“Husband accused me of an affair” threads… not ATAAT but a question.

[CunningLinguist2]

Is @devoed okay? Threads disappeared & I am rooting hard for her & her kids against the KH.

I wondered where they had gone and if KH had found them.

I assumed KH or someone attached to him realised they were about them and they had to be removed.

I’m not surprised at this.

I am still here…I felt I’d shared too much info that would mean it was obviously me if anyone found it, and that I’d be shown as in contempt of court.

I am happy to update as things go on, but I don’t think it’s wise for me to share a lot until after things are finalised. I just don’t want to give a desperate KH anything to use against me.

But thank you all so much for your advice and support. It’s really helped keep me sane.

I do hope Devoed is okay, and have a lovely Christmas. Hopefully she just got a bit twitchy about KH potentially finding the thread and asked for it to be removed.

Don't MNHQ say why they're removing a thread anymore?

I think you’ve done the right thing, I hope your Christmas Day with your DC went well, and looking forward to the New Year when you get everything with ex sorted.

Best of luck @Devoed

Still thinking of you and wishing you all the best @Devoed 🩵

Good luck @Devoed! Wise move, don't blame you at all! Hope you've had a lovely Christmas with the kids.

Still rooting for you, @Devoedxx

I can tell you that I had similar threads to yours and 3000 posts. Somebody recognised them and told ex and OW. They printed the whole lot out and gave to court. Judge was completely disinterested. It is not contempt. As long as you don’t share orders/court names/judges, you can seek whatever means of support you need. I hope it all goes well and do let us know how you get on.

@Devoed thinking of you and hope your Christmas with DC was truly lovely. Very best of luck for all that is to come and I am crossing my fingers for you.

I just needed to know you’re okay! Totally understand etc and wish you all the very very best. You’re NOT wrong in your fright against KH (he’s K.h for soooo many reasons). I hope it all goes your way & that when / if you can, you’ll swing by with an update of how you got everything you wanted & hoped for. A lot of us are rooting for you & and a perpetual, virtual oestrogen cloud from us all will hopefully help carry you through.

@Devoed
I've never posted but followed your story since the start.

I'm really happy to hear that you're ok, I was also worrying a bit there 🤗

I can totally understand why you deleted your threads, but... I also get what others have said before about not letting it all get to you and not stressing about every last detail!

So, I suppose my message is: be sure that the choices you make are to suit yourself and your children.
That's easier said than done when you have to deal with a total knobhead, I think everyone understands that!

Just don't let him take too much of you away from you. We're not walking in your shoes, no, but we see how strong you are. Remember that when you are worrying about how he twists things.

If only half of what you have told us is true (and I believe you 100%) then has already dug himself enough of a hole 😉

Take good care of yourself and your peeps...remember to breathe (properly) and carry on being you (more than good enough from what I've read) 😘

Your only priority should be protecting yourself and your DC. If you think your tread was a risk then you were right to remove it.

I hope you can still get the support you need from here too.

@Devoed i was also worried and still want to follow your journey as i cannot wait until KH gets to court and the judge pulls his ‘stories’ apart and you get the peace you deserve… i just wanted to make you aware i can still view your original post (part 1) and previous part 2 just incase you wish to remove those also ???
Stay strong you are almost there ❤️🍀

I’m so so glad I found this. I’ve honestly been thinking about you all Christmas. Glad you’re ok x

@devoed You crossed my mind again and I hope you’re doing okay. Keep on keeping on! Screw the KH!

@CunningLinguist2
Thank you…we’re in court next week, I’m very anxious.

I think my position statement is strong, and KH is hostile, his way or the highway and not child focussed. I feel it will go to final hearing, in fact, KH says it will if I don’t agree with him.

DC are feeling it now, we have tears every time they go. Not wailing, just talking as tears roll down their cheeks.

I do not understand how he can treat them like this.

It's understandable that you're feeling anxious Devoed but you actually sound fairly confident from what you've written.

I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with tears every time the children have to go to him, how did they cope with it over Christmas?

Of course you don't understand how he can treat the children so badly, as you're a normal, loving Mum, where he is clearly a head case, who only thinks of himself, and how he can hurt you. Don't worry, Karma will catch up with the bastard eventually!

Wishing you the very best of luck in Court next week, please come onto this thread and tell us how it goes. I'm sure I won't be the only one thinking of you.

Sending you a hug to give you courage.

Hope it all goes well next week and the courts protect the DC from him.

I don’t feel confident in the system which is causing me such anxiety. I’m exhausted.

They made is through Christmas, they said it was too long though. There was also a disparity in presents between DC and DSC.

Courts don’t seem to care about that sort of thing though. Very frustrating.

STAY STRONG!!!
You are doing GREAT! And KH is turning up the dials because he’s cracking.
update us when u can and if you want, but either way, I’ll be keeping everything crossed for you.

Will be thinking of you!!!!! He's ramping up because he is panicking, he doesn't have the control he wants. You're doing great, have everything crossed for you and the kids that it goes your way.