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Why do we use cutlery in restaurants

250 replies

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:48

I was thinking this recently

Those knives, forks and spoons have been INSIDE thousands of other people's mouths.

I was starting to get disgusted by the thought. I think it is such a weird practice.

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

OP posts:
bridgetreilly · 03/01/2026 12:36

And how many times has anyone got ill from using restaurant cutlery?

I’ll wait.

OttersMayHaveShifted · 03/01/2026 12:39

Another day, another psychotically germphobic MN thread.

JackJarvisEsq · 03/01/2026 12:43

You’re at more risk from the food than the cutlery

Cherrytree86 · 03/01/2026 13:01

XenoBitch · 02/01/2026 21:12

It is people who hover who create the pissy seats in the first place.

I have never hovered, and have never had the skin on my thighs erupt into sores either.

@XenoBitch

you must hover sometimes surely? You wouldn’t just sit in someone’s piss?

Cherrytree86 · 03/01/2026 13:03

In fairness to OP, the last couple of times I was in Nando’s (which was ages ago) the cutlery didn’t look remotely clean. Gross. Who wants to use that?? And people saying that you can’t catch germs…you do know how glandular fever is spread right??

dailyconniptions · 03/01/2026 13:17

Cherrytree86 · 03/01/2026 13:01

@XenoBitch

you must hover sometimes surely? You wouldn’t just sit in someone’s piss?

I have never hovered in my life. Fuck that shit. It makes piss go all over the seat. If it's wet when I get I there, I either choose another cubicle or dry it very thoroughly using toilet paper. Then a bit of hand sanitiser wiped over as I have a small bottle in my bag. DO NOT HOVER PLEASE.

chaosmaker · 03/01/2026 13:23

Cherrytree86 · 03/01/2026 13:01

@XenoBitch

you must hover sometimes surely? You wouldn’t just sit in someone’s piss?

as pp said, you clean it up first. In the same way you check that the stall has toilet paper in it before you wee.
Edited to say that the poxy hoverers should just put the damn seat up first. Lowlifes!

Cherrytree86 · 03/01/2026 13:50

chaosmaker · 03/01/2026 13:23

as pp said, you clean it up first. In the same way you check that the stall has toilet paper in it before you wee.
Edited to say that the poxy hoverers should just put the damn seat up first. Lowlifes!

Edited

@chaosmaker @dailyconniptions

ewwww, I ain’t cleaning up someone else’s piss. I’ll hover, I can do that perfectly well without spraying piss everywhere

RubberyChicken · 03/01/2026 14:00

If I stay at a hotel with a eat as much as you like breakfast I take my own 12 inch plate

JackJarvisEsq · 03/01/2026 15:34

RubberyChicken · 03/01/2026 14:00

If I stay at a hotel with a eat as much as you like breakfast I take my own 12 inch plate

Aha

Why do we use cutlery in restaurants
youegg · 03/01/2026 17:14

FishPie2 · 02/01/2026 23:08

My friend and I sat in a restaurant and watched a bored waiter take a fork out of the drawer and proceed to clean out his nails with it then threw it back in.
She went up and asked to see the manager and insisted that all the cutlery was removed and cleaned.
It held up the setting up of the rest of the tables but she stood there until it was done. Good job we had seen him do it.

And then everyone clapped?

DrCoconut · 03/01/2026 17:20

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:48

I was thinking this recently

Those knives, forks and spoons have been INSIDE thousands of other people's mouths.

I was starting to get disgusted by the thought. I think it is such a weird practice.

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

Apparently in the past people had their own cutlery set and took it with them if eating out. I'm guessing it was basic and not for dining with royalty or something.

