What do you call a middle aged woman in Nando's?

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Peri peri menopausal.

AIBU to think this is a great joke? My partner came up with it this morning and isn't as proud of it as I think he should be.

YANBU - it's hilarious
YABU - it's only worthy of a cheap Christmas cracker

You should send it in to the adam buxton podcast

LTB.

Are you suggesting that women of any age can be peri (peri) menopausal?

Q: What do you call a middle aged woman in Nandos?

A: Seeking a break from her husbands shit chat

It made me smile but I had to go with YABU because obviously it's not 'hilarious' 🤭

I liked it!

What does he want, a medal? Here, have the Grand Order of Misogynist Shite 🥉

What do you call a middle aged white man in Nandos?

CEO

Cringing inside out for you OP. Ageist sexist unfunny claptrap.

Oh please. Unclench. I'm peri menopausal and found it funny. There's nothing derogatory or malicious in it. This really is the stuff of people looking for things to be offended by. Have a day off.

Calm down

Deary me, I didn't think acknowledging basic female biology would get him accused of being a misogynist AND an ageist!

According to Google is a joke by British comedian Gary Delaney.

I am glad I am single.

It's pretty cringe.

I've seen variations of this so many times on Instagram over the last week. What do 40+ women like on their sandwich? Peri peri mayonnaise

He didn't invent it. Don't be so easily impressed.

Same.

YABU for believing he came up with that himself.

Old joke.

Replies once again proving that what everyone else says about Mumsnet is true 🤭

It's a Christmas cracker joke for sure, OP - funny, but not as funny as watching the outraged (dare I say peri menopausal? 🤭) women racing to condemn him, and you, and men in general.

Yep and if you agree it’s funny they’ll say you’re trying to be a “cool wife” 🙄

Yep. Sorry OP but you DH didn’t come up with it. There’s several variations on this. Gary Delaneys versions is:

What do you call the area in a Nando’s between the front and back door?

The Peri-peri-neum!

Now that’s clever.

Where are people finding ageism, sexism, and/or misogyny in “peri peri menopausal”?

I’d genuinely appreciate if someone who has called this joke/OPs DH any of these things could explain the thought process behind labelling a (what I thought was a relatively inoffensive) dad-style joke like this!

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I don't find it offensive, just not funny

It made me smile momentarily but it's not hilarious.

I didn't see it as misogynistic or ageist though. There's obviously a strong association between peri-menopause and being a "woman of a certain age". The joke doesn't mock or criticise women. I'd be interested in why others find it problematic.

I wonder if the issue is partly that the OP's partner is male? Would the joke have landed better if the source was female? Would it come off OK from, say, Jo Brand or Sarah Millican?

Jokes that are seen as punching down in that they are made at the expense of groups that are or have been targets of discrimination are bad, but does this joke punch down? It's just a mild bit of wordplay and doesn't really punch at all, does it?

ETA: basically, what @MagpieOak said!