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Why do we use cutlery in restaurants

250 replies

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:48

I was thinking this recently

Those knives, forks and spoons have been INSIDE thousands of other people's mouths.

I was starting to get disgusted by the thought. I think it is such a weird practice.

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

OP posts:
Arlanymor · 02/01/2026 21:50

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 21:45

You have no idea if the pillow protector has been washed.

In decent places they are.

Gliblet · 02/01/2026 21:50

DeanElderberry · 02/01/2026 21:01

Anyone who puts their cutlery inside their mouth has such shockingly bad table manners that they should not be allowed out in public.

Minor exemption for small spoons used to eat mousse or similar.

Eh? What about soup? And what do you do with forks? Hold the food six inches from your mouth and flick?

Clartzilla · 02/01/2026 21:51

NeverDropYourMooncup · 02/01/2026 21:42

And if you then ended up having to polish the cutlery, you'd develop hands with the heat tolerance of asbestos (dunking the still hot, sanitised cutlery into a pot of just off the boil water and drying them with disposable napkins).

I had a boss in my early 20s (at least 2 decades ago) who made us polish them straight from a tub of boiling water with a drop of vinegar and a polishing cloth.

This was after they had already been through the pot wash and the sanitiser.

Same with the wine glasses but they weren't allowed through the pot wash. She HATED women wearing too much lipstick and tutted when it came back in on the thin crystal.

I hated her at the time she was a horrible horrible woman but she had extremely high standards and I look back at what I learnt from her about good wine and expensive Italian food and her massive proper fur coats with a pinch of fondness.

ScholesPanda · 02/01/2026 21:52

How do you feel about glasses? Surely a lot of people have had those in their mouths too?

DameOfThrones · 02/01/2026 21:52

intrepidpanda · 02/01/2026 21:46

I have no idea. But they all use disposable rather than shared.

But they're your friends, have you never asked them why they do this strange thing?

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 21:53

Arlanymor · 02/01/2026 21:50

In decent places they are.

How do you know?

suburburban · 02/01/2026 21:53

Usual practice is to dishwash them then polish in hot water

plastic cutlery is awful for the environment

Rhaidimiddim · 02/01/2026 21:54

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 21:45

Not to mention the water...

🤢

Arlanymor · 02/01/2026 21:55

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 21:53

How do you know?

Do you want my CV? How do YOU know they are not?

PolyVagalNerve · 02/01/2026 21:55

OonaStubbs · 02/01/2026 21:04

Why do people drink water? It has all been drunk by somebody else and been through their body and then pissed out into a toilet and then recycled. Disgusting!

Exactly !! Toilet to tap 🚰
yummm !!!

1Messycoo · 02/01/2026 21:55

You are the disgusting one using Plastic that gets scratched and not sanitised ! yuk and revolting. Look up infection control ….

SleepingisanArt · 02/01/2026 21:56

OP I've owned restaurants and couldn't touch the cutlery when it came out of the wash! Unbelievably hot. And we used to polish it too - that involves steam. Much more hygienic than cutlery you produce from your handbag!

Millytante · 02/01/2026 21:57

Is this the kind of thing that’d explain why so many Americans eat and drink from disposable tumblers and plates, using plastic utensils? AT HOME! !

Im sure there’s no corner of science that could back this, but eating with crappy plastic cutlery would ruin food for me (unless it was a case of having to); a good dinner at a restaurant, most certainly!

EstoyRobandoSuCasa · 02/01/2026 21:57

You could always stick to eating at Subway, OP. There's no cutlery to be seen there. I wish there was as I always get barbecue sauce on my hands.

pontipinemum · 02/01/2026 21:58

I get it, I don't worry or think about it often. But when I do it makes me uncomfortable.

Not from a hygiene POV - even though I did see questionable things in the few restaurants/ bars I worked in 15 ish years ago now - more from a 'what lives has this fork already had'

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:00

Arlanymor · 02/01/2026 21:55

Do you want my CV? How do YOU know they are not?

Well, you asserted that pillow protectors are washed. I just asked how do you know?

So, yes, I take my own pillow to hotels, BnBs, etc.

As for all the others saying that cutlery is washed to a very high temperature, that very much depends on the establishment. Most cutlery is washed by the KP and rinsed a bit. It might be polished, but not all of the crockery or cutlery goes through a dishwasher.

IcedPurple · 02/01/2026 22:01

Cutlery in restaurants is washed at very high heat so will be sterilised.

But you know that, don't you?

scalt · 02/01/2026 22:02

I think we can say that the campaign of fear worked too well.

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:02

IcedPurple · 02/01/2026 22:01

Cutlery in restaurants is washed at very high heat so will be sterilised.

But you know that, don't you?

Not always, it isn't. Have you heard of a Kitchen Porter, otherwise known as a KP? Do you know what they do?

CheeseWisely · 02/01/2026 22:03

Because industrial dishwashers run up to about 85 degrees? I sent feedback (by email to the head office) recently at an attraction near us because they provide wooden single use cutlery but in a cafe where you eat in, and they use real crockery. If they’re washing the plates anyway (in the industrial dishwashers visible in the open kitchen) why are they being so disgustingly wasteful with the cutlery? Wooden cutlery makes my skin crawl so I carry my own metal travel set if we’re getting takeaway but I wouldn’t crack them out in a restaurant!

CherrieTomaties · 02/01/2026 22:03

Do you go to bars and pubs and drink from glasses that hundreds of other people have drunk from?

Do you stay in hotels and sleep in beds that hundreds of other people have slept in?

Do you also use hotel showers and use a towel to get dry that hundreds of other people have used to get dry with?

Do you get on trains and sit on seats that hundreds of other people have sat on?

soupyspoon · 02/01/2026 22:03

My dad always had a funny little habit that Ive never seen anyone else do, he will rub the fork and knife with the napkin before eating if he is in a cafe/restaurant or whatever

Ive never asked him about it actually

CheeseWisely · 02/01/2026 22:04

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:02

Not always, it isn't. Have you heard of a Kitchen Porter, otherwise known as a KP? Do you know what they do?

The KPs in the numerous restaurants I’ve worked in have loaded the high temperature dishwasher, unloaded it, and helped with some basic food prep.

SandyY2K · 02/01/2026 22:04

OP maybe you should stick to eating at home if you feel that way.

I used to work in the hospitality industry and crockery was put through an industrial dishwasher.

soupyspoon · 02/01/2026 22:04

I also hate wooden cutlery like others here. Horrible stuff