DH is a spoilt brat

[arcticpandas]

He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

What a prick. That is all I have to say🙄.

I don't use after shave or similar male perfumes but herself likes Chanel No 19.

Decants it into a small atomiser. More for handbag use then travel but it ain't rocket science.

What an absolute knob! Doesn’t have the intelligence to think of buying an atomiser but calls other people names for not thinking!

Weird behaviour. Is there a reason he can't wear it day to day or is he constantly travelling?

I don’t know - your DH asked for something quite specific but you decided to do something different. Your intentions were good but I can see how he might feel upset that you didn’t listen to what he’d asked for. Everyone has completely rational feelings and intentions here - I guess the lesson is one about clearer communications next time.

he acted like an asshole but then apologised so I think some of the reactions on this thread are a bit ott! Can you decant perfumes! That’s fab if you can (I have a huge perfume here and just bring mini sprays if sure etc abroad!!)

He's coming over as very unpleasant. Fancy making an issue of something like that on Christmas Day! He can buy his own 100ml for travelling and use the 200ml at home. When I used to travel regularly for work, I had duplicates of everything like perfume, cosmetics etc. so I didn't have to keep packing and unpacking, other than my clothes.

Families who would have them!

Goodness, this is a minor irritation easily solved. Why does he need scent when he's travelling? I wear it every day but unless I've got a miniature I don't take it on holiday.

He specifically asked for 100mls and it’s annoying when people don’t listen to the one thing you ask for.

However, getting the 200ml wasn’t malicious and even though i understand he may have felt a bit miffed, it’s not the worst thing in the world and his reaction was ridiculous.

All he has to do is buy one for himself and keep that one at home (or buy a travel dispenser as PPs have suggested).

Ill mannered and thick as well.

This happened to me once. I spent about 10-15 mins decanting it one spray at a time as it was sealed into a 100ml bottle.

Was grateful to have twice as much as I asked for and honestly hadn’t even remembered the back break labour required on my part until this thread today. Realise now i should have kicked RIGHT off.

After reading this thread, I now can't stand the word "decant"

😂

Not trying to be out of line but that smacks of I’ve got a woman I’m trying to impress on my work trip.

when men act like little boys when they don’t usually it’s almost always because they can’t have something they want.

Or is he always like this? Did his mother allow him to behave like this growing up? What did she say when he started acting like this?

This is so irrational and rude that either way you should start the new year without him.

My goodness, how the hell did you manage to marry such a stupid rude twat?

Unless he is massively apologetic and was too drunk to work out how to resolve his non-issue, you need to rectify this mistake quickly. WTF would happen if you did something that actually might be a bit hurtful?

In fact, this is pointing to a bigger problem - abusers love to ruin happy events, and that looks like his motive here.

I was going to suggest pissing in his cornflakes, but this is probably better, yes 👍

@arcticpandas

This is a man who is intentionally working up a good 'anger' over something truly insignificant. You have to ask yourself why that might be. It's usually one of three reasons;

1-he's simply a garden variety abusive arsehole.

2-he's looking for a reason to end his marriage. Either by working up 'angers' to justify ending it or trying to provoke you into doing so.

3-he's having an affair and using a stupid reason to justify it.

If I were you I think I'd sit down and quietly think this over. Is this really where you want to be, how you want to live?

4- his wife and mother never listen to him and think they know better and buy something inappropriate

Decant into atomiser and every time he "travels" make sure he has it with him.

Going to Tescos: "have you got your travel perfume?"
Going to football: "have you got your travel perfume?"
Going to the garden shed: "have you got your travel perfume?"

I agree with @AcrossthePond55 He is doing this for a reason.

Was going to say the exact same thing.

Ungrateful git. Send him a link to a travel container (or buy one) and leave him to his mantrum.

I'm wondering if he's old enough to be let out on his own, he acts like a sulking, pouting toddler.
I would really not want to sleep with someone so immature and stupid tbh.

@arcticpandas so he travels alot , you don’t
He wears aftershave while away so needs a 100ml . 200ml is no use as I take it he doesn’t wear it for you or around you .
Why ?
I actually can’t get my head around this man and glad I don’t have too.
He sounds like a wrong one . I bet there is loads more of this behaviour.

If he’s not a good husband you can leave . If he’s being an arse and it’s not a regular thing of tell him what I thought then ignore him. He is not worth the stress .

Put it on eBay? Job done. He can buy 100ml at the airport?