DH is a spoilt brat

[arcticpandas]

He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

Utter spoiled brat!!!

Manchild

He wouldn't want to decant- thank you all for that advice though. He really likes to have the original- I'm the practical one and he's the precious one:).

1. He's been having a rough month at work and our autistic DS1 is in a crazy period where he just screams right out for everything and nothing so DH is very much on edge. It explains why but doesn't excuse him for acting like a dick.

He wants staff to be impressed by his bottle. Nothing to do with the scent.

🤣 No, no other woman. He uses perfume everyday, at home as well.

His mum doesn't take any of his shit thank god. She has always been loving but very strict when it comes to manners.

Yeah, I should just lbt for new year. Am packing my bags as I write this.

Fuck me, how often is he travelling? Is he an international fucking superstar???

@arcticpandas

Pack away! And don't forget to pack your perfume!

😂 that's so funny. Noone will see his bottle in his hotel room. He just likes beautiful objects, some people do. I understand that but he could just buy himself 100 ml and leave the 200 ml at home. I even offered to do it but he went all " no, no, I'll handle it".

To be fair, he normally wouldn't be this mental about it but might have muttered something. So he's def overreacted due to stress.

Ha, no in sales. Is travelling 2-4 days per week.

I think this forum has given me a warped perception of relationships…here’s to being single 🍷

Aw his poor mum. What an ungrateful fuckwit.

He’s obviously overreacted as he could just buy another himself, or as others have said, decant into a travel bottle.

However, I don’t like really large 200ml bottles of perfume, I always buy the 50ml or 100ml at most. It can be a bit disappointing when you have asked for something specifically and get something different. He shouldn’t react as he has though obviously and needs to get a grip.

You can buy mini atomisers for travelling.

It isn't about the perfume. He just doesn't like you. Or (as is usually the case with men), he feels he isn't getting enough sex.

As usual, almost everyone is missing the point. Not sure how people get through life...

What a fucking loser he is

Abroad?

Not available unless we quote.... 🤣

Unpleasant, ungrateful, unattractive, ungracious behaviour.

This thread reminds me that I saved The Death of Bunny Munro to start watching today …

His tantrum is obviously the biggest issue - and likely not the only problem in the relationship? So treat is a sign to decide whether or not you have a future together. He sounds like an arse.

You and MIL both failed to understand that the requested 100ml quantity is a key part of the value of this present - that is her/your fuck up. I also hate getting presents where my suggestion has been mis-interpreted or re-interpreted because my supposed loved one has decided they know better. Don't do that. Of course I just thank politely and return/regift/donate, explaining why. Nothing excuses his response.

Tricky that were mediating his present requests with MIL. I'd either try to stay out of that in future, or redirect his shite towards the person who's had most practice in dealing with it!

I would just like to say that if Mr Furniture bought me a 200ml bottle of Chanel No 5 instead of the 100ml bottle, I can assure you that he'd think all his Christmases had bloody come at once!!

Those little pods make it very easy to decant a spray bottle. You just pull the little top off the sprayer and the bit sticking up goes straight into the pod. Simple. Herder to explain it than it is to use.

Just a thought, could this be that he doesn't want you to spend so much money?
Of course the thread will derail now you have mentioned he "travels" (which 75% of my BDMs at work do) with accusations of him having an affair or has a bit on the side 🤣. It's normal to want to be presentable and not smell.
Like you have mentioned he is very tense and little things can set you off over Xmas.
My Yorkshire puddings haven't risen as well as I wanted and the broccoli cheese I got from Tesco has got a rip in the seal.
I started crying. DP is looking at me all gone out like I'm a weirdo.

If you want something very specific, you specify if it really needs to be that very one