DH is a spoilt brat

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He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

It all sounds terribly fraught, and his coping mechanisms, if he has any, are rubbish. This can be sorted though - maybe this is a catalyst for addressing his problems?

I do get the beautiful objects thing, although I hope I would never have been so horribly ungracious about a not quite right present.

Beautiful atomisers exist, which he might consider. These are easy to fill (pump action), and a real pleasure to use. Expensive too. Might work for him.

Not sure the link worked properly, but search for ‘atomiser’ on the site..

Then why make a thread about it?

Because she can? I've started threads about lipstick and the first day of October!

Surprised you have to ask but here we are.
Because she felt like it at the time. People's opinions and letting off steam. The usual reasons.
It's really not an invitation to direct her life for her.

Christ Alive, what a baby. Buy a little plastic bottle thing for it off amazon and ask him if he needs an IQ test too.

😂 nothing sexy about a man child

If he wants it to be lovely, would a posh, rather than inexpensive, atomiser do the trick?

E.g.

You might like this at John Lewis:
https://www.johnlewis.com/travalo-milano-refillable-perfume-atomiser-spray/p3139891?s_share=jlappdroid

Or this one is floral but it is also fabulous: https://www.libertylondon.com/uk/eden%E2%80%99s-awakening-refillable-travel-atomiser-000857127.html?queryID=4d62d79d42f14f9257346c3f986374ee&objectID=R695220006&indexName=production_emea_libertyltd_demandware_net__liberty__products__default&_gl=11xh7p3_upMQ.._gsMQ.._gaMTA2Njg3ODY1Mi4xNzY2Nzc5MTIw_ga_Z4XL3N68WHczE3NjY3NzkxMTkkbzEkZzEkdDE3NjY3NzkxMjEkajU4JGwwJGgw_ga_Y8M4SVRHWQ*czE3NjY3NzkxMTkkbzEkZzEkdDE3NjY3NzkxMjEkajU4JGwwJGgw&gclid=Cj0KCQiAgbnKBhDgARIsAGCDdlcd-rNJfT5_l71YlaiB5cE35AtdnOqeL3txvarqo1Vb8d4zuLXjxVEaAmV_EALw_wcB&gbraid=0AAAAAD4IbFGZh9Fh1of1-yIMNyb1qA9Pg

DH more like Dear fuckwit fuck off !!
I couldn't put up with this shit from a grown man .

Omg. The usual leave him comments. Some people are ridiculous. It’s the first thing they suggest.

Get him an atomiser job done

You don’t pour anything you take the lid off, put the decanter on and pump it up and down until the dispenser is full! They are £1 online and hold around 10ml pf
perfume

Why would he even want perfume? Is he on a worldwide tour as a drag act?

Not about you though.
It's possible to love someone through their unreasonableness.

As others have said, probably a case of straw that broke the camels back and not about the actual perfume.

Exactly.

You're fine OP, he's at breaking point like most people at this time of year.
There's literally a thread about people crying over all sorts over Christmas, but because it's a man, he's not allowed to be weak or make mistakes on here.

Breaking point. For what reason. Sorry. I wouldn't be at breaking point if someone bought me twice the perfume I wanted. He's a spoiled entitled twat

I know people hate autism suggestions to excuse behaviour, but this sounds like a classic example to me - people on the spectrum often want specific items, no variations or surprises etc. it does run in families….

I also find it so frustrating when someone thinks they know better than you when you’ve asked for something specific, and I also understand that half the attraction of a perfume is the lovely bottle (and the packaging- why on earth has the box been thrown?)

The DS is autistic. The OP didn't say her husband was

I know. I’m saying it often runs in families.

What’s lbt?

Is he gay? Ranting about perfume bottles doesn’t seem that straight that’s all. (Didn’t mean to offend anyone but it’s very odd)

Leave the bastard. Sometimes warranted when there is cheating, gaslighting, abuse.

Unfortunately some people throw it out as a standard response whenever there is a man behaving badly- even if it's a one off. And even if the man is decent, doesn't have form and there are kids involved. I just hope people are intelligent enough to not divorce over minor, however annoying, incidents.

My DH reacted like a spoilt brat- very much unusual for him. I was angry about it and ranted about it in my post. He has since apologised, said he'll get another one and he was afraid of his own reaction. When people are stressed out they can react irrationally over minor things when in reality it's about something else. He had been holding in all stress from work and home (our ds1 is hard work) and it came out in a violent outburst over "nothing". He's tecognised this, apologised, cried and said he's afraid of having a mental break down.

I will support him because that is what you do when you are married with kids and the person is decent in general.

Yes. He must be gay. Also he's more keen to look good than I am. He must be gay and I'm probably trans then since I'm not bothered with makeup and clothes so we can just go on with our marriage I suppose.

Yes, in my family. The only reason he wanted 100 ml was for practical reasons (max liquid allowed on flight).