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XenoBitch · 22/12/2025 23:57

I think YANBU to expect a door step catch up if they had an uninvited dog. If I had my dog with me, then I would not be expected to be invited in.
But YABU to think that dog owners insist on taking their dogs everywhere. Sometimes they are out as part of a bigger journey. I doubt she brought her dog to just have it stand on your door step. She was probably out with it anyway.

blythet · 22/12/2025 23:59

Sometimes I take my dog with me so I DONT get invited in 😂
Especially if I’m busy and I’m going somewhere in walking distance as it gets the dog walk ticked off the to do list at the same time

sandyhappypeople · 23/12/2025 00:00

TinselTitts · 22/12/2025 23:53

Errrm no, not all of my friends know my dog hates being shut in a car.

I mean why would they? 😳

And standing around in the 'cold' (not that we know they did, as it was 10 degrees here today) really isn't a big deal for them, even if it was snowing they'd be happy.

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So do you take the dog wherever you go? Do you not leave it at home either?

My point is, why take it at all, why DRIVE to someone house who you know won't want to invite you in with a dog and stand there on the doorstep with it if there's no need to?

I was fully understanding of the friend WALKING the dog and calling round, makes perfect sense as part of a larger walk.. but driving there and getting it out of the car just seems an odd thing to do.

XenoBitch · 23/12/2025 00:03

sandyhappypeople · 23/12/2025 00:00

So do you take the dog wherever you go? Do you not leave it at home either?

My point is, why take it at all, why DRIVE to someone house who you know won't want to invite you in with a dog and stand there on the doorstep with it if there's no need to?

I was fully understanding of the friend WALKING the dog and calling round, makes perfect sense as part of a larger walk.. but driving there and getting it out of the car just seems an odd thing to do.

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Maybe they did not want their friend insist they pop in, so took the dog as a way to make sure they were not invited.

BeQuirkyMintScroller · 23/12/2025 00:07

1980isitjustme · 22/12/2025 23:05

She had driven to get to mine, not walked. If she had walked I would agree.

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Sometimes we dog owners drive to other locations vary our daily walks.

Perhaps she was enroute to/from a walk not directly on her doorstep

ETA - that being said, I clicked not unreasonable. She probably wasnt expecting to come in, most owners would expect a doorstep chat in this scenario. Especially of non-dog owning friends. did she say she was expecting to be invited in?

MrsSkylerWhite · 23/12/2025 00:14

We have cats, so no.

BeQuirkyMintScroller · 23/12/2025 00:15

sandyhappypeople · 22/12/2025 23:25

Why would you not just leave the dog in the car if you were going to stand on the doorstep anyway?

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Because there might be a very interesting sniff to be had on the pavement. And the owner thought, "why not let her out, she enjoys every sniff."

Sniffing different smells brings so much joy to dogs (and works their brain). If you dont have dogs, you really wouldn't understand and that's ...well... understandable.

Pistachiocake · 23/12/2025 00:33

People should ask before bringing anyone (human or otherwise) round IMO. Still remember the friend who brought her coworker who emptied my fridge in 5 minutes, the friend who let her kid smear stationery all over the house, and the one who wanted to bring a very scratchy cat arounf. Lots of memes will tell you that for Millennials, pets are like Gen X's babies, and plants are Gen X's pets. Seriously, some people don't want to leave pets outside, and to be fair, a lot of people let their kids make more mess than their pets do.
On the plus side, there was the story of the woman on the train who had a dog and a baby, and she always got the carriage to herself, because people didn't expect her child/pet to be as perfectly quiet as they always were, so the anti kid/dog brigade don't always benefit!

TinselTitts · 23/12/2025 09:17

sandyhappypeople · 23/12/2025 00:00

So do you take the dog wherever you go? Do you not leave it at home either?

My point is, why take it at all, why DRIVE to someone house who you know won't want to invite you in with a dog and stand there on the doorstep with it if there's no need to?

I was fully understanding of the friend WALKING the dog and calling round, makes perfect sense as part of a larger walk.. but driving there and getting it out of the car just seems an odd thing to do.

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So do you take the dog wherever you go? Do you not leave it at home either?

No, I hardly ever take my dog anywhere other than for a walk?

How do you know she had no need to?

For all you know she could've been dropping off whatever it was and then taking the dog to the park, or even the vets🤷‍♂️

There are so many other possibilities that don't involve wanting to enter the OP's house with her dog.

sleepwouldbenice · 23/12/2025 09:19

DappledThings · 22/12/2025 22:53

Nothing in your OP suggests that she expected to be invited in whether she had the dog with her or not.

How you are extrapolating from one person not expecting to be invited in to all dog owners expecting to be invited in defies all logic.

This. Heaven forbid I should take my dog for a walk and drop off a present in the same trip. Outrageous

DappledThings · 23/12/2025 09:22

sandyhappypeople · 23/12/2025 00:00

So do you take the dog wherever you go? Do you not leave it at home either?

My point is, why take it at all, why DRIVE to someone house who you know won't want to invite you in with a dog and stand there on the doorstep with it if there's no need to?

