AIBU Should dogs be invited in?

[1980isitjustme]

My friend came round yesterday to drop something off but had her dog with her. I had been getting everything ready for visitors arriving to stay and have no pets - AIBU to just have a chat on the doorstep and not invite her in when it’s all clean and ready for my visitors imminent arrival? (Obviously without the dog she’d have been more than welcome).

Why do dog owners think they should take their dogs everywhere these days??

So dogs and children are the same ?

When FIL brings his dog, he leaves it in the car. I wouldn’t want a dog in my house.

It’s fine not to invite her in. Most of us dog owners understand that not everyone, wierdos like dogs , and we definitely understand the ‘just been cleaned thing’.

Heck, my dog doesn’t get beyond the boot room at home until she’s been cleaned .

So I doubt your friend cared. Also, as pp said, I often taken my dog as an excuse not to go in, or stop too long.

I wouldn't invite someone else's dog in. Mine would be extremely unhappy.

If I am dropping something off and want to be quick, I purposely take my dog to avoid being invited in! 😂

Absolutely not a chance would someone else’s dog come intI my house - and I have six of my own.

yes that must be it. Have a lovely Christmas.

Just to clarify, when I asked whether my friend had walked she said no and told me that she was just going to the supermarket when out so there was no walk/park/vets involved.

I’m with you op, I don’t want dogs in my house - which is why I don’t have one myself!, I’m not letting anyone else’s in!

I actively encourage people not let me in with my two as they are usually caked in cowshit.

I'm with the OP - and I'm a dog owner. I'd never take my dog to someone's house.

I was going into a hospital yesterday and a woman with an excitable toy poodle on a lead picked it up at the entrance walked in and went into a lift. I don't know if it was a therapy dog as it had a red harness but I thought they should be calm dogs not mental balls of fluff.

You spoke to her on the doorstep and that’s fine.

I don't have dogs (and I'm not dog friendly!) but one friend with a dog I always invite in as she is so well behaved (dog not friend), maltese, well trained and don't shed. Friend is also well behaved if you were wondering!

You are asking if you are being unreasonable for not inviting your friend into your pristine, pre-visitor sanctuary while house was in its sacred, "before-the-invasion" phase, an ephemeral state of perfection that a single wet nose or shedding coat could shatter forever... Really?

The answer is yes, you are SBU (Slightly Being Unreasonable). Not for keeping the dog out, which is understandable, but for the subsequent level of psychological analysis you are performing on a ten-minute threshold transaction. They expected the doorstep, you enforced the doorstep. Mission accomplished.

And yes, dog owners take their dogs everywhere because their lives revolve around the animal's bladder schedule. And I would have done the same, because it is an established truth in the Dog Owner Constitution that any errand less than 45 minutes long, combined with nice weather, automatically qualifies as a "walk." And if it's a walk, the dog must attend.

Had you planned for her to come over for a bit or was she just passing and dropped something in?

If someone had just dropped something in and we hadn’t discussed them coming around - then I wouldn’t invite them in regardless of if they had a dog.

But if we had planned for her to come around in a way where she’d stay for a drink or something - then I’d be annoyed she’d brought the dog.

It sounds as though so hadn’t planned to be invited in as she was on her way to the shops anyway.

I am a dog lover and would absolutely invite a dog into my home but I also agree with you about people feeling the need to take their dogs everywhere.
I have seen so many dogs being taken to carboots, Christmas markets, busy shopping centres etc and I think it’s just cruel.

@1980isitjustme you obviously felt uncomfortable talking to someone at the door. That's entirely your problem and an opportunity to start yet another dog hating thred.
I bet your friend didn't give 2 hoots about not being invited into your pristine home.

I have dogs and if I’m visiting a house with dogs, I would ask (in a way that makes no easy) if the dogs would be welcome. In a house without dogs I wouldn’t even ask. Why on earth would a dog free house want my idiot dog in their house 🤣

She's not wrong though... we have people expecting to bring their (non-service) dogs into GP consultations FFS.

No, don't be ridiculous. Dogs are better in every way.

It sounds like she didn't expect to even be invited in. When I do Christmas card drop offs I always take the dog and often have a chat on the doorstep. Do you often make a big deal out of day to day activities to paint normal people as problematic?

But they probably simply didn't expect to be invited in. Simple

Yep
Complete drama about a non event with no expectations

Most dog owners I know myself included do not expect people to have my dog in their house. Even if she was a little put out she’d be used to it anyway & maybe she had little time so your visit was integrated with her dog walk. Busy time of year & tbf having a dog who needs walking isn’t ideal

I've voted YABU because it doesn't sound like she even wanted to be or expected to be invited in?

Maybe she brought the dog to avoid being asked to come inside?