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Why do we use cutlery in restaurants

250 replies

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:48

I was thinking this recently

Those knives, forks and spoons have been INSIDE thousands of other people's mouths.

I was starting to get disgusted by the thought. I think it is such a weird practice.

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

OP posts:
EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:26

Longleggedgiraffe · 02/01/2026 22:24

That doesn't mean all restaurants are gross. Sorry, but you're being unreasonable.

How is it unreasonable to point out that, in many places, cutlery does not go through a dishwasher?

TeaAndTattoos · 02/01/2026 22:28

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:10

So you've never seen a KP quickly swirling the cutlery in the middle of a busy service, clearly 😄

I was a kitchen porter I never did that not even during a busy Sunday service everything went through the incredibly hot dishwasher. You must go to some seriously downmarket grotty places.

Shallana · 02/01/2026 22:32

I worked in a pub 15 years ago - just your average family establishment that served food and one of my jobs was polishing all the cutlery - rinsing it in scalding hot water and, wiping it with blue roll and folding it in a napkin. It's very obvious when cutlery hasn't been polished like this, it's dull and watermarked.

RedRiverShore6 · 02/01/2026 22:34

Surely you would just use your own cutlery and take it home and wash it up, why would you use disposable cutlery

KittyEckersley · 02/01/2026 22:35

I think for food hygiene you don’t need to have a dishwasher (and not everything could be dishwasher anyway) but need to have sufficiently hot soapy water and another sink for rinsing/sanitising.

RavenPie · 02/01/2026 22:38

I’m just not that arsed about a normal level of germs. I touch loads of things that other people touch all the time. I touch door handles, gates, bags, handrails etc. I drink out of glasses and eat off plates that many 1000s of people have used before. It just doesn’t bother me. I would change cutlery that was visibly dirty but that’s as far as I go. I have a normal level of hygiene I think - wash my hands a normal amount, shower daily, change into house clothes when I get in, brush 2+ times a day. I think my skin and nasal passages, stomach acid, immune system etc will protect my from fork germs. My own skin and mouth are crawling with bacteria - probably more than the average fork. I’m a bit particular about chopping boards but not cutlery. I’ve worked in some boak-tastic hospitality settings in my youth but still happily tuck in.
My camping cutlery is steel and inexpensive probably better than carrying around plastic. Do you take plastic glasses and paper plates too?

Winterburn · 02/01/2026 22:39

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:52

I disagree. I worked in some restaurants when I was younger.

In some of those restaurants. the cutlery got a very quick rinse in the sink

They weren't washed well.

And yet you’ve only just realised that restaurant cutlery could be dirty?

Pull the other one, the fake threads are getting 🥱 at least make the effort to make a long and exciting story up.

jannier · 02/01/2026 22:41

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:52

I disagree. I worked in some restaurants when I was younger.

In some of those restaurants. the cutlery got a very quick rinse in the sink

They weren't washed well.

If your that worried how do you cope with eating the food?

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:42

KittyEckersley · 02/01/2026 22:35

I think for food hygiene you don’t need to have a dishwasher (and not everything could be dishwasher anyway) but need to have sufficiently hot soapy water and another sink for rinsing/sanitising.

Yes, you do not need to have a dishwasher. FSA does not monitor the temperature of the washing up water throughout the year.

RafaFan · 02/01/2026 22:43

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:52

I disagree. I worked in some restaurants when I was younger.

In some of those restaurants. the cutlery got a very quick rinse in the sink

They weren't washed well.

I worked in an inn with questionable hygiene in some areas, but even it had an industrial dishwasher. If a domestic dishwasher is good enough for baby bottles, a restaurant dishwasher is sufficient to wash and sanitise cutlery.

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 02/01/2026 22:45

RafaFan · 02/01/2026 22:43

I worked in an inn with questionable hygiene in some areas, but even it had an industrial dishwasher. If a domestic dishwasher is good enough for baby bottles, a restaurant dishwasher is sufficient to wash and sanitise cutlery.

I worked in a pub with a Five rating for hygiene. It did not have a dishwasher, industrial or otherwise.

cakewitch · 02/01/2026 22:46

Hundreds of thousands of people go to cafes and restaurants every day and eat meals using the cutlery provided with their food, completely without harm.