I was fully understanding of the friend WALKING the dog and calling round, makes perfect sense as part of a larger walk.. but driving there and getting it out of the car just seems an odd thing to do.

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Not really. Maybe she was on the way to drive somewhere for a longer walk. And just didn't want to leave the dog in the car. Getting a dog in and out of the car is very quick. I would have done the same. Don't think it's odd at all.

Brefugee · 23/12/2025 09:24

i don't let dogs in my house either.

My friends all know that, anyone else? if they ask beforehand i say no, if they don't ask? they don't get in.

Silverbirchleaf · 23/12/2025 09:26

i’m a dog owner and I wouldn’t expect to be invited in with my dog, without prior arrangement.

Goldengirl123 · 23/12/2025 09:28

I said the same the other day. Why do people have to take their dogs everywhere? I wouldn’t dream of turning up at someone’s house with mine

Paganpentacle · 23/12/2025 09:30

Grumblies · 22/12/2025 23:10

But no one had any expectations of the dog going in your house... You've just straight up made stuff up so you can start a thread about why you don't like dogs?

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She never said she didnt like dogs.
She didnt know whether her friend expected to come in with the dog. Thats the point of the thread....🙄

Grumblies · 23/12/2025 09:35

Paganpentacle · 23/12/2025 09:30

She never said she didnt like dogs.
She didnt know whether her friend expected to come in with the dog. Thats the point of the thread....🙄

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If it had been a genuine enquiry then there would have been no need for the last line of her first post.

The last line was deliberately included to create a specific narrative.

SerendipityJane · 23/12/2025 09:42

The other bit was added because I find it strange that it’s now ok to take dogs places that they didn’t used to be, shops only ever used to allow assistance dogs but that all seems to have changed.

Market forces. With plummeting footfall, you have to take what you can get. They will have reached the point where attracting dog owners outweighs rejecting dog sceptics.

Dapplesun · 23/12/2025 09:44

Maybe she tactically brought the dog desperately hoping no one would invite her in to chat for ages… 🤔

YANBU to not invite dogs in.

Periperi2025 · 23/12/2025 09:46

Maybe your 'friend' deliberately bought the dog along so that she wouldn't have to spend too long with you!

Screamingabdabz · 23/12/2025 09:50

It makes me smile when posters moan about “another dog bashing thread” no mate, it’s not the dogs, it’s the entitled owners who think the world revolves around their dog.

Op, don’t give it another thought. She was the presumptuous one, so you have nothing to feel guilty about.

SerendipityJane · 23/12/2025 09:51

It makes me smile when posters moan about “another dog bashing thread” no mate, it’s not the dogs, it’s the entitled owners who think the world revolves around their dog.

The tyranny of the majority, really.

DappledThings · 23/12/2025 09:53

Screamingabdabz · 23/12/2025 09:50

It makes me smile when posters moan about “another dog bashing thread” no mate, it’s not the dogs, it’s the entitled owners who think the world revolves around their dog.

Op, don’t give it another thought. She was the presumptuous one, so you have nothing to feel guilty about.

This thread starting with one dog owner standing on a street with a dog not in any way trying to go anywhere the dog wasn't welcome. OP not only decided the person definitely expected to come in even though they never said anything of the sort and extrapolated that one person not expecting anything to all dog owners expecting something. That's absolutely dog owner bashing.

Chiseltip · 23/12/2025 09:54

1980isitjustme · 22/12/2025 22:48

My friend came round yesterday to drop something off but had her dog with her. I had been getting everything ready for visitors arriving to stay and have no pets - AIBU to just have a chat on the doorstep and not invite her in when it’s all clean and ready for my visitors imminent arrival? (Obviously without the dog she’d have been more than welcome).

Why do dog owners think they should take their dogs everywhere these days??

You don't own a dog, or any other animal for that matter, they are living creatures. You take care of them.

And, if you have to ask "why do dog owners think they should take their dogs everywhere these days"? Then you obviously aren't someone who understands my first sentence.

Why do parents think they should take their children everywhere these days?

KimberleyClark · 23/12/2025 09:56

Pistachiocake · 23/12/2025 00:33

People should ask before bringing anyone (human or otherwise) round IMO. Still remember the friend who brought her coworker who emptied my fridge in 5 minutes, the friend who let her kid smear stationery all over the house, and the one who wanted to bring a very scratchy cat arounf. Lots of memes will tell you that for Millennials, pets are like Gen X's babies, and plants are Gen X's pets. Seriously, some people don't want to leave pets outside, and to be fair, a lot of people let their kids make more mess than their pets do.
On the plus side, there was the story of the woman on the train who had a dog and a baby, and she always got the carriage to herself, because people didn't expect her child/pet to be as perfectly quiet as they always were, so the anti kid/dog brigade don't always benefit!

Was in my favourite local coffee shop the other day and the woman on the next table had her baby, and in the seat next to her sat a dachshund. The dachshund was so cute and very friendly. And well behaved.

Vaxtable · 23/12/2025 09:57

I am a dog owner and I wouldnt invite anyone who turns up with a dog in either