It seems people just don't really have staying power any more - I'm not talking about abusive relationships, which of course need to end, but for example one on another current thread where the OP is wanting divorce after 20 years because her DH isn't much use around the house - the solution there of course is easy, hire a cleaner/housekeeper. The net result of that is both will be fiscally buggered in their mid 40's.
i don’t think it’s a “lack of staying power”, it’s that women increasingly won’t put up with crap relationships with substandard men who can’t be arsed to put in any of the mental effort (preferring to be told what to do: “Of course I’ll do things, you just need to tell me what they are!”) or who deliberately ruin things to show that they can or behave like petulant children when they aren’t the centre of attention. It would be interesting to hear these men be made to explain themselves, although I expect they’d just shrug and say they don’t know why they do it, or deny that they do. It’s what my ex did.
As for “Oh it’s so obvious, they just need to get a cleaner!”…Jesus wept. It’s not about the cleaning, it never is but the men in question never look beyond the superficial issue that they think just needs a quick fix. It’s to do with the lack of equality and effort and bloody thought. And even if a cleaner was the answer, guess who’ll end up organising it? 🙄
Statistically women are happier single and men happier in a couple - yes, because a significant proportion of men expect women to run their lives for them while still wanting to be some outdated “Big Man Of The House” to whom everyone defers. Women have a choice not to put up with that now and by God are we exercising it if we want to.