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To be upset that no one got me a present this year

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middleeastmum86 · 26/12/2025 14:32

Put on a big family christmas for 8 people. Spent a fortune on food, presents for the kids, alcohol, buying presents for everyone. Spent all day cooking frankly a Michelin star level meal. Did not get any presents off anyone. Literally nothing. I spent over £1500 on putting that day on.

I’m not even that upset I’m just resigned to it and more upset that I’m not more upset if you know what I mean!

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Bankiebabe · 30/12/2025 18:25

Feel your pain. I have been with my bf for over 3 months. I spent about £100 on small gifts for him my choice I know.He got me nothing as he had no money not even a card . It’s beginning to rankle with me and I can feel myself withdrawing from him

Nevermind17 · 30/12/2025 18:36

starrynight009 · 26/12/2025 14:59

Buy yourself something. I know it's not the same when it's your own money but get yourself something you'd like...a spa voucher, a new coat etc But yes it's really upsetting that no-one thought to get you anything.

Google 'SNL Christmas robe'. It will make you laugh at least. I think a lot of mothers can relate to it.

That’s hilarious! I definitely identify with that. 😂 I actually didn’t get a dressing gown this year, which is lucky as the 8 that are currently hanging on the back of the bedroom door are always falling off.

taxguru · 30/12/2025 18:45

Bankiebabe · 30/12/2025 18:25

Feel your pain. I have been with my bf for over 3 months. I spent about £100 on small gifts for him my choice I know.He got me nothing as he had no money not even a card . It’s beginning to rankle with me and I can feel myself withdrawing from him

My first serious boyfriend got his "nan" to knit me a small stuffed cuddly toy that cost him nothing and he didn't even buy me a card. I bought him several presents and a lovely expensive card for our first Xmas. We swopped gifts on the afternoon of Xmas Eve and I ditched him that evening! It wasn't as if he had no money, he had a full time job and had plenty of money for beer and nights out with his mates. He couldn't actually understand why I dumped him and thought his freebie cuddly toy was better than something bought because it was "home made" - completely over his head that it wasn't made by him, but by his "nan"! (It was awful anyway and I donated it to a charity shop soon afterwards!).

Betterversionofme · 14/10/2026 09:50

I was wondering. What are you doing this Christmas? Are you hosting Christmas this year?
Whatever it is, I hope it will be very different for you.

Sharptonguedwoman · 14/10/2026 10:21

PollyPlumPeach · 26/12/2025 15:12

Depends who the family are. Wouldn't expect anything from distant relatives even if I'd volunteered to host

No one turns up without chocolates or fancy biscuits or similar, surely? I would find that very rude.

OneNewEagle · 14/10/2026 10:34

Yes hi OP what are your plans for this year? I’m hoping you are all going out of lunch or someone else is hosting.

i have had a year without any gifts for anything. Also a hellish year all round.

OneNewEagle · 14/10/2026 10:35

Sharptonguedwoman · 14/10/2026 10:21

No one turns up without chocolates or fancy biscuits or similar, surely? I would find that very rude.

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It is rude, how hard can it be to take a box of crackers or a tin of chocolates.

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