To not like Grandad tickling grandkids??

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Okay… I’m fully expecting to get flamed here. I’ve always got weird vibes about DH’s dad. Due to proximity, we don’t see much of him, and he has always made quite minimal effort with DC. However, DC are now 12 and 9 and he has started doing this thing where he comes over and tickles their legs (knee area). I don’t know why, but it’s making me uncomfortable, although the kids seem okay. I just find it weird for some reason. I obviously haven’t said anything to anyone irl because I have nothing other than a weird feeling.

Is it me? AIBU?

Would it be easier for DH to address it as it's his family

Ask your girls how they feel about it & let them know its ok to tell Grandad to stop if they don't like it. If you see him doing it, casually say something like 'stop messing about, it's annoying them' Always go with your gut feeling where your kids safety is concerned. Even if it's all innocent you're looking out for your kids.

I have seen tickling progress (in a very sneaky way) to worse. I’d ask my husband to stop it.

If he doesn’t then I wouldn’t hesitate to tell the grandad not to do it.

Your gut is correct - act on it and protect your kids.

Even if your daughters liked being tickled when they were little, they are of an age when it’s time to stop, not start. That’s ridiculous and highly inappropriate. Put a stop to it now and don’t worry about causing offence-that’s performative to get you to back off.