To feel like I don’t like men anymore

[Dogsinsantasuits]

Not as in not attracted to them, although I am less bothered these days
It’s almost like i’m coming to a realisation that most (not all) are not great and women are infinitely stronger people.
Is this an age thing-late 40’s? Sad as I used to really like men. Now all I see around me is amazing women with men who aren’t a patch on them or dangerous and/or perverted men in the news.

I can't think of many things easier than checking the oil level in a car. Why is it something you expect men to do? Does the Y chromosome have some secret code or something.

Oh gosh. No - I was saying that none of my married female friends do it. They expect their husbands to do it.

That was my point.

I don’t they’re actually relying on them. I think they’re giving them a tiny job so they feel useful. Like you would with a child.

Completely disagree. And that’s quite patronising!

I'm 100% like both of you. I have some lovely female friends and my favourite boss was a woman, but although I dress feminine and wear makeup etc, I'm not at all a girly girl personality wise, and yes, "girly" women always seem to dislike me. Working in a hive of women, such as in an office, is my idea of hell. I don't give a shit about their kids or their DH's (who always seem to be shit, funnily enough). I don't want to hear about their period cramps or their diets. They just have mind numbingly boring lives that revolve around their kids, their house, gossiping and moaning. I want to talk about music, news topics etc. The women I do get along with tend to be the "tough" types or the alternative types.

I don't want to sound like a woman hating arsehole from my last post, so I'll write about disappointing men too just to make it fair: I come from a poor, working class area in the North East where men are basically unevolved toddlers. DA is common and a normal part of life. Despite being ugly slugs in tracksuit bottoms or ill-fittng jeans, working MW in a factory, doing nothing but drinking and living off takeaways, and barely being able to string together a coherent sentence without swearing, they think they're God's gift and commnet about and critique women. They tell the most unfunny and vulgar jokes whilst holding court in the pub. These are 40+ year old men (I'm 33). Boys at college also "rated" girls despite being nothing to look at themselves. I've met middle class wanky men as well through work and uni- they're not as uncouth, but seem to think they have some sort of authority and are very entitled.

For me, unfortunately I'm only sexually attracted to men. Even more unfortunately, physical attraction is very important for me- I have to fancy them. I've barely met a single man I've fancied who hasn't been a weirdo, arrogant, a sexual deviant, a "man-slag" who's slept with half the women (and sometimes men) in the town/city, boring, pretentious, chasing some sort of stupid pipe dream or just a straight up arsehole. The one lovely one, who is also in a successful band, has an equally lovely girlfriend. Go figure 🙄 I'll have to just pray I get lucky wont I?Luckily I don't live in my crap hometown anymore.

Or thinking they should at least do one of the other jobs, since we do practically everything else! (In my case at least)

A what do you disagree about? Do you think your friends can’t manage to check their own oil?

It’s unlikely they “rely” on their husbands to do those tasks - the husbands simply do those tasks.

And if they do “rely” on their husbands for some tasks then I am sure the husbands rely on their wives for tasks.

Couples working together is not the same as saying women need male romantic partners to function in life.

Most violence against people are caused by men. I learned early on what some men are like. I met one that was downright evil. I was 21

I could have said exactly this about my original home town in the midlands - the vast majority of the men are still stuck in the 70s and 80s - and all the 60 something football yobs of the late 70s are now bald, fat, mainly lazy , mouthy and big fans of Farage!!

I have a decent husband and two lovely sons. If I was single though, I wouldn’t bother dating!

I’ve spent my whole career in a male dominated industry. They’re mostly self-serving and shallow! The majority aren’t faithful to their wives either!

The very best men are only as good as average women! 😂

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