Longleggedgiraffe · 03/01/2026 18:10

RavenPie · 02/01/2026 22:38

I’m just not that arsed about a normal level of germs. I touch loads of things that other people touch all the time. I touch door handles, gates, bags, handrails etc. I drink out of glasses and eat off plates that many 1000s of people have used before. It just doesn’t bother me. I would change cutlery that was visibly dirty but that’s as far as I go. I have a normal level of hygiene I think - wash my hands a normal amount, shower daily, change into house clothes when I get in, brush 2+ times a day. I think my skin and nasal passages, stomach acid, immune system etc will protect my from fork germs. My own skin and mouth are crawling with bacteria - probably more than the average fork. I’m a bit particular about chopping boards but not cutlery. I’ve worked in some boak-tastic hospitality settings in my youth but still happily tuck in.
My camping cutlery is steel and inexpensive probably better than carrying around plastic. Do you take plastic glasses and paper plates too?

This is me. My father was brought up in a less hygenic setting and he lived until he was 92.
Everything in moderation.

Disturbia81 · 03/01/2026 18:20

curious79 · 02/01/2026 21:10

You actually sit on public loo seats?! I thought everyone hovered (particularly given most seats seem to be covered in piss)

I have never hovered in my life, that’s who is getting pee on the seats. Just wipe the seat.

XenoBitch · 03/01/2026 18:34

Cherrytree86 · 03/01/2026 13:01

@XenoBitch

you must hover sometimes surely? You wouldn’t just sit in someone’s piss?

No, never. If a toilet looks particularly grim then I choose another one. Or I wipe the seat with loo roll. I will be washing my hands after anyway.

chaosmaker · 03/01/2026 19:54

Cherrytree86 · 03/01/2026 13:50

@chaosmaker @dailyconniptions

ewwww, I ain’t cleaning up someone else’s piss. I’ll hover, I can do that perfectly well without spraying piss everywhere

BUT can you put the seat up if the seat has NOT been already pissed on

HopeSpringsEternally · 03/01/2026 22:37

RessicaJabbit · 02/01/2026 23:43

They can cough and sneeze into a glove you know.... Gloves doesn't mean clean

So true.
I've often seen staff in canteens wearing latex gloves and using their fingers to pick up food from serving dishes and then handling knives and cutlery and also tapping in the price on the till.

13RidgmontRoad · 04/01/2026 08:01

Fwiw OP I have the same thought and assumed it was linked to my autism - I notice the “weird” in things often. The thought does put me off eating in restaurants etc and I do sometimes take my own (metal) cutlery. I have similar issues with water but have obviously had to get over myself.

RessicaJabbit · 04/01/2026 08:32

13RidgmontRoad · 04/01/2026 08:01

Fwiw OP I have the same thought and assumed it was linked to my autism - I notice the “weird” in things often. The thought does put me off eating in restaurants etc and I do sometimes take my own (metal) cutlery. I have similar issues with water but have obviously had to get over myself.

Don't you worry about the shared crockery and drink ware?

Beetlebumz · 04/01/2026 09:03

Seriously get help

13RidgmontRoad · 04/01/2026 09:05

RessicaJabbit · 04/01/2026 08:32

Don't you worry about the shared crockery and drink ware?

Yes, to all of that. I try and balance my own issues around this with just living a normal life/trying to eat out and enjoy it without my hangups getting in the way. I also have “my” cutlery etc at home - no one else knows afaik.

Somersetbaker · 04/01/2026 09:20

If your that worried eat with the fingers on your right hand, the left hand is for wiping your arse.

FuckOffWithYourFlannelNonsense · 04/01/2026 11:21

Somersetbaker · 04/01/2026 09:20

If your that worried eat with the fingers on your right hand, the left hand is for wiping your arse.

...and don't forget to take a flannel with you!

KimberleyClark · 04/01/2026 11:24

What about hotel rooms OP? How do you feel about sleeping in bed linen in which thousands have slept before, using towels which thousands of other people have dried their bits on, sitting in baths where thousands of bums have sat before?

Umy15r03lcha1 · 04/01/2026 15:55

Cheeses, how do you leave the house?

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