break?

I don’t drive either and the only special school that was able to meet my son’s complicated needs is around a 40 minute drive away so around a 2hour journey by public transport just to get to school. I would have loved to be able to take my son to school everyday, but it’s just not possible. I can take my daughter because she goes to mainstream 10 minutes down the road. I’m not about to feel guilty that I use a service my son is entitled to!! He’s not being shoved in with strangers. He’s travelling with his class mates, and with adults that he has formed a fantastic bond with and loves! Crazy people on this thread.

True. I don't think a dc getting a lift to school while we is stay in bed is anything to wish for so the op has my sympathies too.

Do you not read??

Thabks for the faux concern but im actually pretty happy right now, I left my abusive husband about 3 years ago and life with just my son is much nicer. We had a lovely xmas and new year together. Im far from miserable. Currently online booking a wee holiday for ds birthday in April 😊

Do you not read?

Why are you asking stupid questions? Why don’t you read the thread first?

Nor me, as it sounds quite sad, but life sometimes deals a shit hand. 🤷‍♀️

Special schools near me won't let parents take the kids to school. They say they have to be by taxi or special school bus

A lot of posters think that OP should be taking her child into school herself; you've obviously never been in a special school when the children arrive/leave. It's planned like a military operation, often the buses/taxis queue in a particular order - and there may be ten or more vehicles involved - so that the right children are met by the right TAs, often with specialised equipment to move specific children. Having parents/carers turn up at random times wouldn't be a great start to the school day...

Well said.