To have not lied to DS about trans actor in Last Christmas?

[DungOnATwig]

Watching above with DD17 (lesbian) and DS11 (straight) earlier today. One scene where a female presenting (long hair + fake eyelashes) but clearly biologically male actor plays a doctor (just Dr). DS says "that......lady sounds like a man".

I said yeah it is a man love. A man who identifies as a sex they are not.

DD paused then typed a wee bit more furiously than usual for 30 secs but then was ok. She knows tbf. She's lesbian and not pan.

It was so distilled down to me at the point of his very innocent (and tentative so as not to offend question) that I am not prepared to lie to my kid about the fucking fundamentals of life and tell them that person is a woman. Fuck that.

Merry Christmas 🍷

Also FUCK THAT FILM 😭😭😭😭😭

I liked it.

Why do you automatically jump to the conclusion that answering her child’s question accurately is ‘anti trans’?
We all know that for someone to claim to be trans, they mean they do not want to be seen as the sex they actually are. That’s ok, it’s their choice. Nobody else has to agree.

there’s literally nothing you people won’t turn into a bigoted rant

"Why do you automatically jump to the conclusion that answering her child’s question accurately is ‘anti trans’?"

The bit OP said about shoehorning in a booming voiced man in woman cosplay gave a little bit of a hint...

I would have said - that’s a man who is dressing / styling himself in a way more typically associated with how women look, which is perfectly fine as both men and women should be able to look how they like. Trans ideology didn’t need to come into it.

Didn’t notice? 😂

You would say what exactly 🤔?

My kids would think I was having a stroke if I said that

I immediately noticed the doctor was male too and googled to confirm I was right.

It’s not anti trans to recognise someone’s sex.

I also agree with this entirely.

I do have some major concerns with gender ideology which are the same as the above poster.

But I have no problem with trans people existing, or being in films.

Also I like this film and have watched it twice and never noticed there was a trans actor in it!

Catch yourself on

I agree. I don't get why the op was so upset about it.

No, I didn’t 🤷‍♀️

You could’ve just said it’s a man dressed as a woman. I bet you’re a hoot at pantomimes

Oh course you are unreasonable OP. Anything other than chastising your child for not instantly believing the person is a woman is, of course, transphobic. Correctly describing a trans woman as a man who believes themselves to be a woman is also deeply transphobic.

Part of the joke at pantos is that the men in dresses are evidently not women. No one is having to sit there po faced pretending that they are.

God I hate that film. A whole film concocted to match a line from a song. I rolled my eyes so hard when the penny dropped that I saw my brain.

Your poor daughter.

‘DD paused then typed a wee bit more furiously than usual for 30 secs but then was ok. She knows tbf. She's lesbian and not pan.’

I don’t understand what happened. Ds asked, you confirmed, dd typed ‘furiously’ and then you cried because it’s a sad film?

Quite the opposite. Having a mother that doesn’t buy into trans ideology that is homophobic, is a good thing for her daughter being as she is a lesbian.

Transphobia. But oh on, there's none of that on MN.

Did you miss the whole TWAW thing? Besides gender and sex seem now to have basically come to mean the same thing, even though they aren't. Gender is just a meaningless set of cultural stereotypes.

But no problem with the trans actor in the film, the film was mostly disappointing IMO though and i really regretted paying to see it at the cinema.

I don’t really see the issue.

When my DD used to ask things I’d just be honest and say they were either born a man or they’re a woman but has a deep voice.

It’s not offensive to be honest to your child.

And they all stood up and clapped....
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🤣🤣🤣