Alpacajigsaw · 02/01/2026 22:46

Jesus OP this is bonkers

marshallzumarubble · 02/01/2026 22:47

RavenPie · 02/01/2026 22:38

I’m just not that arsed about a normal level of germs. I touch loads of things that other people touch all the time. I touch door handles, gates, bags, handrails etc. I drink out of glasses and eat off plates that many 1000s of people have used before. It just doesn’t bother me. I would change cutlery that was visibly dirty but that’s as far as I go. I have a normal level of hygiene I think - wash my hands a normal amount, shower daily, change into house clothes when I get in, brush 2+ times a day. I think my skin and nasal passages, stomach acid, immune system etc will protect my from fork germs. My own skin and mouth are crawling with bacteria - probably more than the average fork. I’m a bit particular about chopping boards but not cutlery. I’ve worked in some boak-tastic hospitality settings in my youth but still happily tuck in.
My camping cutlery is steel and inexpensive probably better than carrying around plastic. Do you take plastic glasses and paper plates too?

This!

The big question is are people getting ill? And the answer is no, sure, there are occasional reports of restaurants causing food poisoning but, generally, no. Most people go to restaurants, bars, hotels etc... use everything and are fine. Obviously places need to have hygiene ratings and standards but, for the most part, we are pretty sturdy and capable of dealing with stuff. Obviously if you are vulnerable or imuno-supressed then that is slightly different and I could understand taking your own (metal) cutlery but if you are in fairly good nick then get on with it.

Franjipanl8r · 02/01/2026 22:56

Ingesting microplastics from the disposable cutlery will cause you way more issues than using regular cutlery.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S016041202400326X#:~:text=A%20plethora%20of%20kitchen%20utensils,then%20be%20ingested%20alongside%20food.

youalright · 02/01/2026 22:59

There are certain things in life its best not to think about this is one of them

brunettemic · 02/01/2026 22:59

This is why I always wear a gas mask, can’t be breathing air that has been in other people’s lungs. Better safe than sorry I always say!

chaosmaker · 02/01/2026 23:01

Nannyogganny · 02/01/2026 20:48

I was thinking this recently

Those knives, forks and spoons have been INSIDE thousands of other people's mouths.

I was starting to get disgusted by the thought. I think it is such a weird practice.

I have now bought my own cheap plastic disposable cutlery, and bring it with me

Ha, bet you never had a metal clamp for your smear test that had been inside thousands of other women. LOL
NHS wastes loads of money on plastic disposables.

Okiedokie123 · 02/01/2026 23:01

If you need to take your own cutlery why are you not taking your own plate as well?
think of the germs that must be on the plates!!

If you are going to be seriously odd op at least take cutlery you can take home and wash rather than just throw away.

MagicStarrz · 02/01/2026 23:03

CactusSwoonedEnding · 02/01/2026 21:49

No only ignorant people hover. If you wipe the loo seat of any obvious remains and don't have any open weeping sores on your thighs, you cannot get any kind of infection through your skin in that context. You could just about manage to pick up a infection if you are flexible enough to lick your thighs afterwards like a cat can.

But who wants to sit on someone else's bodily fluids? Gross.

XenoBitch · 02/01/2026 23:03

brunettemic · 02/01/2026 22:59

This is why I always wear a gas mask, can’t be breathing air that has been in other people’s lungs. Better safe than sorry I always say!

Or air that has come out of their arse.

Obeseandashamed · 02/01/2026 23:04

I often wonder this myself!

XenoBitch · 02/01/2026 23:04

MagicStarrz · 02/01/2026 23:03

But who wants to sit on someone else's bodily fluids? Gross.

Piss on seats is caused by people hovering. Why don't they wipe it off after?

MagicStarrz · 02/01/2026 23:05

intrepidpanda · 02/01/2026 21:46

I have no idea. But they all use disposable rather than shared.

Really they all do? What are you basing this on?

chaosmaker · 02/01/2026 23:06

XenoBitch · 02/01/2026 23:04

Piss on seats is caused by people hovering. Why don't they wipe it off after?

why can't the lazy idiots lift the sit first