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Why do we use cutlery in restaurants

250 replies

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:48

I was thinking this recently

Those knives, forks and spoons have been INSIDE thousands of other people's mouths.

I was starting to get disgusted by the thought. I think it is such a weird practice.

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

OP posts:
K0OLA1D · 02/01/2026 21:06

Whats disgusting is using disposable cutlery

Mithral · 02/01/2026 21:06

Clartzilla · 02/01/2026 20:58

What are you on about? I've worked in loads of food and beverage establishments in the last 30ish years and in every single one opening the dishwasher when it pipped at you nearly took your eyebrows off from the heat!

Yes! I don't believe OP has ever worked in a restaurant.

KarmenPQZ · 02/01/2026 21:08

Either go to better restaurants that have decent hygiene standards and pay staff a decent wage to do a good job. Else take your own metal cutlery about with you. Kite nicer and better all round that eating off single use plastic

BohoGarden · 02/01/2026 21:08

I take my own plastic bowl which I boil in Milton Fluid every day and keep in its own antibacterial travelling case.

When the food comes i ask them to pop it in the bowl and I eat it like a dog. I've not been invited back to Buckingham Palace since the last time but neither have I shat myself inside out from other people's fork/mouth germs so I'm cool with that.

HoskinsChoice · 02/01/2026 21:09

🎣 10/10

Excellent, truly excellent!

Farticus101 · 02/01/2026 21:09

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/01/2026 20:51

I would avoid using any public toilet then if that bothers you 😂

I had this thought the other day when I went to use a public loo (as I often do) and the seat was warm 😕

TheTecknician · 02/01/2026 21:09

An early leading contender for daft question of the year.

It was once supposed that the cleanliness of a restaurant or pub's toilets was a good indication of the level of kitchen hygiene. I don't know where that philosophy came from. Also supposedly said that a restaurant customer was entitled to inspect the kitchen if they asked to. I wonder if that's ever happened? In any event, I don't give the cutlery a second thought, unless it's obviously dirty.

curious79 · 02/01/2026 21:10

CactusSwoonedEnding · 02/01/2026 20:56

Are you also one of the weird people who hover above loo seats because of not wanting the skin of your thighs to toch where the skin of someone else's thighs have touched?

Restaurants have hygiene ratings. If you stick to places with the highest ratings you can be confident that they keep everything clean.

You may need psychological support if you can't shake this irrational anxiety about touching thoroughly clean things.

You actually sit on public loo seats?! I thought everyone hovered (particularly given most seats seem to be covered in piss)

rwalker · 02/01/2026 21:11

well each to there own but plastic cutlery is shit

why not get proper metal I have one for my dinner at work comes with its own carry case

tbf we used to joke about this sorry this picture isn’t going to help OP

Why do we use cutlery in restaurants
XenoBitch · 02/01/2026 21:12

curious79 · 02/01/2026 21:10

You actually sit on public loo seats?! I thought everyone hovered (particularly given most seats seem to be covered in piss)

It is people who hover who create the pissy seats in the first place.

I have never hovered, and have never had the skin on my thighs erupt into sores either.

Garroty · 02/01/2026 21:12

Have you heard of an invention called the dishwasher

5foot5 · 02/01/2026 21:13

This can't be real. Surely nobody is this squeamish

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Happyher · 02/01/2026 21:14

I’d have more sympathy with you if you were using metal cutlery. You can get them in a case instead of disposable plastic. Why is it just the cutlery - what about cups and plates that people may have touched, or the chair you sit on.

emmetgirl · 02/01/2026 21:25

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:52

I disagree. I worked in some restaurants when I was younger.

In some of those restaurants. the cutlery got a very quick rinse in the sink

They weren't washed well.

I own a restaurant and we ALWAYS sanitise the cutlery and all crockery after it’s been washed. Without exception. So does every other eating venue I know. The sanitising machines are bloody expensive too.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/01/2026 21:28

XenoBitch · 02/01/2026 21:02

I take it you never go to the dentists.

Oh god, don't. My previous dentist was NHS. We had had a rotation of different dentists for some reason, bad sign? Anyway, I went for a check up, and god, there was a smell of rotten plaque/bacteria from either her gloves or the instruments she was using. What did I do? Sit up, put my hand in her face assertively and say "sorry, those gloves absolutely stink and clearly you haven't changed the instruments since the previous patient, who clearly had rotten teeth with a mouthful of bacteria"?

No. Like a numpty, I just sat there, letting her put her stinky hands/instruments all over my teeth and mouth. And then, said "thankyou" at the end!

She left soon after, and the next dentist gave me a filling for no discernable reason, as I'd had no bother or signs or anything, which had to be re-done as I was left with a really sensitive tooth. Then it failed completely eaving me in excrutiating hit-the-side-of-face-on-the-kitchen-island agony as the tooth died. I rang a private practice and got an emergency weekend appointment as I'd lost all faith in the NHS practice I'd been at.

Purlant · 02/01/2026 21:29

If I were you (thank goodness I’m not), I wouldn’t bother going out to eat.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/01/2026 21:30

emmetgirl · 02/01/2026 21:25

I own a restaurant and we ALWAYS sanitise the cutlery and all crockery after it’s been washed. Without exception. So does every other eating venue I know. The sanitising machines are bloody expensive too.

I guess the issue is multiple staff handling the cutlery after it's been sanitised. Unless the staff are wearing gloves, the person handling it could have just sneezed or coughed into their hand.

TrumpDerangementSyndrome · 02/01/2026 21:31

Just when you thought the 'germ' hysteria on MN couldn't get any worse...

hotpot444 · 02/01/2026 21:32

I think always give the cutlery a glance to make sure it’s visually clean and then not worry too much more about it.

My mum quickly would wipe the cutlery with a napkin I always found that strange and now I am doing it too (wonder what my kid thinks about it lol).

TrumpDerangementSyndrome · 02/01/2026 21:32

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/01/2026 21:30

I guess the issue is multiple staff handling the cutlery after it's been sanitised. Unless the staff are wearing gloves, the person handling it could have just sneezed or coughed into their hand.

If you are so inclined it is perfectly possible to scratch your arse with disposable gloves on. FFS.

intrepidpanda · 02/01/2026 21:33

Muslim friends I know do this

DameOfThrones · 02/01/2026 21:34

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

Lol.

Good luck with the steak! 🥩

DameOfThrones · 02/01/2026 21:35

intrepidpanda · 02/01/2026 21:33

Muslim friends I know do this

What's the connection between Islam and cheap plastic cutlery?

bumptybum · 02/01/2026 21:36

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:52

I disagree. I worked in some restaurants when I was younger.

In some of those restaurants. the cutlery got a very quick rinse in the sink

They weren't washed well.

Then don’t go to shit restaurants. Every restaurant I’ve known uses machines.