DSIL has asked me to wear a non matching outfit on Christmas Day

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I am friendly with DSIL and we get along well. She text me earlier to ask what outfit I’ve planned for Christmas Day (as we are all at MIL’s house this year).

It turns out we’ve planned something very similar, near identical infact.

She has suggested I wear something else so we aren’t matching.

I purchased the outfit specifically for the day so am reluctant to. She has already travelled down to MIL’s (she lives 3 hours from her) so doesn’t have an alternative.

Am I unreasonable to stick to what I plan to wear? It’s not as if we are going out on the day.

This is so weird, I can’t imagine my sil ever giving a toss over what I wear 🙈😂

I'm really keen to know what this outfit is now??

Why does anyone give a single shit what anyone else is going to be wearing on Christmas Day? I honestly doubt I would even notice unless it was something particularly extreme and weird.

Tell her you'll be wearing your swimming costume and DH will be dressed like Tarzan in just a loin cloth.

I'll be wearing my usual jeans, t-shirt and a cardigan or jumper on Christmas Day. Even when we go out for our Christmas Dinner at the local restaurant.

Seriously though, just wear what you want to, and what you had originally planned. Nobody should get to dictate this to you.

Well, you know what the Queen said to Thatcher when she tried that line, don't you?

Omg how old are you both? Just wear what you want it’s her fault for asking I can imagine teens doing this but bloody grown women no no.

Do people actually care if someone wears the same thing they do? That always seemed like a silly thing that only happens on TV. I guess I can understand feeling a bit unhappy if the other person looks much better in the outfit than you do, because it makes it so easy to compare the two of you, but that's life. If someone looks better than I do, wearing different styles or colours won't change that. Generally speaking, I'd just think it was funny and be pleased that someone shared my sense of style.

I'd wear what I wanted to wear. It's such an odd thing to care about to the point of requesting someone change their plans. That said, I haven't planned what I'm wearing on Christmas and very much doubt anyone will notice or care. Casual Christmas all the way!

I think the fact that you had a conversation together beforehand (like teenagers!) means that yes, you should change.

Ignorance is bliss and all that.

you plan outfits?

I’d reply Ok, then wear it anyway. If she says anything say ‘my other option looked rubbish’.

I went out last night and we all had very similar things on. All in burgundy, few sequins, quite a few bows.

But the OP doesnt want to. So if it matters so much to SIL then she can go shopping tomorrow am.

Well next time say “I’m not sure whatever I throw on” then arrive looking fabulous!

It’s a particular patterned/colour dress.

She will look fantastic in it as usual - there’s pretty much nothing of her!

How odd I’ve been to events where I’ve turned up wearing the same as someone else there or same colour. It’s usually just a great minds think alike or one will compliment the other. She’s a cheeky fucker maybe she knows it will look better on you.

You know she can’t wear something different , you can and this is the price you pay for involving yourself with this conversation . The correct answer to ‘what are you wearing?’ is either no idea or clothes .

Ah, OP, if your SIL is generally a nice person and you have a friendly relationship with her and you feel she will appreciate it then just wear something else and feel good about yourself.

Why should the OP have to? She chose an outfit that wear specifically for Christmas Day.

I'd wear something different for the sake of family harmony. It clearly matters to her, or she wouldn't have asked the question. If you usually get on well why not change your outfit choice if she can't? I'm sure there will be another opportunity to wear what you've bought.

Unfortunately, I imagine that if OP had given an evasive or noncommittal answer to her outfit plans, SIL would then have pounced and said, 'Good! I'm wearing a leopard print skirt and a red sequin top, so just be sure you don't wear that, too.' And then if OP wore her very similar or identical planned outfit, SIL would think she'd copied her out of spite, whereas now at least SIL knows that it was just bad luck that they'd both planned similar outfits.

'Sure we can be Christmas twins! 🤣❤️ Really looking forward to seeing you xxx'
Send the above and don't give it another thought.

Let her know you don't mind twinning and will be wearing the outfit you've bought specially. It's her who's bothered by it, so her who needs to change what she's wearing.

So it's the exact same dress? And a patterned one? God yes I'd wear something different, why wouldn't you? You have your whole wardrobe at your disposal and shes brought this one dress for xmas day. It would be embarrassing. Great source of amusement for everyone else though

Jesus H Christ, has everyone lost the run of themselves this year?

Assuming you don’t have Hello! Magazine there for your Christmas photo shoot, who cares if your clothes are similar. You will be with family.

This

If she had asked before she left she could have done!