AIBU Should dogs be invited in?

[1980isitjustme]

My friend came round yesterday to drop something off but had her dog with her. I had been getting everything ready for visitors arriving to stay and have no pets - AIBU to just have a chat on the doorstep and not invite her in when it’s all clean and ready for my visitors imminent arrival? (Obviously without the dog she’d have been more than welcome).

Why do dog owners think they should take their dogs everywhere these days??

I don’t invite anyone in who’s just popping round, dog or no dog. I only invite friends in when we’ve arranged a catch up.

Nope. No more than if I didn't have the dog with me. Dropping something off means just that, not dropping in

That is odd, driving round and bringing the dog to the door, does seem as if she wanted to bring it in, I've got dogs and know which of my friends I can do this with and which ones I can't.. I wouldn't just take dogs round to someone's house who doesn't have them.

Have you had the dog inside before? You just didn't want to this time because you'd just cleaned etc?

If you've never had the dog in your house before, then it is very weird.

Definitely not unreasonable! I can't imagine why she would think this was ok without asking you first? My dog is the only child I will ever have and I would never dream of turning up at a friend's house with her, expecting to be let in without asking. Absolutely no harm in saying you prefer not to have pets in the house.

Why would you not just leave the dog in the car if you were going to stand on the doorstep anyway?

Definitely not unreasonable! I can't imagine why she would think this was ok without asking you first?

Why would she ask if she can quickly get the dog out of the car while she drops something off?

My dog would go mental if you shut her in a car.

Even for a minute.

I would do this. Don't like leaving the dog in the car. It isn't the least bit presumptuous because none of my actions mean I'm expecting to be invited in. That's all in your head.

Because she's never been left in a car and might freak out.

Honestly the narratives being created here are just daft.

Literally all this women has done is drop something off and instead of leaving her dog in the car she took it out and walked it with her to the door.

Depends how far away I'd parked. My dogs fine in the car, but round here you'll get some busybody reporting you on facebook if they see a car with a dog in it

No it’s never been inside before but I definitely did feel it was expected.

How long were they on the doorstep?

It ended up being about 15
minutes I guess

You’re lucky. My SIL calls at our door. I open it. And her little, um, darling races in past me. Usually straight into the living room and onto the sofa. I do not think this is acceptable, but DP doesn’t want to fall out with his sister because she’s a bit scary, so the dog gets to charge around our house like a demented roomba for an hour. I just close as many doors as I can. Thankfully our stairs appear to be too steep for it.

I would never think to take a dog inside of someone’s house, especially if they don’t have pets themselves, but I’ve definitely noticed more people doing this and taking dogs absolutely everywhere (indoors).

Yep, weird.

Of course YANBU to chat on the doorstep and no matter how much you keep pushing how entitled you think your friend is and how rude they made you feel, it sounds as though any pressure to come indoors was entirely in your head and not one being pushed from her.

It’s absolutely fine to take your dog places and accept they won’t be welcome everywhere, which it seems your friend is aware of and abides by. If she’d insisted on coming indoors then that would have been different.

No, I don’t leave my dog in the car, so I’d bring him out of the car to the door but wouldn’t expect to be invited in especially if I was just dropping something off.

If it wasn't a planned catch up and she was only droppjng something in, she may have just wanted to walk the dog while she was going out and wasn't expecting to be invited in.

Then your dog has some sort of issue, which your friend no doubt would be aware of and probably wouldn't think twice about you bringing it to the door?

I've got dogs, always had them and I would only ever leave them in the car, if the car was parked outside the house while I'm standing on someone's doorstep, but they are chill dogs, and usually take the opportunity to have a snooze, otherwise I'd leave them at home.

I would never specifically take my dog to someone's house to make it stand out in the cold for 15 minutes so I could have a chat to someone.. driving there and going to the door with a dog definitely gives off an expectation of invitation IMO.

It doesn’t sound like she was bothered about being invited in? A short chat at the door and she was off.

Errrm no, not all of my friends know my dog hates being shut in a car.

I mean why would they? 😳

And standing around in the 'cold' (not that we know they did, as it was 10 degrees here today) really isn't a big deal for them, even if it was snowing they'd be happy.

Dogs should be tied up outside while the people talk inside the house.

Wondered when you would show up.