AIBU Should dogs be invited in?

[1980isitjustme]

My friend came round yesterday to drop something off but had her dog with her. I had been getting everything ready for visitors arriving to stay and have no pets - AIBU to just have a chat on the doorstep and not invite her in when it’s all clean and ready for my visitors imminent arrival? (Obviously without the dog she’d have been more than welcome).

Why do dog owners think they should take their dogs everywhere these days??

My stepdad no longer comes in my house as he insists on bringing his huge dog everywhere (my mum died last year).
Earlier he dropped my kids Christmas money off and we had to stand in the doorway as his dog was tethered outside and had to see my stepdad or he would whine

You must be very new here then…

Why would she want to come in anyway? You sound very highly strung.

I have two cats. I wouldnt have another animal in my home without agreeing it in advance.

Because they can’t read?

It's a little distressing to see dogs dragged around town; shops, cafes etc.
They generally don't enjoy it, and tend to get in the way, especially on extending leads.
I grew up with dogs in the house, took them for walks, never into town or shops.
People do tend to take their dogs everywhere; shopping, house viewings, restaurants etc.

YANBU. You dont want a stinky flea ridden house. Thst may be other people's standards but you are entitled to a clean home.

Nope. I haven’t seen the dog threads, sorry if that is so unbelievable. And contrary to what keeps being said, I’m not a dog hater either 🙄

Not sure why asking whether I could be considered rude for not asking someone in makes me “highly strung”. Maybe just polite.

If I had been walking the dog and stopped off I wouldnt have thought of being invited in. But I have a pisser so would have declined anyway. Just in case you ever decide you like dogs and get one, do not, I repeat not, get cutesy pee mats that look like Persian rugs. It means they can never be taken anywhere civilised. I love my dogs but they are smelly and they are pissers and not to everyone's taste. We can still be friends.

I wouldn’t let someone else’s dog in my house either. And think it’s rude if your friend expected to be let in with the dog. I have a dog. But would never ever expect to be able to bring her everywhere I go.

My in laws do this and it drives me absolutely crazy. My in laws bring their dog for dinner with everyone, house visits, to work (they own their own business), for coffee, days out with the grandkids need to be dog friendly, shopping, a family wedding, the list goes on and on. They’re ridiculous. Thankfully we live in a different country and haven’t had to tell them their dog isn’t allowed in our house.

You arent countering any of the vile comments on here though are you? They didn't expect to come in!! How can you not get this?

I posted my Christmas cards in my village through the letterbox whilst walking my dog. If I baked something or cooked something I know x neighbor likes I just send the kids and the dog around with it. Small village. I don’t expect to be invited in if they catch me posting the Christmas/birthday cards etc but if someone popped to my house with the dog. They would be invited in.. I will just tidy up after they leave. Also have big space with multiple rooms so just use one that is easier to clean! Each to their own.

Ffs they didn't want to come in. Is that so hard to comprehend? What a vile person you are reacting like this

I think she did expect to come in otherwise it wouldn’t have been an issue. But maybe she didn’t, certainly lots of people on this thread seem to know that I am completely wrong in thinking that she did!

Literally nothing in what you've said indicates that she did want to come in though other than you think she did. Not sure why you're so convinced she did given she's never once brought her dog into your home.

Maybe she brought the dog on purpose, as an excuse NOT to come in 🤣

I have dogs but would not expect them to be invited in.

You clearly know better than me so there’s no point me replying to your multiple comments. I was there, I know how it felt and I asked a question. Have a lovely Christmas.

In what way did she indicate to you that she expected you to invite her in?

I wouldn't have invited her in as well. I do agree with you to an extent but not all dog owners are the same. I've got a dog myself but choose to walk her in the forest, beach or the countryside. I don't know if it's because i live in a wee village by the sea in Northern Ireland, so we have plenty of places to go for walks, but some people take them to places that isn't really meant for dogs. I've noticed it more and more especially since covid. I have seen someone take their dog to a midwife appointment at out local doctor surgery, 🫣 her partner was sat in the corridor with a small dog. I've also seen people take their dog to a local concert/music festival and to the Christmas market where your literally shoulder to shoulder crammed in together. I can't see dogs enjoying these, its more for the owners.

Isn't the point that no one knows, yourself included. It just feels so odd that you'd think so poorly of this person you claim to be a friend. You've painted her so negatively in this thread and yet by your own account she's done absolutely nothing?

I haven’t painted her poorly or at least that wasn’t my intention. I just think that some dog owners maybe don’t appreciate that other people may not want their pets in their space. That's all. And no, that doesn’t make me a dog hater before that loops around again.

Nothing in my coment is vile. I am only saying OP is not BU for not inviting a dirty animal into her home.

It is perfectly reasonable to talk to someone through the letterbox if they have a pet, noisy child, uncouth partner or are wanted by the police. IMO

Where did she say it was dirty?