Things my DH has found to do while we are trying to leave for Christmas

[Bluebells81]

6hr car journey to PiL today. Thought it would be good to leave in morning. Stop for lunch etc So got everyone packed and ready yesterday, or so I thought...

So far DH has filled the morning with:

1. Buying special fuel for garden tool.
2. Filling said tool with fuel on allotment.
3. Buying Xmas present for child that I could have bought yesterday if I'd known he hadn't done this.
4. Vacuuming (he never vacuums under normal circumstances)
5. Winding DCs up with playfighting to the point that everyone got sent to separate rooms.
6. Buying (separate shopping trip) extra food for pet and present for next door neighbour.
7. washing and drying a load of laundry.

I can't even pack the car because he keeps using it for his errands.

There is no end in sight to this sudden domesticity. Nearly 1pm... still a 6hr journey ahead.

Yes, I saw me. I want to leave the house as good as I can especially if people are coming in to animal feed or plant water. I realised, late in the day(!), how much stress it was causing g DH and have moderated somewhat.

Me and my partner both have ADHD and we both do this. It is awful. I have such anxiety about packing/leaving to go somewhere. It seems to me there is almost definitely a psychological reason of some kind for the husband doing this, if not a condition like ADHD. I feel so much sympathy for both the husband and OP it almost hurts.

ADHD can explain why someone struggles but it does not remove responsibility when other people especially kids are affected. It is not fair to get children ready, have everything prepared and then leave them waiting for four hours because of his list of jobs including vacuuming which he never usually does.

Is this what he is hoping will happen?

Possibly!

What is it with men ? I lost it when I was running around like a headless chicken ( as usual at Christmas) and my husband decided that the most important job was to sweep the drive where 3 large cars would be parked !!!! Who cares, who would notice?
We have a new drive which he decided needed 3 of those security posts which have to be lowered and raised manually every time we use a car😖

He doesnt want to go does he

Dad was the one who did that.
I think cleaning my the car was the most common - I remember mum driving it away still with soap suds on while he tried to hose them off, but the funniest was tidying the airing cupboard. The airing cupboard at my parent's house is a small room. Apparently we couldn't possibly sleep comfortably away knowing how untidy it was.
It wasn't untidy, merely not sorted quite as he liked.

Victim blaming is not very helpful, I'm afraid.

I feel you may have misunderstood the situation or have similar issues to the DH to divert a very very clear case of control and manipulation and aiming your aggression towards the OP.

I apologise if I have misread you.