Feeling really let down...

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SpookyTeacup · 23/12/2025 17:58

Just been told by DH that I have no Christmas present this year as it hasn't arrived. I've got a feeling its exactly what I told him under no circumstances is he to buy me (sexy lingerie/nightwear) due to his reaction when I asked him if it was that - '.... no... why?'. I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I feel huge, disgusting and hate how much weight I've gained. I couldn't feel further from sexy if I tried. All I've asked for is a nice big pair of PJ bottoms that I can be comfortable in and will become part of my hospital bag. I'm dreading Christmas now because I feel like I'm going to end up crying the entire day, but also feel like I'm acting like a spoiled brat.

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MrsLizzieDarcy · 27/12/2025 12:38

Just don't let your guard down, OP, what he's done to you is horrible. It may be worth having a chat with your MW over it during your next appointment, just so she's aware too. He's behaved in an abusive way, and whilst it's a first, it may not be the last. I'd also have a bag packed ready so that if you do need to escape in a hurry, you've got everything you need at hand. You can say it's a just-in-case "going into hospital" emergency bag. Don't let him ruin this experience for you, and hopefully it was just an unusual breach of trust.

hidinginthebathroomagain · 27/12/2025 12:47

ChristmasCinderella2025 · 26/12/2025 11:09

Name changed for this!

Have a look at this Instagram post by NarcAbuseCoach and his other recent posts.

Do any of these behaviours look familiar to you?

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSqHkPaExuQ/

I also did not receive a single Christmas present yesterday from DH or DD (aged 13, so I would have expected DH to organise her present).

To watch DH and DD open over 20 presents from me, yet not even receive one small present to thank me for all my hard work over the year cut me to the core.

I spent two full days Christmas shopping with DD and sitting with her to wrap up DH and my extended family’s presents, yet she claims she “completely forgot“ to buy me a present and spent over an hour in floods of tears yesterday feeling bad that DH and she had upset me so much.

Now DH is telling me that by being so “childish“ and upset about not receiving a present I ruined Christmas for DD and the whole family and he is demanding that I apologise to HIM!

Please think carefully, as raising a child with a narcissist is a soul-destroying task and risks a childhood of conflict, sadness and treading on eggshells, often leading to long term mental health issues as a teenager and beyond.

Oh god that’s awful. I’m sorry your H is a prick

Radiosn · 27/12/2025 12:54

So a stepdaughter situation with an abusive arsehole.

Start organising yourself OP.
No doubt you have been skivvy aupair for his child for years?
Thats sadly how it goes on MN.
They get increasingly nasty once they perceive you as stuck.

Don't ruin this experience of motherboard with a nasty abusive man.
Use the 10 weeks to reach out for support.
Tell your Health visitor, family and friends that you need support.
You deserve so much better than this.

Toothpastestain · 27/12/2025 15:13

"How you do anything is how you do everything"
Please think carefully about who this man is OP

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 27/12/2025 20:45

but he's been nothing short of an arsehole lately'

Your own words, not ours.

Serenitymummy · 28/12/2025 09:40

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