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DH is a spoilt brat

214 replies

arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 09:11

He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

OP posts:
Cupboarddoorknob · 25/12/2025 09:12

Wow. You sleep with this man?

Yoheresthestory · 25/12/2025 09:15

Get a fucking 100ml or 50ml dispenser and ask him if he’s intelligent enough to hold down a job since he couldn’t think of that simple solution himself.

Wishimaywishimight · 25/12/2025 09:15

I would think a man behaving like this must have lost his mind - it's actually really odd!

Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair · 25/12/2025 09:15

Has he not discovered that you can buy atomisers and he can put his fragrance on them for travel? Far better than carrying glass regardless.

Blingismything · 25/12/2025 09:25

These are great

DH is a spoilt brat
rwalker · 25/12/2025 09:25

I get the issue but fuck me you’d keep it to yourself

ThatCyanCat · 25/12/2025 09:26

Beat me to it. Is he actually stupid or is there some strange back story?

Tiddlywinkly · 25/12/2025 09:27

He's never heard of decanting?

TheSmallAssassin · 25/12/2025 09:29

I would be annoyed if I was him, but would take it as a lesson to state the "why" next time. It's a disappointment and it isn't easy to decant if it's in a spray bottle. He is being unreasonable to shout at you about it.

MrsDoubtingMyself · 25/12/2025 09:30

Tiddlywinkly · 25/12/2025 09:27

He's never heard of decanting?

Exactly this. What an absolute fuckwit he is

InterestedDad37 · 25/12/2025 09:32

I'd probably be pouring it over his head.
Then he'd smell nice for days, which might take the edge off him being a bit of an idiot 😀

pictoosh · 25/12/2025 09:32

No manners and no self-respect, behaving like a pampered prince.
Where's his dignity?

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 25/12/2025 09:33

Is it a smokescreen? He’s kicked off about this but it’s not the real problem?

Redburnett · 25/12/2025 09:39

I think this is a classic example of saying you want something for a gift and then being disappointed because what you get is not exactly what you wanted. Your DH was specific but without explaining why, he has apologised for overreacting, end of story. And he is going to buy the specific item himself, which is probably what we all do as adults in the end. Let the mini-saga become a joke as part of your family's Christmas traditions.

BCBird · 25/12/2025 09:47

pictoosh · 25/12/2025 09:32

No manners and no self-respect, behaving like a pampered prince.
Where's his dignity?

I totally agree. Would he tolerate this from.one of your children?

FeistyFrankie · 25/12/2025 09:58

Why is it so important that he smells nice when away travelling, I wonder..??

What's his job OP and where does he travel to?

BeeHearty · 25/12/2025 10:00

TheSmallAssassin · 25/12/2025 09:29

I would be annoyed if I was him, but would take it as a lesson to state the "why" next time. It's a disappointment and it isn't easy to decant if it's in a spray bottle. He is being unreasonable to shout at you about it.

It isn't easy for a chimp or small child. A grown adult can usually manage.

PixellatedPixie · 25/12/2025 10:05

Besides the fact that it can be decanted, how much does He actually travel that he would actually care SO much about this issue? Surely he could save it for home use? My DH travels so much for work that he is on gold guest list and yet he never ever talks about stuff for travelling or seem to care and tried to get out of trips wherever possible.

MamsKnit · 25/12/2025 10:09

His poor mum. She has obviously had a lifetime of this. Poor you.

ClareBlue · 25/12/2025 10:10

He said don't bother getting him anything again. Take him at his word.

CalzoneOnLegs · 25/12/2025 10:11

How could it be decanted ? Unless it isn’t an atomiser bottle

MyHazelOtter · 25/12/2025 10:11

Very often with these situations it's not about the size of the perfume. He has anger building and it was the straw that broke the camels back. Try and find out what is really bothering him

TheEverlastingPorridge · 25/12/2025 10:12

Yet you still call him "D" H - that is the most annoying part to me

Strawberryfruitcorner · 25/12/2025 10:12

Yoheresthestory · 25/12/2025 09:15

Get a fucking 100ml or 50ml dispenser and ask him if he’s intelligent enough to hold down a job since he couldn’t think of that simple solution himself.

Love this 😂