DSIL has asked me to wear a non matching outfit on Christmas Day

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I am friendly with DSIL and we get along well. She text me earlier to ask what outfit I’ve planned for Christmas Day (as we are all at MIL’s house this year).

It turns out we’ve planned something very similar, near identical infact.

She has suggested I wear something else so we aren’t matching.

I purchased the outfit specifically for the day so am reluctant to. She has already travelled down to MIL’s (she lives 3 hours from her) so doesn’t have an alternative.

Am I unreasonable to stick to what I plan to wear? It’s not as if we are going out on the day.

I've never heard of a special outfit for Christmas Day in my whole life. Do you mean you dress up as a particular thing or do you just wear matching colours in normal clothes? I've always thought that even Christmas pyjamas or sweaters look awful and are a total waste of money. Maybe I'm just a miserable old woman...

How similar?

Are you in matching Pierrot outfits?

If not, she's insane. No-one cares. It's family, not a competition.

(If yes, you're both insane obvs)

What are the outfits? How similar? Can you tell us if we promise not to copy?

Just wear it, make a joke about good taste and have a lovely day.

Adorable

If she was concerned she should have asked while home to have other options

If she is stick thin & you are not, You will be scrutinised anyway. So as much as this whole scenario is batshit. (Who checks who is wearing what to a family meal? ) I would just wear something else & when you see her, tell not to ask another time, because you wont be telling

Exactly this, who tells someone what to wear?
If she's that bothered she should go to the shops tomorrow and pick out something else.

YANBU to wear whatever you want but you know that if you wear your planned outfit SIL is not going to be happy. I suppose it depends how much that matters to you. I can tell you, as a mother of three, stepmother of three and grandmother of many, comprise is my middle name. Thirty four years of family harmony hasn’t been achieved without a lot of it.

What if OP feels good about herself in her outfit, and doesn't want to change just to fit an absurd shibboleth?

Surely you don’t look silly wearing similar to someone in someone’s home when you’re with family. Who will care?

No. What was it?

I met up with friends last night and I genuinely couldn’t tell you what they were wearing…so bizarre.

I can never understand the tizz about this sort of thing. If someone was wearing identical clothes to me, I'd think it was brilliant!

I'm amazed that anyone cares about this. Who gives a fuck if they're wearing the same thing?

If it bothers DSIL that much she can go buy an alternative.

Why am i immediately thinking that your view is that you’ll look better than her in your similar outfits? I’d swap it up, it is Christmas! Tell her it’s an extra gift 😁 Did she perhaps feel so inspired by your plan (who plans Xmas day outfit so early in the year?!!!) she kinda accidentally stole it?

in case we’re sharing (haven’t RTFT) I’m in navy cashmere lounge set in the morning for gifts n scrambled eggs etc then a brushed cashmere jumper with dull gold/platinum lambskin leggings. So I can walk the dogs too 🥰

I don't know what I'll be wearing on Christmas day yet. I certainly haven't bought anything new specially.

If you don't care about matching and pissing her off wear what you've planned, if you care about either of those things wear something else.

Thatcher was told by Buck Palace that the Queen never notices what other women are wearing. In other words....Get back in your lane Margaret!

She wanted to know what the Queen was wearing to an event, so they didnt clash. The arrogance of the woman, assuming that she was so important that people would care!

This.
I went to a girl's school and they cared about this back then as teenagers, but I don't think it matters in the least.
Wear the outfit.

wow life is too short
Enjoy xxx

Came on to post this! A right slap in the face to Peggy T....

Ah I remember those days. When you still think people are there to give a shit about your outfit choices 😆. I’m assuming SIL is either still quite young, or doesn’t have much else to think about in her life. The reality is for a family Xmas event everyone is focused on the day or some other thing and no one cares about what you actually wear. I’d just wear whatever you want to wear OP.

I wouldn’t change. Are we talking absolutely identical?

My Dh finds it hilarious that my family has ‘Christmas clothes’, not necessarily new outfits, just something nice, mostly because we go to church in the morning then round to a family member’s house for the day.

What the hell does it matter? Is this Christmas gathering going to be in Hello Magazine?