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Why do we use cutlery in restaurants

250 replies

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:48

I was thinking this recently

Those knives, forks and spoons have been INSIDE thousands of other people's mouths.

I was starting to get disgusted by the thought. I think it is such a weird practice.

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

OP posts:
SouthernNights59 · 03/01/2026 04:43

RavenPie · 02/01/2026 22:38

I’m just not that arsed about a normal level of germs. I touch loads of things that other people touch all the time. I touch door handles, gates, bags, handrails etc. I drink out of glasses and eat off plates that many 1000s of people have used before. It just doesn’t bother me. I would change cutlery that was visibly dirty but that’s as far as I go. I have a normal level of hygiene I think - wash my hands a normal amount, shower daily, change into house clothes when I get in, brush 2+ times a day. I think my skin and nasal passages, stomach acid, immune system etc will protect my from fork germs. My own skin and mouth are crawling with bacteria - probably more than the average fork. I’m a bit particular about chopping boards but not cutlery. I’ve worked in some boak-tastic hospitality settings in my youth but still happily tuck in.
My camping cutlery is steel and inexpensive probably better than carrying around plastic. Do you take plastic glasses and paper plates too?

Good to know there are still some sensible people on MN. Honestly, who has time to be worrying about every little thing and where it might have been, who might have touched it etc. I suspect those of us who are capable of using a bit of common sense are far healthier.

HelmholtzWatson · 03/01/2026 04:54

There are far more germs on the keyboard or phone you used to type this message out.

scalt · 03/01/2026 06:56

RessicaJabbit · 02/01/2026 23:46

No because they sterilise everything it seems!

Indeed. We didn't do our children any favours in 2020 by making our environment so sterile.

Hyacinth Bucket lives on, even though Dame Patricia Routledge is no longer with us. In the "brochure" episode, she he is seen polishing a fork (while having only a coffee), and then peering at the rim of the cup, muttering "you frequently find traces of lipstick in places like this".

ParmaVioletTea · 03/01/2026 07:14

I don’t think I’ve read anything so stupid and neurotic, both at once.

Redpeach · 03/01/2026 07:16

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:54

Yes

Have you got sick after dining out alot?

Redpeach · 03/01/2026 07:58

Do you also have your own set of plastic implements for the dentist?

OonaStubbs · 03/01/2026 08:02

I just take my own stainless steel spork that I take out with me for meals and dinner parties etc. It saves me no end of worry with regard to using restaurant/other people's cutlery that might not have been cleaned to my own high standards.

sittingonabeach · 03/01/2026 08:17

If you don’t trust their hygiene standards regarding cutlery how do you trust their cooking hygiene standards?

Longleggedgiraffe · 03/01/2026 09:08

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:26

How is it unreasonable to point out that, in many places, cutlery does not go through a dishwasher?

How unreasonable is it to point out that in many places cutlery does go through a dishwasher?

CotswoldsCamilla · 03/01/2026 09:45

RessicaJabbit · 02/01/2026 23:45

What makes you think the napkin is clean enough to make the cutlery cleaner by wiping it with it?

Well it looks clean, it’s not stained and it’s ironed.

You’re not wrong,
but at what point do you draw the line.

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 03/01/2026 09:53

Longleggedgiraffe · 03/01/2026 09:08

How unreasonable is it to point out that in many places cutlery does go through a dishwasher?

Nobody has said that it is.

RessicaJabbit · 03/01/2026 09:56

CotswoldsCamilla · 03/01/2026 09:45

Well it looks clean, it’s not stained and it’s ironed.

You’re not wrong,
but at what point do you draw the line.

Well, the cutlery looks clean...

CotswoldsCamilla · 03/01/2026 10:14

RessicaJabbit · 03/01/2026 09:56

Well, the cutlery looks clean...

The difference though, is the barely washed/rinsed only cutlery looks the same as that which has been properly washed whereas a napkin that has only been rinsed probably won’t look as clean as one that’s been boiled and starched. I could of course be all wrong but that’s what my (up until now) brain was subconsciously telling me. I’m saying all this because it’s exactly what happened on Friday in Nandos at an airport. The cutlery looked clean but I just didn’t “trust” it for some reason and cleaned the fork with the napkin although in this case it was a paper napkin and I took it from the middle of the pile.
(I’m also never discussed this particular subconscious behaviour before in my life! 😃)

FairKoala · 03/01/2026 10:20

OonaStubbs · 03/01/2026 08:02

I just take my own stainless steel spork that I take out with me for meals and dinner parties etc. It saves me no end of worry with regard to using restaurant/other people's cutlery that might not have been cleaned to my own high standards.

Very rude if you take out your own cutlery at someone’s house.

BeverleyBrooks · 03/01/2026 11:01

This whole thread is bonkers.
Humans are not designed to live in sterile environments.

cremebrulee972 · 03/01/2026 11:03

I let my dog lick all cutlery & plates clean ( I mean I could just put them back in the drawers ) but I put them in the dishwasher

zingally · 03/01/2026 11:06

Because people would look at us funny if we just used our hands...?

Seriously though. Things get washed. Far better for the health of the planet than disposable.

You'll be the one people look at weird if you get out your plastic cutlery!

matchboxmum · 03/01/2026 11:09

Best not to breathe any air then op, it’s not just been in people’s mouths but in their lungs too.

lizzyBennet08 · 03/01/2026 11:27

Don't forget not to go to pubs too .. imagine how many people have drank beer or wine from your glass before you.. the horror ..

WalkDontWalk · 03/01/2026 11:36

Would you kiss someone after a date at a restaurant? Or do you supply your dates with plastic cutlery too? How does that go down?

Disturbia81 · 03/01/2026 11:45

This could lead to allsorts of other questions..
why do we use public toilets?
why do we put genitals in our mouth?
why do we use public transport and touch things that others have?
why do we share a buffet?
why do nurses reuse equipment on us?

We can’t live in a totally sanitised society where everything is just for us.

sickleaveornot · 03/01/2026 12:05

DeanElderberry · 02/01/2026 21:01

Anyone who puts their cutlery inside their mouth has such shockingly bad table manners that they should not be allowed out in public.

Minor exemption for small spoons used to eat mousse or similar.

Soup? Also even a small part of a fork ends up in your mouth when your biting the food of it?

How do you eat in a way no part of the cutlery gets in your mouth 😂

FastFood · 03/01/2026 12:07

Wait until OP realises that the air we breathe has been in many pairs of lungs before.

Disturbia81 · 03/01/2026 12:31

FastFood · 03/01/2026 12:07

Wait until OP realises that the air we breathe has been in many pairs of lungs before.

Yes and we drink and shower in previous shit and piss water.

chaosmaker · 03/01/2026 12:35

hmdxm1 · 02/01/2026 23:21

Haha as much as I’m sure OP is being ripped a new one I do sort of understand the thought process, I thought about this recently when thinking about hotels and mattresses, I would NEVER buy a second hand mattress Envy and yet I stay in hotels…

Havent resorted to bringing my own bedsheets or mattress to a hotel yet though, for clarity.

i took one to a hotel because otherwise you only have a duvet on top of you. I like a sheet so that when i get too hot I can just be under the sheet,