AIBU Should dogs be invited in?

[1980isitjustme]

My friend came round yesterday to drop something off but had her dog with her. I had been getting everything ready for visitors arriving to stay and have no pets - AIBU to just have a chat on the doorstep and not invite her in when it’s all clean and ready for my visitors imminent arrival? (Obviously without the dog she’d have been more than welcome).

Why do dog owners think they should take their dogs everywhere these days??

I have a big dog, but I definitely don't have a stinky flea ridden house.
I wouldn't dream of taking her to someone else's house uninvited, but I would take her with me to drop off Christmas cards, and I wouldn't expect anyone to complain about it.

All dogs are dirty. Of course it's dirty. You gonna wash it's paws before it enters after treading in all sorts. Even humans take their shoes off on entering someone's home.

No. Not all dogs are dirty.

You do realise that not all humans have a shoes off rule, I presume? Does that mean humans are dirty?

Yes many humans are dirty. That's my point.

What does that have to do with dogs? Are you suggesting that only dirty people have dogs?

You said she was dropping something off, if I was dropping something off I would probably not be intending to stay so it would be perfectly acceptable to take my dog with me. She probably wasn't expecting to be invited in hence why she took the dog.

As a dog owner no it’s not rude to not want a dog in the house if you’ve just cleaned. I have my own dogs but friends dogs are haired, muddier and one is destruction so they would get a hard no.

It’s the same when a friend called round with her two kids under 4 when I had cleaned for a house viewing. Both looked generally sticky and one was eating a bag of crisps so they weren’t invited in either.

I have a dog and many of my friends have dogs. We don’t bring our dogs into each others’ houses - if we drop something off with our dogs in tow, we stay on the doorstep.

You're over thinking this @1980isitjustme ,

Well I couldn't see anyone who values cleanliness having one, do you?
And that's fine many people do prefer having animals to cleanliness.

Wanting pets does not mean someone has slack hygiene standards.

Of course it does. But as I said that is fine. Has no effect on me.
I would rather not have animals in my house and that's fine too.

It really does not, but you can keep telling yourself that.
It is just one of many MN dog hating myths about dog owners.... they must like filth because they have a dog 🙄. It is tiresome as hell.

@intrepidpanda your continued comments are a glowing reference as to what type of person you are, vile

People are entitled to not want strange animals coming into their house. Whether or not it is someone's "pet" is by the by.

Yes, I could, I have OCD and I'm germ phobic. I have also shared my life with large dogs. My germ phobia is associated with people and public places, not animals. I have a clean house.

Now do you see what you've done @1980isitjustme ? You've created yet another dog hate thread for absolutely no reason. Those of us who choose to share our lives with dogs are being insulted and told that our homes are filthy. And I really hope your "friend" sees this.

But I didn’t say that and have made it clear on numerous occasions that I don’t dislike dogs. There was no intention of a “dog hate forum.”

However, it is a chat forum where people are entitled to express different views.

And why say “friend”. I haven’t insulted her or her dog once, just asked whether it was reasonable to have not asked her in.

Oh dear flea ridden are you this dramatic in real life ?

My best friend has a dog, she does not bring it when she comes for a visit, when her husband picks her up he is happy to wait in the car or wait in the garden with the dog. I have a cat and when her dog sees my cat he
barks, I don't want to distress my cat by bringing that into her home. YANBU to not want someone else's animal in your house.

You didn't just ask that though. You literally asked Why do dog owners think they should take their dogs everywhere these days?? in relation to a post about one person who hadn't suggested that anyway.

It's the leap from one person I know didn't suggest they expected to come in to this means everyone with a dog thinks they should go anywhere that's so unreasonable.

Yes, I accept that that was a sweeping generalisation and an exaggeration - as a non dog owner, dogs do seem to be present in a lot of situations where they weren’t previously and that was my point.

My AIBU was purely my worry about manners though. For some people to suggest that my friend should see this and no longer be my friend is ridiculous when I haven’t said anything derogatory about them or their dog -rather I was worried I may have upset them by not inviting them in which shows I care rather than the nasty twist applied by a few here.

I didn't say "dog hate forum" I said "dog hate thread", which is what we knew this would become.

Yes, obviously people are entitled to express a view about not wanting a dog in their home, but surely they can do this without being offensive about the hygiene standards of those of us who do share our life with dogs.

Of course it's reasonable not to ask her in - most of us would feel the same way about someone else's dog being in our home. But I said "friend" because of your paragraph about dog owners thinking they should take their dog everywhere. It didn't seem like something a friend would say, especially one who claimed not to dislike dogs.

I was never offensive about the homes of people with dogs. I have friends and family members with dogs who have nice clean homes, that was not my view.

The second part was a generalisation not specifically about my friend, and about how things have changed. Mind you, I remember when I was a kid and people used to walk round M&S smoking and they had ashtrays lining the walkway they had through the shop. They didn’t have their dogs with them though 😂. To be fair I’d take the dog over smoking though!

However OP is unreasonable for assuming the visitor actually wanted to come into their house in the first place

Did the dog just stand there?