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Why do we use cutlery in restaurants

250 replies

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:48

I was thinking this recently

Those knives, forks and spoons have been INSIDE thousands of other people's mouths.

I was starting to get disgusted by the thought. I think it is such a weird practice.

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

OP posts:
Womaninhouse17 · 02/01/2026 22:05

Most restaurants etc will use a dishwasher and things will come out hygienically clean - much cleaner than washing up by hand.

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:06

CheeseWisely · 02/01/2026 22:04

The KPs in the numerous restaurants I’ve worked in have loaded the high temperature dishwasher, unloaded it, and helped with some basic food prep.

Maybe you haven't been to a pub recently. The KPs wash the cutlery. Maybe there's a dishwasher, maybe not. In my experience.

IcedPurple · 02/01/2026 22:07

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:02

Not always, it isn't. Have you heard of a Kitchen Porter, otherwise known as a KP? Do you know what they do?

Yes, I've heard of a Kitchen Porter. I'm unsure about their connection to the cleanliness or otherwise of cutlery, however.

Livpool · 02/01/2026 22:07

They are WASHED 🤷🏼‍♀️

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:10

IcedPurple · 02/01/2026 22:07

Yes, I've heard of a Kitchen Porter. I'm unsure about their connection to the cleanliness or otherwise of cutlery, however.

So you've never seen a KP quickly swirling the cutlery in the middle of a busy service, clearly 😄

mumofoneAloneandwell · 02/01/2026 22:10

When I complained about plastic straws, I got jumped on 😬

IcedPurple · 02/01/2026 22:10

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:10

So you've never seen a KP quickly swirling the cutlery in the middle of a busy service, clearly 😄

Clearly...

XenoBitch · 02/01/2026 22:11

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/01/2026 21:28

Oh god, don't. My previous dentist was NHS. We had had a rotation of different dentists for some reason, bad sign? Anyway, I went for a check up, and god, there was a smell of rotten plaque/bacteria from either her gloves or the instruments she was using. What did I do? Sit up, put my hand in her face assertively and say "sorry, those gloves absolutely stink and clearly you haven't changed the instruments since the previous patient, who clearly had rotten teeth with a mouthful of bacteria"?

No. Like a numpty, I just sat there, letting her put her stinky hands/instruments all over my teeth and mouth. And then, said "thankyou" at the end!

She left soon after, and the next dentist gave me a filling for no discernable reason, as I'd had no bother or signs or anything, which had to be re-done as I was left with a really sensitive tooth. Then it failed completely eaving me in excrutiating hit-the-side-of-face-on-the-kitchen-island agony as the tooth died. I rang a private practice and got an emergency weekend appointment as I'd lost all faith in the NHS practice I'd been at.

Edited

😱that is gross!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 02/01/2026 22:16

Take your own cutlery, but metal, not plastic. Better environmentally.
It's a bit weird, but I will use an anti bac wet wipe to wipe my table, high chair for my dc when we sit down and menu if it's plastic before use. 🤷‍♀️
The same cloth is used from table to table and is filthy.🤮

LizzieVereker · 02/01/2026 22:16

What are you on about? 😂

WildLeader · 02/01/2026 22:17

Octavia64 · 02/01/2026 20:49

Better than using your hands.

especially for soup

🤣🤣🤣

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:17

IcedPurple · 02/01/2026 22:10

Clearly...

Then maybe don't speak with such authority! KPs wash cutlery, just like they wash plates, boards, and saucepans etc.

Bless that you all think that every bit of cutlery goes through some kind of nuclear heated cleaning device!

soupyspoon · 02/01/2026 22:17

mumofoneAloneandwell · 02/01/2026 22:10

When I complained about plastic straws, I got jumped on 😬

On here? I wouldnt jump, I love a plastic straw, got a massive pack in the drawer

mumofoneAloneandwell · 02/01/2026 22:20

soupyspoon · 02/01/2026 22:17

On here? I wouldnt jump, I love a plastic straw, got a massive pack in the drawer

on aibu ages ago 😄

omg, I went to the us and forgot to get plastic straws! They’d only be for dd, the paper ones just cause problems

ByMintLion · 02/01/2026 22:21

After many many years in hospitality. Tbh sanitized cutlery is not guaranteed.

BeQuirkyMintScroller · 02/01/2026 22:21

Glasses too for your drinks I assume? 😂

Namechangerage · 02/01/2026 22:22

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:54

Yes

you don’t seem it…

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:23

BeQuirkyMintScroller · 02/01/2026 22:21

Glasses too for your drinks I assume? 😂

Funnily enough, glasses get washed/sanitised more than cutlery does. They go into a glasswasher. As another PP has noted, the equivalent does not always happen to cutlery.

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:23

ByMintLion · 02/01/2026 22:21

After many many years in hospitality. Tbh sanitized cutlery is not guaranteed.

Yup...

sweeneytoddsrazor · 02/01/2026 22:23

Brushes at the hair dressers, files at the nail bars, trying on clothes and shoes. Buttons on traffic lights, taxi door handles. Books, newspapers magazines. The list is endless. Who has the time to worry about these things

Longleggedgiraffe · 02/01/2026 22:24

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:52

I disagree. I worked in some restaurants when I was younger.

In some of those restaurants. the cutlery got a very quick rinse in the sink

They weren't washed well.

That doesn't mean all restaurants are gross. Sorry, but you're being unreasonable.

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:24

sweeneytoddsrazor · 02/01/2026 22:23

Brushes at the hair dressers, files at the nail bars, trying on clothes and shoes. Buttons on traffic lights, taxi door handles. Books, newspapers magazines. The list is endless. Who has the time to worry about these things

I'm not putting any of those things into my mouth.

And, actually, nail bars can pass on really nasty fungal infections.

HappyFace2025 · 02/01/2026 22:26

Why not go the whole hog and take your own paper plates OP? In fact, bring your meal too.

HoppityBun · 02/01/2026 22:26

Why cheap plastic disposable cutlery? You can’t know that it was hygienically packed. Get robust stainless steel that you can clean yourself

soupyspoon · 02/01/2026 22:26

mumofoneAloneandwell · 02/01/2026 22:20

on aibu ages ago 😄

omg, I went to the us and forgot to get plastic straws! They’d only be for dd, the paper ones just cause problems

I hate paper straws, wont use em.

YANBU

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