To be sick and tired of being asked where I am from

[Playdoughy]

Just that really.
I am not from the UK, I've lived here a good portion of my life, my child was born here, my husband is also not from the UK (different country than me), and every single time everywhere - restaurants, get-togethers, parties we are invited to, standing in a queue, riding a bus, paying for a book in a bookshop - I really do mean everywhere and every single time - we both get asked where are we from - nicely and in a friendly manner ofcourse.

Now, to be clear - I am proud of where I am from, I don't mind talking about my country, a lot of beautiful things to say. I also don't expect people to assume I am from around here - I am aware of my accent 😁 so it's not like I am 'offended' that I am recognised as a foreigner...
I am just simply tired of the one and the same conversation every single time, day after day, all these years. If after my response I get - 'ah interesting I was wondering about accent' - fine, topic finished. But 90 percent of the time this goes into full conversation - Oh interesting, so what about xyz, how is xyz, do you xyz, how do you xyz.

When people engage into these conversations - does it really never cross their mind that this poor person you are about to interrogate about their roots probably gets that same question all the time and maybe just maybe is tired of it.
How about a good old weather themed conversation? Or asking about where I bought my bag, or recommend a movie, or simply rant about the ridiculous prices... anything but - 'so where are you from?'
And yes I know that the default answer to my post may be - 'If you don't mind me asking but - where are you from?' It is not even funny anymore.

Also is there anything I could potentially do to communicate that these questions are not exactly welcomed, without being rude or sounding like I am trying to hide something or being a weirdo.

''There's no false statements, those words are taken from your posts, in context.''

(Dropped this part of message so pasting here:) No - again it's wrong conclusions from you. I said that people that ask may not be aware that such conversation is draining and boring (for me). Conversation - not people. You said in your post above how I called people boring, rude etc. If a topic is draining or boring that doesn't make people that start it draining or boring. Surely there is more to everyone than a random topic that someone (me in this case) finds boring.

How can you not see that your conclusions are driven superficially. (That doesn't mean you are superficial btw, all I meant is you tend to make rushed conclusions).

You're going round and round in circles and using a lot of words to say but very much. I understand what you mean, and I've explained several times you are perfectly entitled to feel however you like.

If you read carefully, and not just the posts agreeing with you, you might understand why I'm saying you're unreasonable. But you don't want to hear it, and so I suppose you must carry on claiming that it is everybody else that doesn't understand, rather than accept it.

Hm... "You're going round and round in circles and using a lot of words to say but very much". I'll just leave it there.

@Playdoughy OP, thank you for starting this thread, it was an interesting discussion and eye opening in a lot of ways.

Well that escalated quickly.

Yeah this is so racist. it's not 2020 anymore.

Im a Muslim revert. Im very white British. Im from Kent. Never have i ever been asked where I was from until I started wearing a headscarf. Im now automatically seen as foreign. Doesn't bother me really. And I get the same question very often when out and about as I guess I confuse people.

But it is a valid feeling @Playdoughy sometimes it can be interrogating. Depends how it is asked and the following ups!

It doesn't bother me and I answer. It annoys my kids though! Their dad's middle Eastern but they are all as white as snow blue eyed and blonde like me. So it does confuse people. 🤣
Dh gets asked all the time too. But he loves it. So horses for courses really.